Transcript of Married Bed Podcast Episode

Transcript of Married Bed Podcast Episode:

 

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Welcome to Real. Raw with Dr B this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthen their relationship with God themselves and each other. With 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of Married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw with Dr B Oh my goodness.

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There’s this is doctor B where we come to you to help your relationship with God, yourself and others. We’re here every week, trying to help you along the way to ensure that your relationship is Great. You must understand that my background was, I was a church boy, all my life. That’s all I knew was church. When I got married, I was 21 years old. I was up baby. I was 21 years old. Didn’t know anything about relationships at all. And uh, through my years of ups and downs and, uh, bad breaks.

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And this is what the church didn’t want to talk goop boat know about being Real about the pain that goes through in relationships. And so, because of that, I wanted to be your virtual, a relationship counsel. Yeah. I want to be the guy that you cannot wait to hear from on a daily basis. Hopefully that’s our goal. You can’t wait to hear my voice. Cause you know, I’m going to get some nuggets. I’m going to find out how to talk to this woman. This woman you gave me Lord, how to talk to her, how to deal with this man.

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Oh, this man, Jesus. Help me, Lord. If you don’t want help me, I’m going to help him, Lord. So this is the place to be and what we’ll do we’ll cover relationship topics. Get more information about me. It’s a WW dot Dr. T see brantley.com. Dr T see brantley.com. So now I’m gonna tell you right now, all right, this is going to be for a people, a maturity. Okay? If you got little children running around, you might want to put them in their crib in another room because we’re going to be Real.

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Uh, my shoulders Real Raw with Dr B maybe your thought there was a cooking channel, cooking channel. This is where we talk about real stuff in relationships. Now don’t worry. A, I will make sure a barrier don’t get at me or the FCC don’t come after me. I’m gonna keep it high, but I’m gonna keep it real. So I’m just telling you right now, you’d tell your friends right now. And he is really Real. Yeah, I’m Coming <inaudible> because, uh, our, our, our scripture that we have is Hosea four and six.

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My people die for lack of what knowledge. And we want to make sure that you have the knowledge. Cause I didn’t have the knowledge. I didn’t have the wisdom. I didn’t have the understanding. I didn’t have the premise. I didn’t have the, where, uh, the, where all to, to understand it is to be in relationship and because of my mistakes, because of yes, I got divorced too, because of all the many. And y’all don’t turn off that knob because Yama y’all got the balls too. Matter of fact, some of y’all fake it. Maybe some of y’all are woo.

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Going to need to cover for all I know. So don’t act like you ain’t got no issue. I believe the Bible says he that without sin cast the first stone. Yeah. Yeah. Alright, so that’s what we’re going to do and we’ll keep it real. And Raw right. So guess what? My first topic now, now, again, also, if you have topic ideas, you can email me at dr. B is real@gmail.com. Dr B is real@gmail.com. Alright. First topic is I write your Married.

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Okay. You are Married. You are loving yourself, your, your, your fine you’re good, but there is no communication between the sheets. I kept it high. Did I keep it? I kept it high. There is nothing going on between sheets. And you’re wondering what is going on. Well, I’m going to tell you going on, it’s a trick of the enemy. That’s what was going on and here you’re going through life. You’re going through the things of life you’re going through work. And I know COVID-19 is a whole nother issue in and of itself, but there’s no connection.

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Now. Some of you will find out I’m also a, uh, I’m a, I’m a counselor. Uh, I am licensed by the American association of Christian counselors. And, uh, so I do a counseling on a daily basis. Uh, right now I’m doing most of my counseling by video, uh, uh, FaceTime and Skype. But again, I’m finding out, as I found out in my own relationship is that if there’s no connection watching me now, if there’s no connection, you cannot remain as one. Now the Bible says in Matthew is 19 and six.

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It says that the two shall become one. That’s what it said. It said the two shell become one. And when you are not one, when you’re not a one, a cord, then the enemy steps in. That’s exactly what I said. The two shall become one. All right. Uh, it says here and by Matthew is 19 and five. He says for this, cause a man shall leave. Father and mother shall cleave to his wife. And the Twain shall be one flesh as Matthew is 19 five. Now here’s my logic.

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Okay. Here’s my logic. If you were a Having crazy Connections I will keep it a nice, okay. If you had crazy connection, when you’re not Married somebody help me out here. One more time again. You were having Connections everywhere. You have a connection in the bathroom. We have a connection to bond. You have a connection to everywhere. You have a connection in the car. You will have it. Connections everywhere. Right? All y’all don’t want to be Real. Now all you got to add leisure now, huh? Oh, you forgot.

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You were a, should I say the word? Can I say, can I S can I say the word? Okay. You were start with an F. Okay. You were out here. OK. And is with a while. Okay. If you were out there. Okay. Rick James, and you were, I had a BA, so here you were out in the world before you got Married. It was all in popping. Right? And so what happened out of the B I’ll talk to my son.

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Okay. What happened? Well, I got married. I stopped connection. I stopped the intimacy. No, the devil is a lie. And then some of you have excused as well. Not the B, you know, the chair and the chair and, and the, and the job and my mother-in-law. Oh, we’re going to talk about mother-in-law being involved. All right. We’re going to come back, uh, and continue this topic. After this point.

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Real Raw with Dr B is brought to you by the total relationship trainer, a ministry of restoration Springs, interdenominational church, Hosea four, six says our people die for a lack of knowledge to that end. Dr. B has written 24 nationally published books on relationships, intimacy and theology. You can check out his library at Dr. T see brantley.com backslash bookstore. If you or a loved one are in a difficult season in your life, marriage or personal situation, you can reach out to doctor b@areacodetwozerothreesevenfivethreeseventhreesevensevenorviaemailatdrbisrealatgmail.com.

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That’s Dr B I S E R E a l@gmail.com. Now back to your virtual relationship counselor, here is more of Dr B

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Hey, people hope you enjoyed it. Hope your bag. You dare to come back digging. If you want to hear more than your year, you did good. You know, I’m done to, to, you know, I’m telling the truth that you’ve lost your connection now. Uh, uh, again now, uh, send me to may not believe that the, uh, that the word of God has all you need about relationship and all you need. You just got to find someone to help you find it right now. The Bible says in first Corinthians chapter seven. Yeah, that’s right. Is in the book. Don’t mess with me.

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Listen, you mess with me. I go to song of Solomon don’t you don’t you mess with me. Okay. That’s all right. First grade in chapter seven, it says here, it says verse three. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence, dooby, dooby do. And likewise, also the wife unto the husband. You said that, okay. You see what the text says? The text says, let the man, I didn’t say the boyfriend. I didn’t say the side chick y’all ain’t gonna help me here. I didn’t say the church.

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Uh, I let it, let that go. Yes. I’ll guide. It says let the rent on the wife due benevolence, and then also the wife onto the husband. You see what the text says? So what is happening in the body of Christ and those who are within the church, outside of the church, they are losing their connection and they’re not giving each other, the due benevolence. And I know a lot of times with Couples we have excuses go Lord. Well, because of this. And because of that, we’re not connecting because I’ve gained weight because I have more responsibility.

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How about this? Because I’m a pastor and I’m gonna tell you right now, pastors, cause I’m a pastor too. Uh, you cannot let the congregation, uh, mess up your connection. Cause they will now know congregates. I ain’t blaming Yom. I’m just saying calling the pastor 12 o’clock at night, because you’re trying to find a scripture. Don’t Basta. Listen, pastor has something that’s on his mind. Okay? Pastor hand and anointed him with his first lady on his mind.

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Here, you call it 12 o’clock at night, pastor. I’m trying to find a scripture. Listen to me. Cause the pastor need to be encouraged to by the first lady or vice versa, the pastor needs to be encouraged by the first man, whatever it is. I’m talking about male, female now. Okay? They need to have that connection. Why? Because when you’re not connected, re not connected. That’s Amy gets in now, please understand the Bible says the two shall become what one. Okay. When you are not one, when you are not one with your spouse, that’s when the enemy comes in.

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All right, John, chapter 10. Now, I can’t believe you had all these scriptures and talking about intimacy. Yup. Welcome to doctor B. Uh, the text says in John chapter 10, it says Satan comes to steal, kill and will destroy. So when you are in that disk, when you are not making, when you’re not modifying, would you not checking things out when you not on your P’s? And Q’s about your connection with your spouse? Guess what? The enemy steals. One thing that I teach Couples, uh, in marriage counseling is this and also Married seminars.

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Uh, is that very simply when you are not connected, that’s an enemy steals. Can I say that again? I will. When you are not connected, when you are not one accord, when you let a offense come in between you, then that’s when the enemy comes in and slides in and destroy. I just heard that JC penny is, is, uh, is closing down. You know why they will know shoppers? Yes. I know cold red, 19 had something to do with that, but there was a change. There was a shift. And when there is a shift, watch this. When there is a shift, logically something else comes in Couples custody.

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One more time. I will. I mean, when y’all first started dating, you couldn’t keep your hands off each other. You would lay hands all the time. I ain’t going to go there, but you were paying hands all the time. And now that you’re Married you ain’t even let your hands no more. You’re not playing. Being in here no more. Bed not that you’re not laying hands no more. You know why you let, offensives come in. You let disagreements come in. You let negativity come in. And when they come in, they will destroy. It’s just like JC penny has a maybe going out of business.

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A lot of Couples listen, I’m a witness again. I’m not going off on anybody. I’m trying to give you some wisdom of what I’ve learned over the years. When you don’t take care of what God has given you, the needing me will come to what does steal. And when he steals, he doesn’t play fair. He takes it all. He takes it without knowing he takes without you having anything on a why, because he wants you to have that non connection. He wants you to make sure that you’re not connected. So guess what? He’ll come in and destroy the sheets up.

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Now some of you will know or will know to all glory, to God. I’ve written 24 nationally published books. And one of my books cause idols are all right, hold on, DCS. You ready for this? One of my book titles, you ain’t ready for this. I’m going to tell you one of my book titles is Mary Couples. That was shout. Have a great Sex. Yes. That’s one of my titles on my book. Yes, it’s on amazon.com bonds and nobles.com with our website. Dr t.brantley.com or raw.org. I wrote the book because I understand how the enemy will cause a disruption.

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And when he calls a disruption in the bedroom, when he called the disruption between the sheets, he got you, please understand Jesus watches. Now Jesus was on his way to Calvary yet. And he was, uh, on his way. But here, the enemy comes to try to sidetrack him, try to make him not do the goal, not make him do the will of the, what other father. And because of that, he had to pray. He had to be intense relationship with his father. Well, the same thing once with Couples you gotta be in intense relationship or I’m teaching.

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Good. Now tell you, you gotta be intense relationship with each other. Why is because when you’re not in a pitch relationship with God in the middle, the enemy will come to steal it. Our people will be back for around three,

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Here’s more of Dr B and B was, this is doctor B. Yeah. Uh, Have you looking for the, I do not today. Okay. I was not doing that. I’m not doing, and that’s not this type of show. Okay. Now do I, do I do do that on Sunday morning, but now you don’t need that. Okay. Y’all need to know how we are going to get this marriage on track. Cause can, will be honest. Can we show with me?

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Can we be honest? Okay. When your marriage is jacked up. Yeah. I know you walk in the spirit daughter. I know you walk in the spirit side, but I tell you I don’t want to be a tool or the enemy to attack my spouse. I don’t not want to be placed in that point because when I’m placed in that point. Okay. That’s not good. Okay. So, so, so, so now again, we talking about the sheets.

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OK. We’re talking about intimacy between a husband and wife and then guys, okay. Now I’m to warn you guys. I may be a little bit more than, than women because with the leaders upon the will of God, we are a, the point person. We are the point. God our relationship. But again, the reason why sir, uh, maybe the wife is not into the sheets as you are in the Jeep, because you just want the intimacy, but not the relationship. Oh, that was good. I’ll say that one more time. See, for women, they want the relationship. Yeah.

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And intimacy for those guys. Uh, sometimes we just want the intimacy, you know, uh, sometimes guys, you know what we’ll like, uh, uh, people eat pizza, you know, some people just eat the, uh, the, uh, the pizza and some people don’t touch the crust. Okay. Okay. I, one of the guys, you know, that I love the pizza bound, like the crust too much. Now, now you put some cheese in that crazy. And maybe we can do something. I did that baby. And some are now is sauce.

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Now with talking, I said, I’m sorry. Got a little hungry. All right. But see that’s how guys, like, you know, that’s how guys act sometimes to intimacy. You know what? Okay, baby, I will take dislikes, but don’t give me the cross. No, see the wife. She said, no, no. I want you to enjoy the entire pizza. I’m keeping it nice. Okay. I want to enjoy the entire pizza and enjoying time pizza. You know what I mean? Taking out the garbage, you know what that means? But talking to me after work, you know what that means have me with the kids.

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You know what that means? Number on the house. I wish your sister gave me an amen out there. Okay. So, so here brothers, if you understand, if you enjoy the entire pizza, I’ll try and make it simple for us guys. Are you trying to tie a pizza then the wife doesn’t mind you having intimacy with it, but again, you just can not want the intimacy without a relationship. Okay? Follow me guys. All right. Follow me. You follow me. Cause I’m your driver right now. I’ll stand that woman. Listen, maybe she’s that way because you just want the intimacy, but other relationship.

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Oh no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. They want you to enjoy their entire spread. So brothers, Hey, melodically. Ready? Alright, here we go. Okay. Are we up to me? She okay. Wants not just intimacy, but also relationship. Did you get it? I said one more time again. Okay. She come on, stay with me. She doesn’t just want the intimacy come on. But she also wants come on. Help me relationship.

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All right. So when you do that on a regular basis, she has no problem. But if you’re disrespecting her, Oh Lord. Everybody in the church has sugar bluff. Everybody. The church is honeybun. You better watch out behind you boss. Everybody. Church is Twinkies, thereby in the church. As soon as a cue, you in a deadly wine shop. And soon as Q everybody in the church have these nicknames, they come and your wife have a nickname up.

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You don’t hug. You don’t express. No love you. Don’t there’s no affection. And yet, as soon as your feet hit the church ground, well, we haven’t gone to something called the COVID-19. But as soon as you see somebody, whatever, Hey, you got, Oh, how you doing sister? And your wife is cleaning your dirty drawers. And you can’t say hi, and you wonder why I’m on my subject. I’m talking about somebody. Do you wonder why the intimacy is not going well? But I will tell you what’s not going well because you’re not doing the relationship.

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The text says here, all right. The text says the two shall become one, one. Now let’s say, Ooh, I can’t believe this. Guy’s talking about this. You know? Why no mom talking about this? Cause there’s, I’m talking about it. And with the church, don’t talk about it enough. So I’m telling you right now, make sure you got your maturity mine on. Cause I’m coming at Real topics. Okay? No disrespect to other programs about our relationships, but it’s like, well, I know you’re going through. So just praying fast and God’s going to work it out.

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That is true. But we gotta do more. Okay? The word of God says, work out your own soul salvation with fear and trembling. So there is a word, there is a process that you have to do. Why? Because let’s go back to the beginning of time. The enemy is after relationships. It’s that simple because he tried to destroy relationship between God and the angels. Come on. Y’all come on theologians. So you need me to try to destroy. Well, he did one 30 of the ultimate angels. He tried to destroy relationship between God and his angels.

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Right? Then he destroyed her. Then he tried to destroy her destroy relationship between God and Adam and Eve. And then so all of Satan’s tactics, please hear me. People is destroying relationships. Hear me? That’s why this show is here. That’s why I Dr B’s here. That’s why I gotta be real here because we’re after what the enemy is trying to do to you will be back after these messages. Yeah.

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You. You’re ready. He had, this is our last segment. Hope you have enjoyed dr. B and uh, you know, I like to everything I say is scripted base people. I know you don’t believe me, uh, to your beta. I’ve off, uh, uh, of, uh, of my books with everything I say is scripture base, but go from Hebrews chapter 13, verse five, Martha, the head has God on radio and y’all, ain’t heard nothing yet. Okay. Hebrews 13, four says marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge you.

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What does he say? What the Bible saying is that in the Bible, the Bible says the battery marriage is, is honorable in all. And the Bed on defiled. It’s the Texas, the Bed is on the filed. So again, here you are trying to understand and navigate through life and you’re not walking in connection. You’re not walking in connection on a regular basis. And when you’re not connected intimately with your spouse, or can I go there real quick?

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Oh Lord, I’ll go there. Here. You are sitting in church. Oh, they don’t like this. They don’t like this here. You are sitting in church and ain’t sleeping in the same. Bed did I say when COVID-19 is over in church, he’s able to have church again, some of y’all going to be sitting in church together, husband and wife, but not in the same bedroom. There’s something wrong with that. Yep. There’s something wrong with that. I know some of y’all man. Don’t do, don’t do that. Don’t do that jail. And you don’t get mad at me. I’m trying to help your sister. I’m trying to help your brother.

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That is not the will of God. You know what it is? I call bitterness. Okay. That’s called anger. Okay. And when you anger and bitter on a regular basis, then your going to affect the bedroom. You’re going to effect the intimacy. You’re going to affect the connection and let hear me, and please hear me loud and clear when you affect hear me, when you affect the connection that also will affect the children. That is no, if ands or buts about it. I can remember my own personal life.

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My kids were young because there were issues and friction and y’all stop acting like y’all don’t no, no talking about what there is friction in the house. The house is affected. There is no way the house is doing well. When you have that, the house cannot function correctly. When there is no connection. Now again, ladies, I hear you loud and clear connection is not just physically. Yes, you are absolutely right. Connection. Isn’t everywhere. But ladies, if the man connects emotionally, you Better connect physically.

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Did I say that right brothers, but then that’s his brother’s and I said, did I say it right, brother? Can I get an amen? All right. All right. All right. So if there is connection physically and mentally, then you’re going to go strong in your relationship. But the job of the enemies that let me cause discord, right? Let me cause discord among the brethren. Let me call discord between his husband and wife. It doesn’t make any sense. Here. You are in love. And in five years you can’t stand each other in five years. I hate you in five years.

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Don’t talk to me in five years, don’t touch me. That’s a trick of the enemy. So my job is to help you be so connected that yes, it starts within you and also starts also with the intimacy. And then it grows. It spreads. But if you’re not functioning, if your not wise to that, then it will bring you down in a very hard way. And guess what that’s and he wants to do. They want them to be enemy wants to bring you down. He wants to destroy you. All right. He wants to take you to a place where you’re not trusting God, where you are so discombobulated.

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You are so mad at one another. You are so in such a disagreement, uh, then you are only destroying each other and hear me when you destroy each other. Okay? When you destroy each other, who gets the glory. You only saying that now when you destroy each other, who gets the glory, which is not, God is Satan. So I am trying to help you understand the intimacy between each other is very important. Has to be done, has to be motivated, has to be completed because you don’t do that.

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Then you give the enemy room again. The enemy cannot. Okay, come on. You know, the Bible says, the Bible says, given her what? Come on, he’ll be Bible scholars. Give them a what? A couple help me give no place to the way to the enemy. All right. How do you give them place by not staying connected? How you have in place by not pray for another? Well, last time you pray with one another. Oh, hello. I heard cricket or hinder. Okay. Now when I say pray, I didn’t say Lord strike them dead. Okay. I didn’t tell him in that prayer.

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Talk about that. If you don’t. I tell him with that prayer. Okay. I’m not talking about depth. I’m talking about Lord. Touch my wife in Jesus name. Lord. How about this? Okay. Okay. I’m almost done. How about this? Instead of you praying for your wife, how about pray for you that you become a better husband? You become a better wife. I guarantee you do. From that perspective, you see a change, your relationship. It will be very beautiful. Write. This is not to B hope you enjoyed the program today. Uh, again, uh, Dr B is real@gmail.com.

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Dr Bed is real@gmail.com. Send me your comments. I will read them whether I like them and not, ah, I will read them. Ah, and also give me suggestions at the talk about, uh, or about relationships. Again, we talked about relationship with God, where they sit with yourself and with others. Alright. Also, my website is Dr B uh, Dr T see brantley.com as well as a rest.org is the church, uh, website. Uh, I have 24 nationally published books. The book we talking about today is, um, Married Couples now shall Have Great Sex please pray about supporting this ministry.

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Uh, we are different. We are not the run of the meal, uh, type of ministry with ministry, trying to help. Couples trying to help individuals, uh, to become better in relationships in all areas. So this pray about becoming a partner. If you give them one, the $25, if you want $25, I will autograph one of my 24 books and send it to you as soon as possible. God bless you. Have be encouraged and understand that you got to stay connected with each other, right. And you’ll get used to my ending is very simple.

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