Transcript Too Much Investment to Let Go

Transcript Too Much Investment to Let Go

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Welcome to Real. Raw With, Dr be this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthened their relationship with God themselves and each other with 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw With Dr be hello, dr. B again.

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Yeah. Wow. Do it back to the back. Podcast here will be in my Podcast or no more than 15 minutes long. Lots of say. And now it’s so much to cover. And so instead of me taking the whole half an hour, an hour to cover one topic, I just brought it down to 15 minutes. So I have a couple more topics. Anyone wants information? We doesn’t come in to see me. So this is a major issue with a lot of single women. There’s been much to let him go, well, I got news for you. If he wants to go, the investment really didn’t stick.

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If you put an ad on him, but he pushes it right out. Its kind of like not to be too graphic, but he has the emotional runs or you have to be honest, they just it’s just, UNH, daddy have eaten some. And so you eat it. You in the back, we’ll have to have a lovely long conversation. Well, that’s exactly what has happened here. You’ve invested two or three years, some of the, all of these purchase card to purchase things that he wanted.

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You wasn’t an investment and you weren’t sure the MoMA. Yeah. You did not know that this guy that you invested two, three, four, 10, 20 years with really shook him up. Why? Because you will give it to him whether he was not getting that day up. Okay. When you are in that mind frame with that relationship and that is a relationship, but it is an unhealthy relationship. Okay? So here you are giving, giving, giving, giving, and he’s not giving back, giving back, giving back then. Why you social prized of the effort and why are you so surprised with wow.

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He wants to leave me now. Yeah, because guess what are you dressed up? You made him a good person. But the bottom line is he was treating like the sugar he was taking from him. Now, ladies, please hear me loud and clear if he’s asleep right now, don’t hold up. What are you looking at your own man? Right now you are not married to him, especially. And he just snore her after he finished playing Nintendo while playing Cheerios in his robe with lights on someone in the car out there is not in his name or your name in the cell phone that he’s hiding his numbers.

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Wrong is in your name that is describing the check him out. Not yet. And I don’t want to hear this today. Y’all may not want to hear this today with the Too. It is the Too is the tool that you are giving to a man who is not really giving back. Okay. Now I do have a business degree in Florida and university. Yes. Strike, strike, strike again, but that’s all of the model. So just the middle. So I don’t have a business degree. And in business you always look for a return. It’s called ROI. I wasn’t in the way they counted, but I knew the song or I, what is it?

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Return of investment. That means whatever I give, I should have to get something in return. Now, ladies, if you are constantly seeing yourself give, give, give, give, can I say, give and give, give, give, and nothing’s coming back. That’s a horrible ROI or terrible ROI. Okay? Something has to change. You cannot stay in an ROI that is not giving you a good rate of return. Now you are giving him the stuff. I didn’t tell him on the cookies either. Are you in the good stuff, but all he wants to leave me. Well, please learn your lesson and let them go.

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I know this is not a popular point of view because many of you on the side of a voice or are in that place or you embarrassed, you know, it’s been 20 years. She hasn’t given you a rain. He’s had two baby mommas while with you a and the ESC he’s with you because you comfortable he’s with you because he knows you’re going to take him back. So all these things are signs that you aren’t given to somebody that’s not giving back yours. Okay? So we need to check that.

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Okay. We need to rethink this mind frame. Why? Because he’s not helping you out in one of my books or go to the guy. It is the last line. I mean, last rope, first of all, to intimacy, it’s like the second role of his theology and the books of theology third row, which is of course my book on our relationships. You’ll see. And see one, two, three, four, or five in the fifth book from the left, single ladies, get ready for your map. So in that book, kind of like I’m going to be in a fall to you and tell you things what to look for a and to be aware of because this person is saying that yeah, you invest it.

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But again, nothing’s sticking, nothing’s staying with it. So that’s on call the problems overall. That’s that’s not going to help you guys get connected to anything is going to get what, just connect it. So it’s really understanding of the parameter, what you’d have. And some of you think that, well, if I give him his cell phone, not by that Nintendo station or the police station, you or not by that, you by that and get a car and see the fit of the day. I’m sorry.

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You wanna find him a young man or man, I’m going to give that will be give him. And yet there is no. If any of us about it, ladies on the bus out, sir, zero. And I’m budgeted from this either. Why? Because you invested, let him go. Why? Because you have learned some of the essence of what not to do the next time around what’s the bottom line, right? They are learning what not to do, because again, you saw how you gave and, and lastly be honest, you know, it wasn’t working and it was just, yeah, my man, Oh, maybe in the morning, in your mind, maybe your boy in a different cause a man gives back with the woman, gives it to him.

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Matter of fact, and atomically and atomically, the man gives his young son, the man gills. So when the man gives the woman the receives, well, the problem is in the law. Well, the women who are opposed to their men, what’s your deal with, you know, this is when in 2010

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You don’t want to train him and to do that. That is not good. That is not good. And you have officially become the shutter Dr well, he wasn’t up to the pole to have a, to that side of things, right? Getting shots in the fall, you got to shut those things off, right? How much am I starting things up, right? Then you see a better conclusion, but you got to do things differently. You cannot do things the way you see it. You got to do things different. Why? Because you keep getting in the same results.

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So hopefully now this is going to take time to, to get passes. Definitely will recommend my wife portrait. Gee Brantley. She is the transformation coach. She was a lot of catch words to help you to figure out why am I holding on to this guy? Come eat him and left me and I still can’t get him. I says, I understand because you have invested in them. I used to that investment vehicle. Alright, but again, they’re not ladies to be honest ladies, to be honest for what you put in to this man, what are you getting out? What are you getting back? What is the return on investment?

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All right, this is not to be, there will be guys in Georgia. As of today, they encouraged stay with the God. Normally information is my email. Dr B is real@gmail.com. My website Dr T C brantley.com. Got to the GC brantley.com. Contact us at two or three seven five three seven three seven seven. And those are my place in the cities. Listen, this is not about popularity for me. This is about helping the Bible’s of my people. My people perish, for lack of what knowledge. So I’m just trying to give out of God’s giving me that learned the hard way.

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