Transcript of Control Freak Podcast Episode
Transcript of Control Freak Podcast Episode:
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Oh my goodness. This is Dr. Uh, B he got, and we’re coming back. Got you to help you in your relationship with God, uh, your self and others. Um, I believe in my 50 plus years on this earth, uh, found out that church people, especially, uh, we, we don’t do too good sometime in dealing with other people. We, Oh, we love Jesus. Oh, he loved them. He loved Jesus. We love God. We loved the Holy ghost.
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There has been a cost. We’ll be loved the Holy ghost, but when it comes to talking to people a little bit of problem. So, uh, this is why it’s Real Raw With Dr B we cover relationship issues and hopefully you will be blessed by this. Uh, you can bring some suggestions to Dr B is real@gmaildotcomdrbisrealatgmail.com. Also our website is Dr. Uh, Dr T see brantley.com. We’re going to talk about controlling people, old Lord army.
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Today. You are going to pray for me. Yeah. Uh, controlling people. Now, now your scripture, hear me out controlling people. Uh, cause I’m also a licensed, uh, counselor for American association of Christian counselors. Also got my diploma in counseling from them as well, controlling people on people. Usually as a child, they lived in an uncontrolled environment. Okay. And because when you live in an under the control environment, when you become an adult, you don’t want anything that looks, smells, tastes familiar to uncontrolled.
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Uh, so what you become your children, can’t say, I’ll say it for them. You become a Control Freak okay. Everything gotta be the way you want it the way you want it and how you want it. Yeah. As I’m passing, it also can be Control low and I can get annoying invitations now passes. Also keep it Control of Freaks the two. Now you have to understand. Oh, okay. What the Bible say? Alright. In first Corinthians chapter 13.
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Okay. Let’s go there real quick. All right. First Corinthians 13. Uh, he got his notes together. I haven’t got my notes together with the Holy ghost. Sometimes puts it on me and I just come as God leads me. All I tell y’all criticizing related, touch them. Jesus. All right. First Corinthians 1311 says when I was a child, I spoke as a child. I understood as a child, I thought as a child, but when I became a man, I put away childish things. So people who are very controlling are really trying to get back what they lost as a child.
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And they put them on people who loved them the most, they are striking out and they’re lashing out. They’re being very negative. They’re being very controlling, do a, my way or the highway type of thing. And what’s happening is that the people who, who love you ma’am sir. And they’re running away from you. Yeah. And then you got the nerve to say, Oh, she don’t love me 900. They don’t love you. They don’t knit Tyler. B whipped like a runaway slave.
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That was funny to me that they’re tired of being placed in bondage where you come and the hair on the back of their neck stands up and they get all nervous. The guy go to the bathroom. Cause he had you come that, wait a minute. That’s how you want people to be around. You are afraid of you really. And really what you really doing. You are really cycling. The thing that you dealt with as a child. Yes. So your cycling back negativity, your cycling back, the things you experienced as a child and that cycling effect is going to do nothing but destroy you in the end.
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That’s what I was going to do. It’s going to hurt you in such a way that people will not be able to deal with you because you’re not showing love you. You’re you’re not showing the, the love of Christ that God placed on you, but you’re being controlling because you don’t want to be out of control. Now again, I understand, but hear me. My brother gave me my sister. It’s time to heal from your childhood. Can I say that again? I will. It’s time to heal from your childhood because if you don’t heal from your childhood, you will replay your childhood people.
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Can I use myself as exhibit a? I will. Uh, you know, I was raised in a very, a very tight knit home. Ah, and because of that, that controlling mechanism that Control him back. Uh, I, the allergy affected my home. Yes. In fact, there’s so much, I, you know, there was a divorce. Why? And again, because of the things I should have done differently. And by the time I woke up, the damage was done. All right. I tried to fix it, but you try to fix it. Don’t work. I ain’t gonna stay there too much longer.
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That’s the way it happened. So when you walk in Washington, when you walk controlling you, how do you always own the range? You’re always trying to do things and let’s go deeper instead of, Oh Lord, here we go again. And instead of you trying to control people, how about control your mouth? How about learning? How to speak to people. Okay. How to, uh, to act with people.
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Uh, James chapter three, it says in verse five, even. So the tongue is a little member and boasts is great things. The whole, how great a member and a little fire Kendall. If you see that, that tongue needs to be Control. So you want to Control something. How about that? You control your tongue controlled. How you treat people Control would you say to people Control how you interact with people? I know you had a bad day. I know the Catlin that you funny and tell you the, the golf ball, somebody really?
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Oh, you are the one that speak in tongues all Sunday. Oh, you want to run around the church while you don’t want to the church? Cause the COVID-19. But when you did, when church was, I mean, normal, normal could sit you down, but yet you had a nasty disposition. You were very controlling. Everyone had to follow your orders. You are a dictator or you think God is pleased with that. I’m sorry. Uh, didn’t Paul say follow me as I follow who Christ was. Cause the dictator <inaudible> was Christ.
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Control uh, Chris was controlling. He would’ve been on the cross. Can I get him in somebody? Amen. <inaudible> crazy. What? The controlling, he would have not allow the Pharisees to dog him. Like he did. He responded back and scripture. He responded back fortunately, but he wasn’t controlling. Now hear me. If you want to be like Christ, I will be like Mike, I didn’t say like Mike, you know, you’re watching Dr the last day and episodes now I told my light like Mike, right?
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I’m talking about like, Jesus. Okay. So if Jesus wasn’t controlling, why you controlling? And then you have the nerve to say, Oh, no one wants to be around me. No one wants to love me. Well, big can’t love you because you’ve got thorns of Control my Lord. You are seeing Sergeant you know the C urgent. Let’s see urgent. Okay. I can talk sometime. Let’s see urgent looks beautiful on the outside, but it has poisoned all inside low.
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And so if you step on it, Oh, you look at it. Funny. All the poison comes out. So we’re going to work on that. All right. We’ll come back with segment. Number two
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Hey, how you doing people? This is doctor B will be back for a segue. Number two. Now again, we’ll, we’ll talk about controlling. Not now. This is not talking about a life. This is not talked about enough on radio with the believers of Christ. This is not talked about enough. Why? Because on the people we need to talk about are in charge and they are controlling. Uh, it’s kinda like my, uh, my, uh, my executive producer, uh, minister, Henry, uh B enemy.
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And so he had one idea, uh, for the Podcast are they listened to right now? And I had another idea. I didn’t say shut up. My friend, John. No, I heard him, his, his, his, his, his suggestion made sense to me and guess what? Okay. Guess what? Let’s try your way. Okay. Let’s try. Yo. That’s not controlling that, that that’s, that’s really giving him input in and maybe the reason why things ain’t going well for you. Cause you ain’t let nobody give input. Woo C when you are so controlling that people can a minister too.
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You can’t say things to you. That’s not going to be in good place. I B right now I’m looking at a wonderful birthday card from one of the members. Yes, it was my birthday. Yoga, you know, God you, that’s funny to me. And so, uh, you know, Lord laid on my heart to give her a blessing, uh, for mother’s day. And here I am looking at a whole lot of money because I wasn’t so controlling.
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I let I gave out and something came back. You understand what I’m trying to say to you? See when you controlling not Oh, okay. I found a preach on me. So your time at me preach it out. I’m not gonna, I’m on T John and I go, y’all see you only hear you won’t hear me preach. Watch me on Sunday. All right. We, you don’t allow things in because of your controlling mentality. You’re not going to grow in grace. Okay? You are going to grow. Watch. Are you going to grow in anger?
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You go and grow in bitterness. You go and grow and sarcasm. I don’t hear nobody. You’re going to grow on negativity. And I tell my people as well. Uh, as I tell, uh, my counselees, when you have negativity, you can not grow and you allow demonic spirits to come in here. I’ll say one more time again. Now when you are so controlling, nothing comes in. Hello? Somebody, nothing comes in. There’s no washes when you are controlling. You’re not healing.
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Okay? What’s happening. That every time someone tries to minister to you, especially God Oh, no, I got to Control the issue. And when you can watch it, when you Control that issue watching you, using your flesh, okay? You using your, uh, tool, you’re using your mechanism to control something. That’s out of hand, but you didn’t in your way. And if your tools are anger, your tools are bitterness. If you are tools of that, then how can you expect to find a better place?
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You won’t be able to. Why? Because you’re working in a controlled environment, you are going to Control when you walk controlled, you’re nasty. You’re disgusting. No one wants to come to church. You invite people to church. It ain’t going to your church. You act in that way. A Genesis 30 and two, I says, y’all want scripture, Genesis 13 and two. He says, and Jacob’s anger was kindled against Rachel. He said, am I in God’s stead? Who had, was held firm? This, the fruit of the womb.
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So Jacob got angry. Now. Now, now it’s funny. Trust people read the Bible, but they don’t read the, read the Bible. Nobody was angering. The Bible that’s wrong. No one got upset in the Bible. That’s the wrong people to have the fairs, the Bible that is definitely wrong. Okay. A lot of things happened. The Bible, apparently y’all, ain’t reading it because he is right there, but we don’t want to, we want a glass over it. No, Jacob was angry with Rachel because she wanted more cheering. Right? Leah was having eight and you know, Aiden, you know, in a concubine, our brothers, if you can no concubines now.
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Okay. How you don’t get with that revelation. You kid, you can’t say honey, God gave me revelation. I’m dead right now. You won’t be in trouble anyway. So that’s fine to me. Alright, laugh. People laugh. So Jacob was angry. Okay. But see, it wasn’t me to be angry. Why? Because Jacob had a controlling issue. Yes, he did. He wanted his brother’s birthright. Okay. It started as a child.
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Okay. I told you in the beginning of this segment here, uh, as that controlling starts as a child, you were in an environment with things are not working. Right? And so you bring that complexity. You bring that mind frame to the relationship. And because you do that, it hurts you. It destroys you. It doesn’t make anything as good. Some you right now are experiencing bridges, being rebuilt and being repaired. Uh, and, and guess what?
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Yes. Even as COVID-19 environment, they gotta repair the bridges. Well, some of us have emotional bridges that need to be repaired, but they can’t be repaired because you are too controlling. Okay. You want to use your, uh, raw material. Yeah. You want to use your way. Okay. And your way is not working. That’s why you in this bad situation is a mess. Yes. Why?
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Because you’re controlling. You’re not letting things in near you. You’re staying in that bad environment. And guess what? The enemy wants you to stay. They’re the enemy wants you to stay in that place because when he keeps you in that place, he got you. You, you, you, you, you, you, you can’t really grow as a person. So understanding here is that the more you understand where God is trying to take you, but how can God take you when you are so controlling? Uh, when you are in that controlling mentality, you can’t go nowhere, Galatians five and 14.
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It says, you know what? There you go to verse nine. Okay. A little 11, 11 are the whole lump. All right. Galatians, five and nine, a little leaven leavens, the whole lump. Alright, so it don’t take a lot to make the thing big. Okay. Just a little negativity, just a little, uh, your controlling mentality. Can Jack you up just a little bit. Don’t take much just a little bit. And when you can put that negativity in, it totally destroys you. That’s required reading for the Lord. Verse 14, Galatians five 14 for all the laws fulfill in one word.
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Even this thou shalt love thy neighbor as I, what as I Self. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. The text says you will love your neighbor as what are Self, but how can you love someone? If you sow controlling your, your, your, your, your not allowing the love of God to float through you. Okay. Again, this broadcast it’s about relationships. People is about relationships, relationship with God relationship with yourself, relationship with Others. Okay. You got to not be so controlling that the love of God is not being exemplified.
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The love of God is not going forward. Why? Because you’re staying in that negative mode. You staying in that negativity. And when you stay in that negativity, you will not last, all right, we’ll come back for our last segment on Control.
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Once again, here’s doctor B and people went back. This is dr. B last segment. Now again, why is controlling so
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Powerful? Because controlling is a cousin of manipulation. You didn’t expect me to say that. Did y’all yo say, don’t say it. Don’t say it. Don’t have to say it. I said it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It deals with Control manipulating. So I’m hearing that in Florida, a hotbed of covert covert 19 activities happening because, you know, cause the prisoners are in one place.
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Uh, they’re all there. One place and things are happening to the prisoners. And we’re definitely praying that God will minister to them in a great way, uh, that does not spread that they find a vaccination for these people who are in prison as well. But the point I’m going to make there about Control is that these prisoners are in prison and they are there. And because of the covert, uh, uh, covered 19 issue is spreading. What I’m trying to say today is that when you don’t deal with Control, it spreads, it gets worse.
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It doesn’t get better people. Okay. It causes more issues. It causes more problems down the road. Why? Because you’re not letting God have his way. Now you understand the scripture. There you go. Okay. Zachariah 46 says not my power, no, buy my book, buy my what spirit says the Lord. When you are controlling, when you controlling, you’re not letting spirit have his way. Did I say that? I did. When you are not letting the spirit of God have its way, your union controlling mechanism.
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Why? Because it has to be done your way. There is no faith. I don’t hear nobody. There’s no faith. There’s no believing God. There was no prayer. There is no fasting. There’s no stepping out is just you doing it your way, the way you want to do it. That’s not going to help this situation. Why? Why? Because you’re not letting God do it. Okay. Now you gotta make up your mind after this broadcast. God are you Control or am I Control someone can help someone else don’t touch that.
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White. You touched on that. That’s why you need, that’s why you need Dr. B alright, because you don’t want to touch the dial. Now I didn’t cuss that. You know, I didn’t talk about you’re chair. I ain’t telling about the mama I’m and talking about you. Are you so controlling that you are not allowing God to work in your life? You’re so controlling. You’re not allowing God to minister to you. Okay. How can God ministry to you when you have this wall? Okay. Uh, uh, uh, John Siena. Yeah. I like wrestling. Y’all pray for me.
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All right. And so, uh, John seen a move. Is that before he, uh, he puts a pneumonia. He takes his hand and goes across his face like that. What? No, no. He goes across your face. All right. A lot of times, God is trying to get your attention, but you said, nah, God I don’t want to do it your way. I want to do it my way that’s controlling. Yeah. People hear me loud and clear. If you are controlling in your flesh, you’re going to be controlling your spirit. You didn’t like that. With did job. You go to be manipulated. Why? Because it has to be done your way.
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And if you always not done, if you’re always not complete, then you’re not going to do it. And it’s not going to be happy. And the whole world’s going to deal with your pain. Why? Because you’re being controlling. You’re being in that negative place. You’re being in that negative spirit. And then you expect God to bless your heart. God going to bless you when you so controlling. Okay? How God going to bless you when you are having this mind frame of not going to a better place. Everything gotta be Control everything gotta be your way.
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Okay? Where’s it going to be? God’s way. Isn’t it? I’m sorry. Didn’t the Bible say not my will, but die will be didn’t he say that? I believe he said that. Not my will, but what dye will be done? So God, we want it done your way, but how can God do it your way? I mean, how can God do it his way when you are so controlling song of Solomon eight and six, it says here set me as a seal. Upon Nyhart.
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As a seal upon the arm for love is strong as death. You’ll see that Josie, as cruel as the grave, the coals thereof are coals of fire, which have a most velvet flame. You see that love is as strong as death. That’s the techs love is stronger than that. So, so here you are. Where’s love at love is nowhere to be signed from found love. We are you I’m in a corner.
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Dr me. Love, wants to come in, but Control is controlling. Love, wants to come in for, Oh, am I teaching somebody? Forgiveness wants to come in. Temporary. Wants to come in. Grace wants to come in, but know you can’t come in. Why are you being controlling? Yeah. Yes. You are controlling the activity. You are putting things and you’re stopping your blessing.
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You’re stopping your breakthrough. Some of them are the human the today. You don’t want to be so controlling people that where is God at? Okay. Mondays, you Tuesday’s, you Wednesday’s you Thursdays, you Fridays. Yeah. You know, Saturday going to you and Sunday, little bit of God and they’re about to you. No, no, no, no. You got to have, let God have free reign. Right? You gotta let God have free. Cause the Bible says, let the word of God and have what have free costs. But how can God have free cars if you controlling, I’m going to say something to somebody and, and you may not like it, but tobacco is Real Raw With Dr B many of us are missing a blessing.
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Some God, but God can’t give it because you’re so controlling and that’s something, okay. I’m saying very succinctly. Many of us are wanting blessing. Some God want God to do it. Okay. I see the tears coming down your face, my sister, but how can God do it when you’re so controlling? Well, when everything has to be done your own way, when is God going to step in? When are you going to say, all right, God, you will not mind. What about when you are going to say, all right, God, you do it your way.
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Not my way. When are you going to let God take over the situation? When are you gonna let God help you to heal from that pain? Okay. When are you going to let God help you to heal from the discouragement? We’re gonna let God and help you to heal from the divorce. I know when I went through my divorce, I had to heal. I had to heal for the, no, the woman in my life I had to heal. And some of you have not healed from your divorce. You have not healed from the affair. You have not healed from the abuse. You have not healed from the a neglectful father.
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You haven’t healed from the reject for mother. You have not healed. And because you have not healed, you aint Control think about it. When a child is hurt, the first thing the child does, he covers that area of pain, right? He covers that area of offense. And here comes a father here, the mother to try to heal that pain or try to put a bandaid or Neosporin or something on that bruise. But because it’s painful, it’s covering.
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Many of you have still, uh, doing the same thing. I know I did it. I covered that pain. I covered that abuse that I, that came out over the child. I covered it. Why I didn’t want it heal. So that brung about the spirit of Control. So, uh, hopefully I bless someone today and hopefully I encourage someone today to let God be in control. Not you again, uh, policing your comments. Your concerns are Dr B is real@gmail.com.
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Dr B is Real R E R E L L spell brantley@god.com website. Dr T see brantley.com. I’ve written 24 books, uh, all glory to God, nationally published books. And, uh, this, uh, this broadcast. So you can use, uh, even Chris, you use the bathroom now, some are you saying, well, a preacher, you everywhere. Uh, listen is my goal to be on your radio station every day, Monday through Friday, I need your help. I need your support.
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