Transcript Sexual Disparity

Transcript Sexual Disparity

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Welcome to Real. Raw with Dr B this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthen their relationship with God themselves and each other with 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences, with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw with Dr B

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The bee is not Podcast Real Raw With Dr D and thank God again, for this enemy in me behind the scenes, making sure goes out well, you know, he has his fine tuning to what I do here. So today’s topic is Sexual Disparity Between couples. Now this is something that a lot of couples are suffering with because they’re not being real with them, with each other, or they are actually low Loring. They are libido to match their spousal leader.

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That’s a no-no. So now Sexual Disparity let’s let’s let’s put a definition to it. Share show Disparity is very simply one spouse. The husband has a high libido or sex drive and the wife has a low sex drive or, or the wife has a high sex drive and the man has the low sex drive. And you’d be surprised. They are a lot of women out there. Yeah, they got their free God. Yeah. And the husband hasn’t caught up to where the men and when I married are you attended, you are quiet and now you open and, and that brings a negative mind-frame to the marriage.

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Now hear me. So here’s the wife being open to the husband and being more sexually open, wanting more, just want to be for lack of a better word. And I’ll keep it nice on Facebook. She’s wants you to be an older brother. That’s all. She’s the one that you to bend over real good. And you’re not into it. You’re you’re you’re saying, I don’t think I should do this, whatever. And that will cause a Sexual Disparity of all the husband likes Pacific saying done to him. You know, whether fellatio fun example, I’m using clinical terms, but I don’t want to keep it on Facebook and the wives.

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Oh, well that will cause Sexual Disparity alright. So how the couples do that? How’s the couples fix that very simple. Have conversations have conversations about what? Why is it? Do you think the libido was low? Now I will tell you off the bat guys, if you consistently beating them up with your mouth in God will be with your hands. The gravy train ain’t chugging. It ain’t, it ain’t, it ain’t jugging because for women, they need to be emotionally stimulated. Now there are some women out there. God bless them. They don’t need no emotional stimulation at all.

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They just want to hear it and quit it. And, and ladies that messes up a guy’s mentality. Why? Because he’s not used to his partner or his wife saying to him, come on, give me some it out. His mind is like, well, what’s going on here? Why? Because he’s used to, in other words, you flipped the script. He’s used to doing that. And then here you come saying to him, come on, do me a duvet, right? It’s not a song anyway.

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So this causes a lot of friction. All right. Also, if you’re not careful, this opens the door to affairs. And again, we are not giving anybody a pass. I think that was a movie couple of years ago. Get your ass to do that now, but open the door because there’s a Sexual Disparity and nothing is going to be done to fix it. So in other words, there’s a bridge. Okay? There is a bridge that the husband and wife must complete. There is a, an issue that must be broken down to the point that we can bridge this by bridging this issue.

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Right now we can walk across the bridge together, meaning the middle and handle our business. You know what I mean? By hand the business. But if you are not doing that, then the Sexual Disparity is going to weekend. The relationship is going to understate. Make sure there’s no comments here. He will be made with comments here. That, that, that is going to erode. We all know that kind of constant drips of water here. MI constant drips of water will erode a rock. You didn’t know that digital. Yeah. Yeah. Constant dripping will erode the rock.

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Well, if you are constantly stain on the Sexual Disparity it’s gonna roll the relationship and then you open the door to somebody else. Now this does not include who starts sex does not deserve, does not include where the husband and wife who starts sex. Okay. This does say whoever starts, it starts it. The other partner who didn’t start it, ride with you girl. Welcome. Right? You guy, you got me. All right. So hear me. You, your libido may be down. Okay? Okay. That’s one strike.

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Okay. Strike two though, which is even a severe strike. Hope you got to hear me today. A more severe strike is that your wife starts it and you’re not going to the game. And not in other words, she brings, I don’t want to see the back of the bat, but has a bad. And I’m saying, ah, on the men and have the bat. Okay. No, I mean, no strap on our own. And the man got the bat. All right. So she brings the gloves. She brings the ball. She brings her on the basis. She, she, she, she, she, she, she, she rents out the arena.

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She gives an announcer. I mean, she got all the stuff, all the tapestry of the game. And here you say, app, I don’t want the plaque. That will cause a major problem. I have with somebody right now. That’s going to go to the middle of the problem, vice versa, and all the guys with everything, right? You gave him 101,000 lists of things to do, but you to have sex, which I have that. And he completed a hundred thousand and one plus one, and you sort of know, okay, that is going to cause some severe problems on the board. No doubt about it. So not to be, how do we get past that? Definitely communication, you know, yesterday, the whole connection.

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And that is the word. God the therapist. Then now you’d be surprised. I wrote a book. Let me see if I have my books in here real quick here. Yeah, I do. All right. So if you look at the first row or the intimacy, it’s the second book blue book to, to your right, the top list. And it’s called about marriage bed unfulfilled. Now in that book, I talk about how men, as they get older, have more mental connections to their phallus penis.

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All right. And then that more mental connection. And when that’s not done, sometimes they cannot stand your attention if we know not insane. So again, this brings more Sexual Disparity now here’s what is very interesting about couples? Let the house go, broke plumbing, lighting, going from electric to a pellet furniture in all of the sun, all the amenities that go with the house, couples will Jack up their home Depot.

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God you know, they will Jack up their Lowe’s card. I mean, they will judge you, but they will try to fix the Disparity in the bedroom. I was like one more time again. So they will fix disparities in their home. They will fix that. Disparity in their home, physical home, something breaks. So I need to get fixed. How about this ladies and gentlemen, some of these B to something needs to be remodeled. There is no, there is no expense that will not be mad to do that zero.

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So if that’s the case or you’re getting this, and that’s the case for your house, that is not a home, then that shows the lack of attention that the marriage is getting. I tell them in all the time, one of the mistakes I’ve made in my first marriage was that it was all about money, all about money, money, and mind. And it was all about money versus understanding that my religion share with the wife should overpower or equal the relationship with the money.

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I didn’t do that. There was a Disparity. Okay. Okay. Hope you guys getting the theme here is that when there is a Disparity with a couple Sexual mental, emotional, whatever, you’re going to, not four to five, the relationship does that make sense? Right? Because how can you fortify the relationship by doing that? You’re not Raw because there is going to be a constant Disparity it’s going to be a constant problem. And if there’s constant problems, you will need constant solutions. But if you just bring them on problem, the more problem, more problems than that’s not going to help. So the Sexual Disparity, what’s the point where the day here has to be addressed in the home.

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Okay. The sexual Disparity has to be address the data. There is no why, because again, you are feeding other disparities or you are fixing other disparities, but you’re not really paying attention to the one in your bedroom now again, how do you know, how do you understand this is the frustration, the, the, the, the, there’s a, there’s a definite disconnect. Now, church folks. I know you don’t wanna hear this because again, we haven’t been taught this. We’ve been taught. Sex is wrong. And because we will, the sensor’s wrong.

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Even bringing it to the marriage bedroom, dude, and no sex. It’s not wrong in the marriage, but no Lord, thank you, Jesus. No, he does not wrong at all. All right. So, so it’s really getting to the point where you’re going to say, we’re going to fix this and we’re not going to be bound by this. One of the things I always tell couples that is amazing to me, that people who have an affairs, they have no limitations, zero. They go after and they get it, get it, get it. Y’all don’t know me. I’m being very nice.

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Very nice. So hopefully mom, that dozens conversation with each other tonight, cause say, you know what? We need to address this last point. You know, you have a issue when you guys are no longer mates, but roommates, I will say that again, you are no longer mates, but your roommates. In other words, you got all of the tapestries. I mean your relationship with your roommate, you know, Y the sexual Disparity has overwhelming or the whole block helped somebody today.

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