Transcript Pay the Bills

Transcript Pay the Bills

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Welcome to Real. Raw With, Dr be this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthen their relationship with God themselves and each other with 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences, with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw with Dr B hello.

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And this is a survey and Dr. B to B back, this one can be a little tougher than brothers. I’m a terrible, and I’m going to be a little bit tough for the brother going to be a little bit tough for all the brothers. A little bit tough with the brothers. You know, I am 55 years old and by the grace of Darren and just old-fashioned in a certain things, you know what I’m saying? And I just want to say if a man is in your life, in your life exclusive, I’m just old fashioned.

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Y’all pray for my strength alone and see what I tell them to gloss over the money to take my glasses off to me, I’m very serious in a main God, and you got the Man last name. Ah, and he went all that hassle a about changing your name. So it’s a curity passport driver’s license. You don’t all the hassle. And then you asked him and then that’s the problem, right there. Any main worth it? Oh, I’m getting in trouble with this. Any man with his grain of salt that you have to ask him to take care of a bill problem.

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The problem now, you know, a, you know, there’s the goal, 50 50 on the Bills. Whether it’s a mortgage, I don’t care that Man better pick up a bill, especially if he’s, he is a real struggle. We got for a minute. Now, now, if you can pop a tag over your shoes and pop a tag off your shirt and your jeans that you brought a a thousand dollar jeans. If you can pop tags, then you bet a pop a bill.

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I’m sorry. God I know guys, you may not like what I’m saying. Well, Dr. Bay, you know, she, she thinks she all that. I don’t care who she thinks you is. I don’t care. Your energy is the key is you’re the Man sir. And you pay no bills a little, you eat steak lobster, flaming your own. Every time y’all go out and you don’t pay none. Oh, now Jesus paid it all off, but you going to pay some, wait a minute. I I’m just very, I got issue with that.

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If I do, if, if a woman is in your lives or she in your life or a reason I ain’t going on in between your legs either. Okay. Because between your legs don’t pay bills. I mean, she, she can’t take what you got in your lane and take it to the light. Bills Hey, this is the payment. Oh, she can’t take one between your legs in it. Take it to the bank for the mortgage payment up a Hill or a payment on number one that she does that your dad. Okay. I’m just putting out that I do about that. So, so well, or not to be, you know, you know, I put it down.

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Yeah. I mean, you put it down, but putting out some twenties and put down some 50 to put down some 10 and put down some money to pay these bills and a half DG. So do you want these kids, right, sir? Hey, you ain’t playing for none or no. You being selfish. Yeah. I know you don’t want me to say that word cause you knew it was, he knows about the roll up. You’re going to roll off my list. Nina. Okay. Being selfish, you being so, and you cannot do that on a regular basis.

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You know what I’m saying? You cannot say, well, you know what? Yeah, there is no way you can do that on a regular basis. You can’t, you can’t do it on a regular basis and expect to be the man. And you said, well, we don’t lock her. Or you know, she don’t show respect. Man I, the reason I show respect. Sorry, the Bills. Yeah, but you got to be in charge of something Man and, and, and when I’m on like that, I mean, I’m about to say something.

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I’m trying to figure out how to say it to you. Yeah. If you don’t want to go to ask you for money for every single cotton picking leak on the system. Jesus’ name. Amen. Ask for money. Every cotton picking week, something wrong with that. I mean, she got to ask you for money. You don’t get it now. Okay. Here. Man some of your middle laid off. Okay. And some you want for a little, some you, the man got you that if you were still getting high, if he was still in getting drunk, okay.

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You still going to New York regularly. If you, you are consistently buying items to pop driving a car don’t dare take money and utility in your girl. You don’t how funny? Really? Now as the younger people say, you got a pocket.

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Yeah. You have a pocket. Yeah. You, you got a pocket because a man should take on responsibility to their home. Okay. Not totally. Cause it is a partnership. So, but Man should be doing the sun brother. So on a plane or a Tinder all day and PlayStation all day. And then as soon as your wife come home or you’re going to come home and you scratching your butt still in your Mickey mouse shoes and instilling your Mickey mouse robe.

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And she goes, you walked in the door. You asked her, Hey, what’s up bro? Mm mm. No. Good. I’d ask that. Now, some of you, men who have never seen that, some of you, men who have never seen or a father figure, so you don’t know. Okay. It’s time to be taught. That’s probably the rest of your training. That’s why they come to the register in China. Right? Because my job is the train. I have a job. They help you. Right. But again, how can someone help you if you don’t first recognize?

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Yeah. In a movie with the Man district into a little a flight, he was in that’s what? I was a uni, listen, I need the help. I got married. I was 21. I ain’t know Jack Jack about math a hundred all the way. And that’s why I love my job as a therapist is to help couples stress than men do better than men. But I’ll tell you right now tells you right now. One of them very important ingredient, being a man and learned how Bills so you won’t hurt everyone else.

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You help everybody, you know, a family meeting or Jesus or, Oh, you help your momma. And I brought your mom <inaudible> emails. And I probably have a model with your wife or your significant other does the mall for you. Now, the mom will ever will. You know what I’m saying? So I’m just being real with y’all that you cannot be in a relationship and you do know all this stuff and your brother is paying all the bills.

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No, you cannot do that in a, in a, in a sound mind, you, you cannot be happy with your wife paying all of the Bills not to man. No, no, no. Not a true, true man or a true man is going to do what’s needed to take care of is family. Oh, you going to do with needed to make sure the supplies. They’re not no. Some minimum want to hear it. Some you women are spoiling them in a way. Yeah. You spoiling them a you letting them know you don’t have the word. Really. Can you find the same women that asked him to marry you?

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Right? That’s a whole nother issue. No, that is not conducive. And that is not helpful for a relationship where you are allowing the Man not to be the Man right. Or you give them a free ride and what is going to happen in one day, you may lose your job. You may get sick and because you told them and then you spoiled them. You tell them about it. Don’t worry about it. Well, when you get sick, he will say, you told me, don’t worry about it. Okay. So hopefully this helps someone today that sir, you got tags to pop.

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You can pay some Bills okay. You can, you can, you know, never let my wife, I work in me. Never. I’m sorry. I’m I’m I’m no, she married me. Okay. She has, my last name is going to own a ship. It’s called responsibility. All right. Now I don’t know who may be blessed by this, but as a therapist, if you want more respect in the house will build your pain. Okay? Not just her having your last name and your not just her saying, Oh gee, you know, she’s all over the years.

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The main squeeze, we will go deeper than that. Okay. Well God bless you. I know it’s a little tough, but a needed as my email. Dr B’s Real at gmail.com. Our website is Dr T C Brantley dot com as well. You’d give me a call at (203) 753-7377, four offices in Connecticut and also a virtual of course. And you have a subscriber on my Facebook or Twitter and YouTube people will be encouraged. And a brother, you know, just, just, just, just, just having you been in it, which is a high. And you’ve been in the bedroom having your business’ at the light bill.

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Got it right. The next time.

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