Transcript on Marrying a Virgin
Transcript on Marrying a Virgin
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Welcome to Real. Raw with Dr B this nationally published author and pastor has made it his life’s work to helping people strengthened their relationship with God themselves and each other. With 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw With Dr B Oh my goodness.
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We Marrying a Virgin. Yeah, yeah. If he said any out there you answer is yes. Now a version and I’m come both a, both ways, a BR a version Virgin a an hour, a counseling point. They are a unicorn. In other words, they’re very hard to find that that’s, that’s the truth. That they’re, that they’re very hard to find.
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Now. Now I know some people believe that they can get it sewn up again and all that, you know, get sewn up again. Eh, I ain’t even know Virgin Oh, don’t mind those that have never had any type of intercourse sex, the hymen using the technical terms. So y’all don’t report me to Facebook. The hymen has not been broken God and so you have a young lady who has kept herself for her husband have kept herself for her mate.
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And so, you know, so let me talk about the woman perspective, the type of a demand perspective. God so ladies, congratulations. I know the devil sent them six foot, five, five foot, 10 muscles, all over a big old pot belly. They came at your evangelists and prophets. The Lord told me I was here. I know you fought though all your fault with a, you, you haven’t met on your job.
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You know what? Command consent girl has a new one. Not have sex yet. The it’s the animalistic instinct Guinness. It’s a, it’s a, its an animalistic instinct in a and you have fought on the mall. Congratulations. Alright, you, you got for a good fight. Alright. Okay. Well I’m getting trouble with that. Alright, so you fought a good fight. Proud of you for doing that. I know your mom and dad are proud of you that you, you can really wear, wear, wear a white God a lot.
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I’m getting some clips. You can really, you can really wear a white dress. You can really wear with honor. Really wear it. Whether you know what? I am presenting a, my virginity to my husband. I am presenting this to him. Now, when you tell him, I’ll tell you right now, you don’t tell them after the marriage, new, new, new, new, new that the brother. No.
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Okay. He’s special. Do not wait until after the marriage. You know what? No, no, no. Let the brother know your special. Cause you said I’m giving this to you that no one else has had. No one else is touched. No one else has seen it will be, Hey Brittany. No one else has been around in that zip code. No one has been, no one has been With no one.
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No man has gone before. No one, no one on bros has been there is your gynecologist. That’s as much of a Virgin you are, but let the brother know. Do not let them know on wedding night. Noon. Noon. No, no knew why he call us. I T so funny. You want him to knows the truth on him, right?
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Well, if you want the truth from him, he needs to have the truth from you. Now. Some men cannot handle on a unicorn ladies that ain’t no problem. All right. Now I’m talking about men versions. Cause I was a man. Virgin when I got married and my first marriage was a man, bro. I ain’t know nothing. I’m trying to give me a Marrying. You will what’s this.
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Leave it alone. All right. I know Virgin now I got two kids and I got married. So you know, I know Virgin okay. Stop it. Brantley alright. So, so really is letting him know that what you’ve given him is special. Okay. Let him know what he has is something and no one else can say, okay. So, so again, you are giving him something brand new. All right. So the key is, you know, when you get engaged and you told them that again, even before you get engaged, I don’t don’t don’t don’t don’t don’t tell them on engagement.
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Hey, didn’t tell you why, because you’re not being truthful. Right? Where to begin. You’re not being truthful. Let them know now please don’t go ask them. Well, how many girls you’ve been with go that may scare you. He may be Real Chamberlain. Well, you know what? I stopped counting at 900. Okay. That may scare you. Right? So don’t ask him how many women have been. With just make sure you’re going to STDs and got 5,000 baby mamas. I think you said. All right, but don’t go ask him, ladies. Hear me. I’m trying to help you.
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Don’t go ask him how many females he’d been with a long and getting STDs. Alright, well STI don’t have over five baby mamas. Don’t ask me. You want me a man with good. It may scare you. It, it may scare you. It may like it may scare you. So, so again, let him know that you are giving him something that no other woman can give him.
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Okay. Now, why don’t you tell him that then my advice to you and him must go see your gynecologist together. Okay? Does that the engagement? Of course. Alright. You’re gonna want the brother and you’re not engaged on the gun kind of heat run. No, we don’t do that. All right. So together now when I got together, because I think he needs to understand that that night, the honeymoon night, it’s going to be very special and he, and he has to take his time with you.
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Okay? Now I’m also a sex coach as well, and is very strategic. That first time with you, because again, your body is having a foreign object and I’m trying to be very nice. There’s never had before as totally foreign. And your brain is going to have to address. This is going to have to adjust.
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Oh, I’m having sex now. Now why is this important? There’s some of y’all don’t hurt all your life in church. Sex is wrong. Sex is wrong. Sex is, sex is wrong. Okay? But that’s the whole story. All right, married sex. Ain’t wrong. Mary’s sex a Raw I’m a winner. Calm down. Brantley married.
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Sex is not wrong people, right? But some of you have this mentality. Those who are versioned, that sex is wrong. So you’re already going into it scarred, right? You going into it already jacked up. Cause a preacher, the preacher man told you sex is wrong. So that’s all you hear. So on a honeymoon night, your brain is still saying, is that wrong? Am I up with somebody now a Hebrews 13, a advisor that the marriage bed is what under file.
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So I’m just trying to let you know that it’s gonna be a transition. All right. For you to understand that, okay, I’m moving in a whole nother season. I’m gonna tell you right now that brother who you married less a role with the animal. He don’t know who he is. Don’t want you to stay in that season. I know the Bible says at a time the bond and the timing to die. Well you are Virgin is a time to hold it in a time of let it go.
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Let it go. Let it go. Because he sees the change. Your season has changed. If you see them, doesn’t change. You’re going to, you’re going to is willing for you going to sabotage their relationship there with me when you don’t do right by that relationship, you’re going to sabotage their relationship.
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You’re going to kill it. You’re going to destroy it, right? Because you’re trying to deal with this. You don’t understand that the seasons change, right? The season has changed. Isn’t it is not there no more. It is not there. Yes, you have again, you fought a good fight and everything, right. But again, the seasons change. So again, it’s a mind frame that you have to do now.
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Now this is very important, ladies. Again, congratulations to you and men who are versions. I’m talking to you too as well. Okay? A God you will have a gynecologist. You have a urologist, but a man is, this goes with you too as well. You know, don’t, don’t let that woman know on what, and I don’t talk to that voice. I don’t know. I never had sex before. You know, you know, don’t, don’t say it all the way at night, you know, give a preview. All right.
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I do my for a time when we do that night. All right, so you gotta know your body. Okay? Now this has gone on the verge of some people ain’t got Virgin for me. How can your husband know how to touch you? If you don’t know how to touch yourself? All right, again, now you’re setting the points of how to enjoy your body. All right. So again, that would the night that guy doesn’t know what to do because you a version he’s afraid I hurt you.
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He doesn’t want to traumatize. And I hate to say this. I hate to say this. So a woman had been actually raped right by husbands, right? God forbid, God forbid. But again, you know, you’re trying to understand your body, understand how it works, right? All the, all the coconuts, you know? Oh your body. So it’s really understanding who you are, understanding what works, understanding how your body moves.
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All right. Honestly, I, and this touch, you know, this touch. And when you do this, when you do that in on what it is going to help do you do to help you out husband, understand your body. If you don’t understand your body, how can he makes sense about it? I makes a lot of sense. So he’s really being, being slow now. Understanding yourself, understanding your body a and then going slowly now.
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Okay. Now again. Well, Dr B I don’t know. Well, you better bring you and your fiance choice, sex coach. I’m one. Yeah, because you want that night to be special. You want that night to go as smoothly as possible. I’m not going to go into detail cause I don’t wanna scare nobody, but there are ways to make sure that nine is a very special Real Raw With Dr VI is brought to you. Buy the total relationship trainer, a ministry of restoration Springs, interdenominational church, Hosea four, six says our people die for a lack of knowledge to that end.
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What should I do? Well, I’m gone. Okay. Do you remember, you remember Joseph in a Bible, Joe. Okay. I ain’t trying to the old Testament about the new Testament, Joseph. All right. So Joseph was married to who married. And the Bible says that once he found out that Mary was pregnant, you wanted to put it away privately. Okay. Then another case the angel told Joseph the tape, the child and the mother to where Egypt, in other words, there was compassion.
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So your gonna have to have compassion. My brother compassion is very important and any manage in any subject, right? If you don’t have compassion on the subject matter, you really can’t show love. Right? Really cannot demonstrate love, because love is a demonstrating word. Okay? You just can’t say, I love you that demonstration, but ladies again, that’s my point problem about the men is that you are giving your virginity to him.
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All right? If we touch your knee and you Frank, we will have some problems. You will have some big problems. You know, if we touch you in a very nice way after the wedding and you all sudden all dessert, this is gonna be some problems. Very serious problems in the marriage. Yes. So it’s really all right. That’s why I’m saying to you having that mind frame to say that things are going to change.
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All right. Let’s see this changed from not having sex to having sex. Alright. And man, I’m going to come back to you again. And the ladies, you’re a gong lady, unicorn lady. Even when I don’t get, don’t be surprised that you enjoy it. Okay? Don’t don’t, don’t be surprised. The, after the wedding, you are going to enjoy something that has been there all along and you won’t want it, want it, want it. And your brother, if your smart man, he will never tell you.
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No, no, no. Alright. So don’t be surprised that you are going to enjoy something that God gave. Okay. So brother that you is having compassion is having the constant compassion on your wife. Again, I’m going to be careful cause I don’t wanna get kicked on Facebook, but it’s also a lot of talking during sex. Alright. Alright. So when you Marrying a unicorn or Marrying a Virgin I and I, and I say Utah on a unicorn not to put anybody down and you just saying how special you guys are.
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Cause there’s very few out there. You know, cer is talking during sex hunting. How does this feel? You want to go fast, slow is this right? And ladies to start your journey and sex. If it’s hurting you, you gotta say hunting. That hurts. Okay. Because he don’t know unless you tell him, okay, now, now, now I’m being very serious about it. Because again, many people have been totally jacked up because people didn’t understand the deal with their virginity and totally destroyed them.
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It totally destroyed them. Okay. It destroyed the man because he didn’t know. Okay. Now, now guys hear me loud and clear Gary. You not. Oh Lord, go. You’re not having sex with Becky. Okay. Please give me all the baggies out down is it is a song. All right. Okay. Yeah, absolutely. The unicorns. Now what? I bring that up. Very simple. The way you had sex with other women, don’t bring it to the bedroom.
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You gotta talk to your, to your new wife. You gotta let her know. You know what? Yes. I’m experiencing you, but that’s not going to be proud about either men. Okay? Yeah. I’m always Virgin you. So just lay on a bed, open your legs are take over here. No, don’t want to do that. Don’t do that to do a Virgin know. You want to know that? Yes. This is your body and I respect your body.
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Okay. And again, there’s a, there’s a, there’s a dance. They’re the, the, the actual essential dance that the husband and wife must do to ensure that the intimacy goes well. Right? Why? Because again, you are, Marrying somebody, sir. That’s never had it before the, the, the, the never experienced sex. They, they may have heard it from the girlfriends. They may have seen some things, but they’ve never experienced it.
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So Sur it is a heavy, not a scary, but it’s true. They have a responsibility of being her first. Okay. You hear me guys? You are her first. She will always remember you. No matter God forbid you get divorced. She will never forget her first time.
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I think every woman remember the first time Marrying was the first time know your business. Don’t ask my questions. All right. Well, my first wife is my first sex experience. All right. But every person Raw brother, this is this going to be her first time will remember it forever. How you treat me? You know, I am making them feel special and making them feel warranted, right? Or are you just going through the motions?
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Okay. So again, this is a very important subject. There’s a lot of peoples do not cover, right? They’d get the bedroom, they’d get the honeymoon, how beautiful the wedding is. They’d get the dress costs over the $10,000 for never talks about that. That night for that, for that very special lady whose having a first time, that doesn’t make any sense to me. You know, again, I said all the time, the reason why marriage has failed, cause people don’t invest.
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You don’t invest into your marriage. Right? Your, your, your, your, your, your, your, you don’t, you don’t take interest. You don’t keep it new. Right? Right. You don’t value it. You understand that. Okay? You don’t take interest. Don’t keep it new. You don’t value it. You don’t keep it. Everlasting don’t want the love. Everlasting are you.
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You don’t do that. You know, sex is not there. And Muslim walk, boldly trust. Okay. I wrote down the word, invest again. There is no doing these things. And you expect things to work out. They’re not okay. There’s no constant interest. It is not new. You know, putting a value in it. No everlasting love no sex. And it causes no truck. So all those, all of those points, Tim has a lot.
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Thank you, sir. All of those points are not going to help your relationship. Matter of fact, it’s going to decrease your reason. Why? Because you’re not invested. Okay? Yeah. I’ll go again. There is no sin as a laundry ladies. Alright. Yeah. There’s no sin. What’s your brother say, man, out there somewhere, there is no sin. And having laundry, there is no sin.
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There is no sin in lingerie. There is no sin. I’m saying again, a reason, because again, some of you have just been taught so wrong. You know, some of you’ve been taught as a Virgin. You only have sex to what procreate dealt was a lie. Dove was a liar. He is gonna have sex. He’s a pro great, okay. Sex is what? Pleasure. Don’t worry. I ain’t going, I ain’t going to Real date.
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So just, just, just hold on to your bottom. All right. Cool. Hold on your Bible. Alright. It’s a pleasure. Some of y’all been taught as I’m a procreation. Some of you again, have this teaching. I don’t go deep on your own. You know, you know, some is, let me have one of the pastors, right? I’m not against women pastors on the board because of their checkered past, because of their check it past, they really kind of come down hard on sex.
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Let me equal opportunity. There are some men pastors, all right, same thing, right? There’s a men pastors who had a very checkered, a checkered past and goes out a checkered past. They come very hard on sags. And again, days they’re not getting good teaching on that. And so people now the Bible says a lot of people die for a lack of what knowledge, you know, you may be wearing that door.
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Only the church don’t move don’t we will not die the bed. When that door only the bed. You, your not because again, you’re a seasoned has changed. I’ve been helping you, your seasons change. I know it’s very because, because again, any wife wants to please. Now, ladies, even though I didn’t clear back to you, if your a man who your dating doesn’t respect your decision for virginity, let him go.
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Okay. Are you going to pressure you and pressuring you? And I’m telling you, that’s not the guy, a guy who really loves you will what she spec your worst decision. Okay? You are Virgin right now. You know, they’re going to respect that. Not when run away from it and, and that, and not trying to take it, but they are going to respect your decision to not, to be sexually active.
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Great. Okay. Those are, those are a very important hurdle. That must never, I’m sorry. That must be crossed or jumped up a second. Alright. If he’s always trying to pressure you, not, not the guy, because again, you’re waiting again, ladies, you’re waiting to give it to somebody that is very special.
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Okay. How can he be special? Why says if we don’t treat you special? Oh, it’s not a revelation. I think revelation. I’ll say it again. How can you give somebody on this special? When you don’t treat your special, you can’t, you can’t. How can you give him something that he doesn’t appreciate? You can’t do that because he’s not giving it back to you. He’s not ma he’s not making you feel that you are very special. So you want that in your life.
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You want a man that will consistently consistently make you feel what special means. You know what? You take time out when you may not out the time, the tape, but you take it out for me. Cause you want me to make me feel special. You know? You, you, you, you know, you have date nights. Something that I’ve definitely incorporated with. My wife is going to say that, you know why?
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Because again, it’s is the consistency of being special is consistency of having things done. Right? Right, right. Because again, you cannot do this incorrectly. Right? You got to do this correctly. You got to do this the right way. Right. The right way is God’s way. Not your way. Not my way. It’s God’s way you do. God’s way sayings will work out again.
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You know, you too close to the finish line. Well, the doctor B I’m 40 years old. Well the 40 over version, there was a movie they’re not maintain. Maintain your own lady, Mary Jane, you know, someone’s going to see. And again, if it’s God’s will to, you know what you have done a and the what’s worth the sacrifice. That’s one of your sacrifice now.
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And I go, they will call you a Virgin don’t mean you gotta be mean some version of me. Now. I know why you mean because all that stuff is cloud opinion. Alright, you want to release, but don’t be me that is telling somebody I can’t buy. No, man. What you told like that, you know, bad. You talk like that.
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Maybe you can not find a man because of your disposition or maybe you are being prideful. I am very tired. And because I’m a Virgin know that that’s, that’s a Madam, a pro sir, being a prideful Virgin is not difficult. I’m sorry. Being prideful about what God has helped you to do. Yes. God help you to do that is not something that you should be prideful about.
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All mean. All right. Shouldn’t be mean about it. Okay. So some y’all can’t find nobody. Okay. Also also, if you always busy, I’m sorry. I can’t spell people were a little bit, if you so busy, the man says, well, if, if she’s so busy, will she have time for me? Again? You want the man to have time for you, right? When a man wants to know, you got time for him goes both ways.
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He wants to know. Will you able to spend time? If you in church 24 hours, he don’t want the Dr. No, don’t drag. You don’t have to put it. Yeah, I’ll go get y’all pray for me. He don’t want us to put a LoJack on your agenda. Take you, find out where you at. Alright. I don’t know what she alone. I’m trying to get my look. Oh, Jack, fine with you yet. You don’t want that either. So again, a lot of times, you know, how does it is the good there’s always going to be an diversion, but again, it’s the attitude there.
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You though, that what? That goes, what he goes with it. No Crocket pride can be in very pride. Can be in many forms. Okay. You gotta be very careful of pride because pride will destroy you. Okay? Yes. I know you’re prideful or, or, or, or proud. Okay. Okay. As I want to be proud, but don’t be arrogant.
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Okay. Don’t be arrogant. You know? Oh, look at me. You know, I have my baby daddy’s and I got that, Gary. I got that guy, but again, you’re a mentality. What are you bringing to the relationship? What are you bringing to the marriage? Okay. Hold on. Help somebody a day. Okay. Once again, this is doctor B. I’ll be at Mohegan sun. So til the 24th, this month, 10:00 PM.
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