Transcript Sensual and Frustrated

Transcript Sensual and Frustrated

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Welcome to Real. Raw With, Dr be this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthen their relationship with God themselves and each other with 25 years, as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences, with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw with Dr B.

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Hello. This is a doctor to be, you know, I’m, I’m a marriage therapist, relationship therapists, and I help couples stay connected 25 to eight. And a simple combine is coming out with that later on, maybe in 2021. Because again, when you don’t have a connection with your mate is going to go sideways all the time. And now I’m not going to be here a long, just about 15 to 20 minutes, just to go over this very important topic of Frustrated and Sensual, this is something that some guys don’t understand. Please help us ladies is that we don’t understand that a few guys to really be involved sexually in the relationship.

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We can not consistently be dolled or the woman can not be because of the dogs by the man. Ah, and then expect the women to be sexually aroused. That is going to be a problem. Because again, there is something that society that says you want me sexually, but you Frustrated me. You are full of questions. You don’t trust me. You always have points of argument that you don’t want to be with me. You’re constantly threatened divorce, separation. All these things are not good.

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These things will, that are being placed in a relationship that down the road, we’ll call it a disaster. Why? Because look, would you put in into the, the formula now? Okay. Let’s let’s just to buy intimacy. One of my favorite subjects, of course. So here you are trying to love, you are try and get close, but you putting something in the formula, sir, as a mom, I’m talking to you for example, to go to the females. So, so, so, so you just accused her, okay? You accused her of doing something. You choose a cheating, your accuser, what’s it going to be your accuser?

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Okay. So right now, now all of a sudden you want to have sex after you accused her, okay, that’s now how a woman brain works. It doesn’t work that way that you used to accuse me. You just said I was having sex with your best friend. You just said, I will live in somebody’s house. And I got to that same address that you said I was doing some of that I’m right here. So that right there is going to cause a dilemma. And that right there is going to cause a problem down the road, especially sexually one of the many complaints that some of my I’m a female clients have with their husbands.

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Is that not a one minute he wants to get on top of me and the next minute he wants to destroy me. And this issue is not good. It doesn’t build a framework of love. It. Doesn’t build a framework of connection without a framework connects you. You have nothing people, okay. Without a framework connection, you have nothing. So I’m constantly Frustrated I’m, I’m constantly accusing you. I’m constantly saying I don’t trust you. So a woman’s brain says, sir, but you don’t trust me. Why you, why you want juicy fruit? Why do you want that? Okay. So again that put you in a bad light.

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So that that’s, that puts you up in a place that you should not be in. Why? Because again, you putting stuff into the formula, please hear me, gentlemen, you putting some of the formula as a man that this guy keeps talking about instances, guy, he’s talking about connection. I’m tired of it. Well, I’m not tired of a lie because I see the same thing. And over and over again, let’s talk about being accountable. Okay? So all of a sudden now, you know, you start being accountable, you stop, you know, telling her where you go in and how you get in there. He totally stopped. That just totally stopped it. Not doing it in the morning, doing it.

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And, and you want to read why she’s not happy. Okay? You want to try things that are not being done incorrectly? Well, well, that’s a good reason. The reason is probably because again, you have a, I can say you breeding negativity. You use your breeding. Okay. Now what is, what does breeding do? So glad you asked breeding is Zachary. It is, you are bringing something forth that you, you bringing something into that. The, the, the video, the, the, the, the arena.

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So whatever you breed is what comes for. Yeah. So if you consistently breed, negativity told that as a tool, that woman, and you keep destroying her in his Sean and her and the story. How did I say that? The short and the shrine, her, why you saw the surprise that she don’t want to leave with you? Why are you so surprised that she didn’t want to please? You sexually, you know, a woman, you know, only gives what she gets. So she, so if she’s constantly being tormented by your words, in the accusation, okay, she’s constantly being placed in a place of uncomfortability.

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She is not going to be sexual with you guys. I know this is this. This is privately. Jack’s your mind up with the truth. A woman cannot be intimate with a man that is constantly saying and saying that, well, he did this. I mean, she did this. And she did that. There’s no way that a woman does not function that way. Now. I know you wish they function that way, but they don’t function that way. I don’t preach. Call me tomorrow to serve, preach, preach, come in tomorrow. But we cannot function that way. All right.

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And yes, sir, it definitely goes vice versa. All right, please. You’re telling me to go to the other way around. So this was the other way around. So, so, so ladies being the man constantly tell him he’s no good. He tell him, he just like his father. You tell him that you like a deadbeat and he’s not a deadbeat. And you saying all these nasty things toward him, and then you want to say, well, I want to have sex. No again, people. Okay. That’d be just graphic real quick. Okay. Would anyone want to have a sex environment listening to <inaudible> to have sex?

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No. So no one wants, no one wants to have sex in vomit. No one wants to have sex environment. Nobody. Okay. So if no one wants to have sex environment than the same ideology works in a relationship, if you will constantly beating, not saying, thank you. Not how you doing ms. Lewis, dr. Lewis. I should say if you’re constantly having this mind frame of negativity. No. And you know, it, it’s kind of like a switch off switch on. Well, none of them done told you you no good and told you that wasn’t didn’t none of these kids are yours.

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That was jacked up a GA all this negativity I used to have to say and not having it because the stuff in the pot that is infecting the mind of the receiver. Again, it is amazing. You know, when you come in drunk and one don’t, you come in a belligerent, one view of cursing each other out. Want to use a Saint, all the types of negativity there. All you want to have in gypsy. No, no. She, my reaction, no, you know, in my first marriage, you know it Hala yellow screen let’s have sex.

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We shut that down now. No, we’re going to go on strike now. No, we can’t do nothing. Now. Why? Because you put some in the pot. That’s Jack mural. Okay. Plus I’m in the pot. The Jack me up again. You put in it in the pot. It’s Jackie me. It’s making me feel unloved. Okay. So, so I just left my job, right? The people that nasty told me, people were saying all types of the negativity, dormant. Now come over to you and you tag team to be this tag team, a job. And you continue the blueprint. You continue the negativity.

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You continue what I left. That’s not a good look with that. That is not going to help you and your mate become connected. Why? Because you’re putting something in the pot. You put in a negativity there. And of course the more you put the negativity of there than the less you’re going to feel good. The person I’m talking about now, again, frustration in the sec Sensual is also a sign of selfishness. Explain that to me. I will. So, so now you want to have intimacy. Okay? You just to share the person that you want to enter the seat. Okay. You looking from your perspective and then you don’t get it from your perspective, but now you want to be active, but you had to deactivate it.

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You got that. All right. So you just deactivated and now you want to be active. Okay. Now you want to be, let’s get, let’s get, let’s get out that. Not part of the world to do. Why? Because you put something in there and okay. Just like, I don’t want to be, I won’t get kicked off of Facebook. So I’ll be kind of nice. So you put your file list in front of him. Alright. You, you put the matrix a in front of him. All right. And that gets their attention, right? Yes. That should. Okay. Well, before the matrix and before the file is you put the negativity. Yeah.

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Okay. Yeah. Dr. Lewis said that he has a very hard for women to, you know, now you put all this negativity and, and now, and you want me to buy a, pass it, all the negativity, bypass all the words you’re saying bypass all what? You said that wasn’t never could be nothing. And you’re going to have sex. This is due directly to what happened to slavery. Yeah. So the slave master said that the, the species was animal, but yet they want me to have sex with the females.

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Hmm. Well, if you call the person in the animal and you having sex with the animal, if that makes you a BCL T, doesn’t it God. So, so you just called your wife, you call your husband all the types of names on and you just ran it down. I mean, you called me everything. Still got to do that. Sub that’s not even in the dictionary yet. How are you doing, Joanne? How are you doing auntie? I mean, stuff like stuff that even in the dictionary. Okay. Yet. Now you are going to take your time and just try to take your time and beat somebody up.

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<inaudible> going to take your time and you’re going to dismantle think about it. All right. So watch this. So the argument, if you think about it, it’s nothing but a little bit about dismantling. You are dismantling your mate. You are dismantling that man. You are dismantling that one. Okay. So now if I’m a thought and everything and dismantle, okay. Everything, everything is dismantle, right? Everything is a piece of a dead beat, the dead because of that. Okay. These are the way now ever have dismantled. And you and said, you know, good.

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I don’t want to have to ask a man. I go back to article. Number one, you just dismantle. You cursed her out. You yelled your screen. You broke the last support. I mean, the plastic you just broke for the last phone. They talked the last phone and he’s putting everything and be a ride to go out. And you dismantled her. You dismantled him. And that was to have sex. Nah, not a bra, not happening. Why? Because you are frustrating the person. And now that you’re Frustrated person, the person cannot and will not have sex with you. They can’t <inaudible>.

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Now men can do that. And there’s a woman. We have that gift too. I don’t think it was a gift of that. Now, you know, now that you have said these types of the things to me now let’s get busy. Frustrated in central is an issue it’s happening all over a miracle. Why? Because people are not seeing that another good point about Frustrated and Sensual, they’re not seeing how they all finding the other person purchases, trying to find that person is yelling. The person’s going off. All right. Because your hurt them. You have totally destroyed them. Right.

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And you think everything’s fine. And you say, what’s wrong with June? Well, nothing was wrong with you. What’s wrong with God for and wanting to be with somebody. And, and again, how petty are you, right? That you, you have no sense of what you’ve done to somebody. You have no sense at all your, your, your, you have no sense of what you’ve done with that person. You have no sense of focus yet. You still want production now, a good BMW a one day.

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And we’ll have a set of saying a good BMW, you know, a brand new car to go to 60, 70, and a lot. Okay. Six to seven year. Okay. You can’t come with no dollar BMW. You can’t. And then that, that it has to be a specify, a, a specificity of what you bring to the table to get what you want. Okay. Good, good, good. That’s fine. But you didn’t have to go. So, so, so here you are coming to the lot with a dollar and you want a, an eight series in a very nice too. We want to eight series a I D and James God bless you Terrelle, or how you doing?

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Okay. You want the newest BMW on the lot. When you got a dollar, what can I tell you? Your wife, your spouse, the significant other feels the same way here you are. You want the best of me, but what do you just give me the youth? You just told me you just an hour later or the next night. Now you want to say next, and can we go deeper? Some of y’all don’t even apologize. You just tell them to go to the turnover. You tell the guy, give me a file. Is there the apology?

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<inaudible>, there’s no sense of urgency. There’s no sense of, ah, I’ve heard my spouse no sense at all, zero. And then you just go with the light. I knew about it. No one got no problems. That’s a very, very selfish, ah, and that will not get you far at all. But why? Because again, you’re doing things from your own perspective and doing things from your own mentality, you do something on mentality. You’re going to have bad results. You’re going to have bad results. Why? Because you’re not understanding there is a cause and effect.

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I’m almost done. I only have 20 minutes of this. All right. It’s causing the fact that you’re not understanding that what you did caused a major pain in your spouse. And while you’re trying to get up to the trousers pants, a tear off your belt, then if the issue that was in the socks, you’re a person that you love is dealing with the pain and just cause all the making sense a process. But, but some believe they did nothing wrong because they have a right to be upset. Yeah. A very good to a point a bra, a breach in a way that they are so into what they doing, sorry, what you are doing. And they will say what they’re doing. And I was a classic pharmaceutical or a pharmacy or a self-righteous mentality.

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I won’t see my pain. I won’t see what I bring to the table. I have the same that you bring to the table. And now I’m going to consistently put you in a very bad way. That is not a good, healthy, and neither will help you in your spouse or supposed to be whole. But to say something the day about frustration and as a child that I will buy, I get a different perspective that maybe you have not ever seen before that some, you know, I’m I’m author, I’ve written all glory to God, 24 nationally bubble’s books, a books on intimacy. That was the first row of books on theology was a second row. And the book of relationship, which is the third row, all in on the books are Amazon eCommerce, amazon.com bought the nobles.com.

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All began. You were blessed by the day and I’ll do 20 minutes with my podcast that I have to Podcast. Now I have one for a relationship with one for a long apologetic. So whole you will bless hopefully this insight into why she didn’t give you a nun. She didn’t give me a number. You mean given, and that kind of was in the air. All right, I’ll do the next time. Be blessed. Be encouraged. God bless you please. Oh, hang on ms. Cook. So it’s not all men, but some men are great at compartmentalizing and to have a horrible argument, but can still proceed with sex. Yes. Something that can do that instead. Doesn’t make it a right.

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Just not a good thing that comes to that point. I’m sorry. Dr. Lewis. A lot of people can do that, but that’s not the right mentality to have. Okay. God bless you. Leave your comments. The dart, dr. B’s real@gmail.com com bless you. Bye bye.

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