Transcript When You Are the Other Woman
Transcript When You Are the Other Woman
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Welcome to real raw with dr. B, this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthen their relationship with God themselves and each other with 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for real roar with dr. B.
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But of course they cannot be gauzed. They haven’t
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Dealt with themselves and all of us have issues that we need to fight with. All of us have problems that have sidetracked us and made us feel unloved and all those negative stuff. So, so that’s why this is real raw with dr. B. That’s why we are here. That’s why we’re trying to give you a better way of getting this stuff done. So the day subject, you probably have never heard of this subject before you probably never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever heard it said before the other woman.
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Yeah. Yeah. This podcast is for the other woman. Okay. So understand what is the other woman? A lady, if you ain’t married or engaged or not the girlfriend of the dude, you messing with you and the other one, you have a woman. Okay. You are the, I know you may not like it, but you are the side check. Okay. So again, I’m going to speak and we’re on Facebook right now and you can definitely send us your, your comments now keep the comments.
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Nice. Okay. Cause I know some of you wives out there want to know we ain’t going to do that one today. All right. I own talking to the other woman. All right. So you are the side chick. Okay. You have lowered. Okay? Okay. You have lowered yourself. Okay. You have said to yourself, I don’t deserve my own man. Okay. You have said to the world, I don’t deserve having someone that belongs to me.
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All right. And so, because of that mind frame, a you’re not getting the full effect. Okay. Again, those on Facebook. If you send us a question, my executive producer minister, Henry B enemy will give me the question and we’ll answer it for you. But again, you are the side chick you on the side, washes. You’re not in the front, but this is good. We’re going to be good. You’re not in front.
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You may be in the back. You get dead tomorrow, but you’re not in the front. Okay. You don’t have his government name. Okay. You’re you’re the children that you’re having from him to the world to God, that legitimate, but to the world, they are illegitimate. Why? Because you allowed yourself to be played. Okay. That’s a good word. That, that, that’s a, that’s a real good word. Okay. You allow yourself to be played. Now, some of you saying yes.
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I didn’t know that.
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Well, you should investigate, right? You need to investigate. Okay. Okay. You know, and investigate me, investigate me. You know what? Before I get involved, let me see who you are. Okay. Before I understand all the ramifications, all the things in your life. I got it figured out who you are. I understand who you are, then. There’s a good possibility. You’re going to get me in trouble, down the road. And I don’t want to catch. Okay. What’s the see where people w what’s the C word? Yeah. I don’t want to catch your case.
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Okay? Okay. I don’t want to catch a case because I got involved with you and you didn’t tell me things that I should have known. All right. So again, you are the other woman. Okay. And you have to say, you know what I deserve? What’s the B word. Come on. What’s the B word. People you deserve what? Yeah. You deserve better. Yeah. Okay. You are not a concubine. Right? Let me explain what a concubine was. Back in the Bible days. The other woman who the King dealt with, wasn’t a queen watches.
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Now she would never be the queen. Never be the queen. All right. Okay. Watch this other woman. You’ll never be the queen. Okay. That’s deep right there. Okay. Don’t you want to be queen other woman? Don’t you want to be okay. Okay. Let me tell you something. You deserve to be a queen. Okay? But that’s wrong. It’s already taken that seat next to that, man. You messing with that’s already taken.
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Okay. So your job is that, you know what? I deserve to be my own queen. I deserve to have my own King. Now, now some of y’all know this and some of you may not know this, but in chess, I saw Sally helped me out here in chess. There’s only one. What? King? And one what? Queen? They know two Queens. There are no two Queens.
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Okay. There is a change. Okay. That there is something that there is only one King and one queen. So here you are. Other woman, you are trying to be the queen, but you can’t because that man already has a queen already. He’s made you a concubine. Okay? You don’t have him. He does not belong to you. God forbid. If he passes away, guess who gets all the money. Hey, it ain’t. You <inaudible>. Cause you’re not the queen.
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Alright, so, so, so really this is not trying to denigrate you. Okay? This is not trying to beat you up. I’m trying to raise your standards. Oh, that’s a, that’s a good word. EAP. I’m trying to raise
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Your standards. Okay?
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Because the reason why some of you are the other woman, cause you never had a father to tell you That you are a, what? A queen. Okay? Young lady. You didn’t have a father to tell you. You are worth something. You are not the garbage heap. You are not recycled. I don’t hear nobody. You are not someone that’s on the street corner. No, no, no, no. You are a queen. And because you are a queen, you should always have that man treat you like a queen.
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But again, there’s only, I want someone to help me here.
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There’s only, only what I say only one queen. Okay.
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Okay. Next time you see that book. I’m sorry. I’m sorry. You got a little more next time you see that young man. All that old man. Okay. Stop it.
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Young lady.
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You don’t even know sugar. Daddy. You know that man is old. That man got one foot in the grave and one foot in your house and there. And then they ain’t got another foot in his own house. Okay? Okay. You don’t even know sugar daddy, huh? No, no, no, no, no. You I’ll get, I’m trying to raise the standards of women here. You are not a sugar. E a I’m sorry you call people a sugary. I just met board. Oh, okay. That’s not who you are.
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That is not who you are. You are better than that. Okay. There’s only one queen and your job is to have your own. Your job is to have your own King do only one King, one King. One thing. My fiance calls me every now and then. And she may say, bless her. She says that she calls me King. At that time, that tender late mottoes had had 10, the Lake motto. Cause he’s like, listen, I’m your queen and you’re my King.
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Okay. But right now, can you say that? No, because you don’t have, you got somebody that don’t belong to you. Alright. Alright. We won’t come back with segment. Number two, as we go forth in his book, single ladies get ready for your men. Dr. B teaches women on how not to settle for less than what they want
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Hey, this is doc the B. I want to give you some behind the scenes people. I am working with the phenomenal, the one and only, and thank God he belongs to this church. And he’s, he’s one of my spiritual sons minister, Henry B enemy. He’s behind the scenes. He’s a great podcast person to get involved with. You can’t use my time to when he’s with me. Okay. All right. So, so I just want to let you know that’s how good he is. All right. So we thank God for minutes to be here being enemy. And when he does behind the scenes for these podcasts, all right, well back to the other woman.
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Okay. Now other women, not that I’m about to say, okay, you are trying to become the queen and you can’t. I need you to leave your wife. I know you. Ain’t going to leave his wife. You know why it’s called alimony. And I know about that. Okay. It’s going out. I ain’t speaking in tongues either. How ammonia, okay.
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He’s not gonna leave his wife. He’s not gonna leave his children. Okay. And I know you are trying to force him to make Oh, okay. See, here’s the problem with being another woman. Okay. Other woman, hear me loud and clear. Oh, here I go. Lord. Help me to say this. Right. And I want to get on Facebook. Okay. I’m using metal. I’m gonna use a medical term since I’m also a sex coach. Okay. That may only got one phallus. You ain’t got to.
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Okay. That foul is, is only one only one. Okay. You only got one. He ain’t got two. He got one. You got that. Okay. So since he only has one, I’m trying to be so nice. You’re trying to make him Lord have mercy. You try to give him a, a post circum, CISM and say, you know what list of out into any strange?
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No that’s are any man in his mind angle on his thing. Dividing the two. Okay. So you’re trying to make him an app. There’s only one <inaudible>. So here you are trying to take a C that’s already what? Occupied. Okay. Okay. Other woman don’t do that. No, not, not, not hear me. You trying to do this and I’m telling you right now, it is not going to work.
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Okay. It is not going to get you to the place where you want to be at again. You deserve to be a queen, but not in that kingdom. Well, that’s good right there. That’s good right there. So you deserve right to be a queen, but not in that kingdom. That’s not your kingdom. That’s not your husband. That’s not your house.
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That’s not your car. Okay. And so I’m trying to get you to say, I’ll get, I’m trying to raise your thinking. Do not subjugate yourself to being the other woman. Do not accept that role. I know you are used to being in that role. I know you used to being in that place, but that’s not. Okay. Okay. I’m sorry. I’m I’m I’m gonna put a church word on you. That’s not your God given role.
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Okay? That is not your God given role. That is not your God given role. Your God given role is to have your, what start with Oh, your own. He’s not yours or what’s that thing. EAP. Where you go to the place in you. You, you give, it gives some and they give you money back to hold it. And you got to buy it back.
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Start with a P C E P smarter than me. That’s he knows all the words. You are not a pawn. You’re not a bond. Yeah. Alright. So, so could make up a word eager, duh. Okay. You get there. Have you got a name? Let that Lord pray right now. Eat enough. Alright. Are you on the pawn shop? So I’ll see you on Mondays now. You know, I got a family, but I see you on Monday now.
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Other woman, I hear you loud and clear. Well, at least I got a man. Ma’am I’m sorry. He ain’t, he ain’t a man. He he’s an ass. He’s not a man. Well, you know what? I’m tired of being alone. I’m tired. I got ya. I know you’re tired of being alone, but I’m telling you right now, you being in his pawn shop.
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Doesn’t work. Cause I got news for ya. Can I tell you, you show them to tell you, You sure you want me to tell you? All right. You ain’t the only one.
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Huh?
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You ain’t the only one. So you think he has his wife and just you really, really? You, you really think that he’s just experimenting with you. You really think that other woman, well, I had to tell you this there’s another woman. There’s another woman. And then probably another woman after you and another woman before you. So I’m here to tell you right now that man.
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Oh good. Somebody got really mad. Good. I’m sorry. I’m just trying to tell you what’s going on. He probably got three minimum. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Well, you know what a, you know a baby, you know, I love you. Listen. Love is an action word. I don’t put that down there. Love. Love is the word
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Action.
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Okay. Love was the action word. Okay. You just don’t just, don’t say you love somebody and nothing going on. No love is an action word. Okay. So I’m trying to encourage you to get to a better place. Alright? I’m trying to encourage you to say, you know what? You deserve better. Again, this is not trying to bash you. This is trying to raise your, what your consciousness
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Raise it. Raise your mind.
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Alright? Okay. That’s my job for you today is that you cannot stay in this place and expect not to have any.
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I say the C word consequences now is
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What I heard. Cause I always been a King. I ain’t never been a queen, but here’s where I heard those Queens. They know how to fight and let the white find out me. Oh, she knows. She don’t really don’t know. <inaudible> not a true wife. A true wife may March herself down your place.
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Do you want to catch a case? Okay. Watch this. Okay. Okay. Got the question. Okay. Be ready for this commitment
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Guys. Your question is that man commanded to you. Other woman, he’s only coming into you. If, if, if, if, if the ball was about to drop, would he pick you or pick his wife? I don’t hear nobody. SI. SI SI SI, SI SI me. I’m trying to tell you. You give him everything. I mean you give him the cookies. You giving him milk and cookies.
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You giving him everything. You give him the Apple pie. You give him him the chocolate chip, double chocolate chip. You’re giving him a dairy queen. Low dairy green is good too. I mean you giving him a red thing. What? He’s giving you. Okay. Other woman. Oh, I got some guys right now. I feel that spirit DOP you’re messing me up. I’m so glad I’m messing you up. Cause the stuff that you’re doing and ain’t right, you ain’t living right.
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You ain’t living right. Ladies. You have committed everything to that, man. You have committed. You committed your body. You come into your mind to that man. But if that man coming into you, I’m telling you right now, he ain’t committed to you. So the thing good, good tapping on gone. What his allegiance is to his wife. Even, even, even if she does know the allegiance is to his wife, never to you as a woman.
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So I really want you to focus on that, that C word commitment. I know why you find yourself in here. You think you can’t get no better. So you decide to be a, a rent, a woman for these men. And I’m telling you, that’s not good. You are not a concubine. You are not a streetwalker.
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Come on somebody.
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You are not a prostitute. You are not a harlot. You are a woman that God has something in store for you. And what you are doing is not going to help you get what you need to be at. It’s not going to help you. And I want you to raise your standards. Okay? How many kids have you had by this guy? How many? You said four. You said four and you still with them? Really?
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Okay. You know what? I gotta take a little break. Cause I’m about to say something in that segment. You ain’t gonna like it. All right. We’ll come back with segment. Number three.
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This is dr. B. This is segment number three. I hope you guys are enjoying talking about the other woman. One of our Facebook fans said so many words. What did she say? Hinder being there. What did she say, sir? She said, he’ll never spend time with you on the holidays either. Yeah, that’s right. Other woman, your, your, your mama, your daddy, your cousin coming over. Where’s your man.
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Where’s your man. Where’s your man. Aren’t you tired of that? Other woman? Aren’t you tired of that? You should be tired of it. Now this last segment I’m I’m gonna come at you. Okay? That man is manipulating. You. You are allowing that man to manipulate you.
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Okay? He has made so many unfounded, nothing to hold on, promises, excuse me. And here you are holding on the promises. He will never cash. In other words, he gave you a check and there ain’t no money behind that check. Well, that’s good right there that there is no money. There is zero money behind that man’s words, zero. And so my thing with you, I’m trying to encourage you not to be there anymore.
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I’m encouraging you to say and so many words, I’m tired of this. I’m tired of being manipulated. I’m tired. You lying to me. I’m tired of you making promises that you cannot keep up
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Promises.
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So I’m going to get this right. You’re upset. He can’t keep a promise to you, but you forgot. He didn’t keep a promise to his wife. I’ll play that one more time again, because maybe y’all didn’t maybe y’all didn’t get it. So other woman, you upset with him for not keeping a promise, but he already told you he don’t keep promising because he didn’t keep it with his wife or his girlfriend.
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Does that make sense? Somebody. Alright. I got people calling me now for counseling. Praise. God. All right. So what I’m trying to tell you right now, you are trying, I’m sorry. You trying to get a man to keep a promise that don’t keep promises. What do you call those dance of a pale pretty water in, right? He put one in the pail, right? Bucket.
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So intelligent. But I’m saying the bell, he said the crack, where is bucking and he’s right though. Tyler talking about a pair. He said no, puck it. Alright. So this guy let’s make you another woman. No, it is. You know what really is? He’s a bucket with holes in the bottom. I wish I could draw, but I can’t draw that well. Okay. So here you are.
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You put water in and the water is coming. What out directly? Why? There’s no, there’s, there’s nothing in there. Nothing in there. And you upset with him because he can’t keep a promise. Really? Oh really? Oh really? Okay. Well he can’t keep promise. He, he kept with you. If he didn’t keep the promise with his wife, how do you spend to keep a promise with you? I don’t have somebody right now.
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Okay. Okay. Aren’t you tie it for lying for him?
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Yes.
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The child is three years old. That’s your uncle go? Daddy? I’m sorry. I got loud there tat y’all daddy. I’m sorry. How come cousin? How come cousin Barry sleeping in bed with, you know, dang, Olmsted. You lying. You’re lying to your own child. The identity of his father.
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You are lying to your child and you think that’s fine. You, you think that’s cool. You, you, you think that’s okay? No, it’s not. Okay. So what hopefully what I’ve said in this segment, and I know some wives says some wise, some fiances wanted me to beat you up. Listen, here’s the bottom line. Tell that man, go home. Cause this ain’t your home. Okay.
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Tell that man. Yeah, I know you can find somebody else, but guess what? You’re not a chicken head. Okay? You are not that you are better than that. Tell them to go home. Okay? Okay. Tell him, you know what we’re done with this? Okay. 2020 is a year of clear a vision. Okay? 2020 is where I’m learning to think differently. I’m learning to do things differently in my life, 2020. Is that all right? So since 2020 is that, you know what? We’re doing things different. We’re not doing things the same old way. We are not doing things the same old way.
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Does that make sense? Somebody here, it makes sense to me. Hold on. I said to me why? Because we’re not doing that no more. No. Why not? No. We’re not doing that. We’re not doing that. No, no, no, no, no, no more tell that man to go home. Cause that’s not his home.
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Last point.
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Most other women ready for this were cheated on.
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Okay?
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Most other women, you, the other woman, you are not his wife. You are not his fiance. United’s girlfriend. You just other check you on the side and guy you’ve been cheated on and the bottom line, you never healed or I’m talking to somebody right now. You’ve never healed from that affliction of the original guy. You never healed, never healed of homosexual abuse. You never healed because you haven’t been healed. You have been diluted.
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You’ve been affected in a very negative way because you’re trying to get something that doesn’t belong to you. The bottom line. What I’m trying to say to you, young lady, that man does not belong to you. The, the, that dog don’t belong to you. Okay? You deserve to be and to have the best. Okay? You dealing with that man is not making the best. Plus you are jeopardizing your wife, your life.
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You don’t know if his wife is Cray. Cray. I can’t spell Cray Cray, but I’ll do the best I can. Crazy. You don’t know. You have no idea that the, his wife could be Cray Cray for those who are not in the Obama mix as crazy. Okay, stop it.
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You don’t understand. And you don’t want to be in that position. Okay? Last thing I’m going to say, you know what? Stop being in that position.
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Okay?
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There’s purpose in you. Okay? There’s opportunities in you. No. So what I’m saying, there’s another season for you. You understand that you are intelligent. And when I wrote here and understand there’s purpose inside of you, there’s opportunities waiting for you. You are a of a new season for you. You are intelligent.
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Katy is time. It’s trying to move. Okay. It’s time to move on. It’s time not to be in that, in that position anymore. It doesn’t. No, no, no, no, no, no. He moves down the position again. You, you, you, you’re not going to stay there. The other thing is you have a very powerful IQ stub bringing down your low, low IQ to be with him. Since that stop making yourself feel well, I can’t do because he’s the best. I’ve got the old occupy.
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<inaudible> learn to love yourself. Occupied your own side time. He ain’t here. Well, guess what live? You, you, you you’re you’re you ended up bad place. Aren’t you tired of being the other woman. Okay. Aren’t you tired of having the N stands for negative. Okay. Okay. I just brought up position. P is purpose old opportunity C as is season I’s intelligent.
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T is time I’s IQ always occupy in his aren’t you tired of me? Negative. Hold. I spelled that right. EAP. I think I did. Alright. Alright. So, so all I’m saying to you, it’s time for change people. Okay. It’s time for a change. Okay. And I pray that you will look at and do things differently in your life. Okay? Do not be the other woman ever again. Lastly, I’m not saying Matthew.
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I fired time. Okay. Come on. Down with him was up. Well, he told me he getting a divorce. Well, hear me loud and clear. Okay. I did not make my, my, my fiance, my fiance or my girl. No, I’m sorry. I let me go. My girlfriend until I showed her my divorce papers. Yup. Shall enough did, how about this? My fiance, Porsche shoe with me every step of the way one went to the court.
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When I turned my papers in of course she wasn’t there for my lawyer stuff, but she was every step of the way. Every step that she saw. Why? Cause she saw my, my wasn’t one of them for my passion to be with her. But I couldn’t be with the, unless I first got what divorced and some of y’all got these guys playing. You got these guys playing games on you.
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It’s been 20 years. It don’t take 20 years. Get a divorce number. You want one? So after I got my divorce, that’s when I asked Porsche to become my girlfriend. Okay. That’s the way you do it. You do, you don’t play nugget. You don’t make a commitment to a woman when you don’t show your, let me start. Cause I can go there that you do not. Let ladies hear me loud and clear. Do not commit to a man that does not commit to you. I would say one more time. Again, do not commit to a man that does not commit to you.
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All right. My time is up EAP. The, the, the baritone voice you were here would be of the only one and only a Henry. Mr. Henry being enemy. He’ll give you some information how to sponsor us to be in contact with us. Alright, until next time.
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