Transcript of Baby Daddy vs. Husband
Transcript of Baby Daddy vs. Husband
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Welcome to Real. Raw With Dr B this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthened their relationship with God themselves and each other. With 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw With Dr B.
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Hello, this is dr. B. I’m trying to knock these things out more as, as I so led to talk about things. So think it’s in front of me now, as I feel that to talk about things, this is, this is a good one, because many times women who are now with a new Husband are adjusting to now, the focal point is not so much on Husband. I mean the Baby Daddy but on your husband now I don’t. And I’m good to see you pray, you doing well.
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Thank God you’re doing well, then God y’all to the hospital. Yay. So when, when a woman is focused on Baby, Daddy make sense because there’s no Husband and your focus, because again, you’re trying to make sure that your son or your daughter is spinning spending the right time. God forbid you have a deadbeat Baby Daddy and so this is understandable. So for so long as you, the name of Daddy, and you’re not getting back with them because you just not right. You have to say that, you know what we did out to a dirty With done.
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All right. So we’re not going back. With sorry. So that’s good. All right. So now you’ve been blessed to have her Husband. Now you’ll bless to get married. Now you are enjoying the fruits of your new labor, that now you have a man in your life. Okay. That’s good. But sometimes what women may do, if they’re not careful, they’re still used to the same cycle yet. Yes, Anna. That’s a two, one day at a time. They’re so used to the same cycle. And please leave your comments. This will use the cycle of pleasing the Baby Daddy that when they become married, does the adjustment let’s go deeper.
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So the, so the Baby Daddy was the pseudo Mann in your life. Okay. You was a pseudo man and he just thinks he did it on the side for him. You know, you know, you, you, a little odds and ends farm. You don’t give no cookies now. Yeah. Watch it. Now that you don’t give no cookies. Alright. Can I stop real quick? Alright. If he just a baby Daddy and that’s all the, he is why you’re a mixture. And then on top of that, I’m sorry. I have to go here real quick. And on top of that, he’s married or he’s in relationship. And so you allow him to go back and forth, but Dwayne and his wife or his new girl and a new, because he crowds on your shoulder or a Negro case, and not knowing that we’re not going to allow double dibbin talks about double dip.
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And we do not double dip, double dip. For example, I like my hotdogs with mustard. A knot would catch up. If it not insane, I get have ketchup and mustard on a hot dog. That was too much flame. One time. Right. So, all right. So whatever to get at. All right. So you’re doing favors on him, not sexual, not, not doing sexual favors at all. So because your not doing that now help them along the way. Why a maybe, you know things with done for him, you know, it was a quid pro quo, you know, for me, I do see, I do for me fine.
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Now you find a man.
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Okay. Now, and now you find the man.
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Yeah.
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The man says, I’m a man. I’ve been a man all my life. But a man, all of my life, all my life, Middlebury, territorial ladies in a very territorial in the animal kingdom and no, you know, men SNIF the area and say, this is my area. And you can do nothing about it, my area. So we sniff the area.
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Yeah.
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And we say so many words, a nobody can come in. This area knew about it. And what, what? And when we say nobody, we mean nobody. So here you are. How are you doing Joe, Joe? How you doing a pagan? God get to see you brought a breach. Will see you, Johnny Fox. God bless you. Please leave your comments. So, so now that you have this man, then your life, who’s a good man. I’m going to do right by you. He don’t want you to do what you used to do for the Baby Daddy he goes, has a right. And we might ask the question is every right to put that menu item on the list.
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Yes. How can you continue to be in relationship with the Daddy like you did. And there’s no adjustment. There has to be an adjustment. If, if you have a new man and your life, and he becomes your Husband, that has to be in the judgment, a adjustment, you cannot do the same. You cannot say, Oh, you know what? One day on with the Baby Daddy the one with my husband. I have, I’m going to fly into the Husband. I’m going to take it right now. I’m going to write about it. Now you going and say, well, you know what? This is little Baby Daddy and I have no children, but there’s no, man, I have no cheering.
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I have no cheering. You know, children that does not, I don’t have no children. What have a history. As the keyword had a history with a baby, daddy have a history. Well, ladies and gentlemen, ladies, I’m not saying for you to get rid of your history because you really can’t, but I’m telling you to write and your history with your husband, right? Oh, y’all don’t like this. Oh, why? Why am I Husband tripping about my Baby Daddy because men made a military town and can, we will be honest January, to be honest, to be honest, you will know different, you know, different let his baby momma or ex-wife do something and you don’t know nothing about it, ladies.
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Okay. See the problem with ladies. I know God you’ll appreciate this. Podcast you like being on your, like a drop I can Dr you got two laws, your law and the law that your man may do. I’m sorry. We can’t do that anymore. If he has to abide by a certain law, you got by, by a certain law, too mad fat. That’s a way that you can not a have a law that you do that.
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I’m sorry that you want him to do that. You can’t do B and we can’t do that. I do it. Kimberly Williams. Get to see you. God bless you, Courtney Fox. Bless you. You, you, you can’t do that. Do you? God you can’t do that type of stuff. Right? Because you’re bringing a little poison into your relationship. Even though I’m saying, because again, it’s transferring, I see a lot in my private practice that people who are in relationship, they are doing bad. Why? Because they don’t graduate.
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I think everyone wants to graduate. Right. And then I think everyone wants what’s a great year. I mean, no one wants to stay in the same grade. Right? Okay. So just about to graduate, but I would say for any man, you know, friend, boyfriend, fiance, Husband you graduated ladies, you know, friend, they mama, girlfriend, fiance, wife. B graduated act. So what? Okay. Watch it. Now. Now I’m 55 years old, but I do remember his own things about schooling and will think about school. And you cannot wait to go do the next grade and come on. You will remember these days. You don’t want nothing to do with the underclassmen.
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And they go, they will underclassmen that you were, I’m going to walk to check in your head. You where you graduated, you know you where you are now, big time when you want to go back. Well, that’s what John to say to you and this relationship that you don’t want to go back. I know you used to catering to the Baby Daddy is a possible, Oh, The reason why I tell you someone to get married because you cater to the Baby Daddy more than a prospective Husband. Oh, so let me say something to me. My mom was out there.
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No, no condemnation. Zero. That’s not. That was about, is it possible that the reason why you haven’t found with a man yet to be because you have pulled a sign over your head and saying, I’m going to be a big, I’m a mom of an AML. I don’t think you wanted to do that now. No, no. Amazon, you will have a word that maybe, maybe you don’t want to have that title all your life. All right. I got a message. A lot a thing. A lot of women, or more than that. Yeah. I, I, that, I, that, that, that, that I think women want more than just being I Baby mama.
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Okay. I ever are. You prepared to be the light raising a child. God bless you. A there’s a man and a home. You doing a great job, mom, all a chair, but did a great job. But again, it’s a possibility that mainly the reason why you’re a bad from the Husband. Cause you’re so comfortable being the baby mama. Ladies. Now not wait a minute. When I was getting on the man you had no. Yeah, no problem. Yeah. Nope. Hot at all and saying amen. Dr B alright.
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So I’m just trying to let you know that there has to be a transmission, right? It has to be a motion. Has to be a movement because if you don’t move, there’s a good possibility that you may mess up what you’re trying to get in your life as a possibility that you will stay in a bad place. It’d be there. So hopefully I’m and encourage you a little bit here. I’m inspiring, inspiring you to Shannon’s figure to another place.
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All right. Cause again, as long as you stay in this place, the, you will find a new man. You will not, you cannot find your new man stuck in that place. You can’t. And you won’t. Why? Because you’re still acting as if he’s a baby mama. Alright, so dad to be, are you saying that now my child is not important. Didn’t say that. That didn’t come on. My dad didn’t come up with my dad, dad to come up. I can say that. I am saying though, just like you want the man to make it a priority. How am I doing brothers? How am I doing brothers? All right. Just like you want to make that man? And just, just like you want that man and make you a priority.
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The man has a different, a man wants you to make them a four hour day. The man wants to feel that I am we a legit. All right, crazy. So that’s what a man wants. When again, if you’re not making that change, then your husband is causing upset with the baby. Daddy you know, he’s constantly putting the baby down now, now. All right. All right, ladies, I’ll give you a break. I’ll give you a time out. Okay. Of course I ladies put aside. Alright. Sure. Okay. If you marry a woman that has, does the average child or children, you can’t be a non confident.
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You gotta be stronger. Have to be wise to know that you are confident in what you have, because you don’t have confidence in the woman who has your last name, who dedicated their lives, dedicated her life to you. You’re not confident. The other Duke will smell it. Call. Okay. He will smell it. And then he’ll look at you as being a little punk. Alright. So if you have the woman, she she’s married to you and she’s, she’s connected to you. Why are you tripping it?
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Alright, so brother, stop tripping in a, I have a stepson and I don’t trip over his father. Don’t cause I got a mama. I had God item is a brand and I got to okay. How are you doing Dwight? Alright. Alright. I got some, some along with me, I got Lorraine in the back of it. I got my certificate is a brotherhood. I got that bedroom will get to know what I’m saying. Alright, let it go. Brantley alright. So all I’m trying to say you with that, sir. Getting more confident. Okay. You want around everything.
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The guy does takes you off a sneeze. You actually, or your wife. Why? Your, why? Baby Daddy and he and okay. You’re being a little sentimental. Can I say like, I feel that being to a little early. Okay. Don’t do that to the, the, the, the, the, the desirable from one women in a relationship. You know what I’m saying? There’s only room for one woman in a relationship not to only one. And let’s be honest, right? So you have to be strong. You have to be confident. You can not feel as if I’m, this is not one.
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The word that you have to feel strong about who you are and what you are. And you have to know that this woman loves you. Tell you, you can’t be running around asking you, asking her if the 5,000 times do you love me? Do you want me? Do you want me to be learning? You can’t be doing that. So you, this is why I love my job. I can do this all day every day because people to have a lack of knowledge. All right. So you coming off, all right, watch this. Now I’m going to put a spin on this. If you’re coming off a so less efficient and so on, loving him a lot and glare. There’s a possibility you’re pushing her to the Baby.
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Daddy bothered by your actions. You pushing her by you being so weak minded and excuse me. So like unsettled in yourself, then you can’t believe. All right. So that right there can cause problem. Don’t do that.
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Yeah,
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Don’t do that. That’s a no. No. Okay. Thank you. Alright. So all I’m saying to you to do is be careful that you’re not pushing her. Cause Baby Daddy because the Baby Daddy come on, lets be honest. The baby daddy’s used to you. I mean, used to be not being there and they do. You don’t mind that you’re not getting them all either. I mean, come on. No, you drives up to the car, you know, drive to the car and then he sees Jacada and your call has a leak in his car. So you don’t like a cop go yell at you. All right. So he wants you to get out that driveway or whatever.
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So I’m just saying, alright, I’m going to move to a woman in a second. So I’m just saying, sir, be more confident. All right. B thank you. Miss the tools I got. Bless you. She said speak. Your brother got competent. God to be competent. You gotta be comfortable, confident and competent. You know, we had it in the Bennet, in the bedroom, just the head of the business, outside the bedroom. You know your mind, not my mind, worth your while to take care of business. You don’t see the butter in the corner.
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If you knew you to focus on a Bravo, okay? You’re not performing because you’ll hardly think about the brother. Not good. Okay. You gotta be confident. You gotta be strong, always the ones. And you got to now that to happen. All right. So let’s bring a little bit back. Okay? So ladies, this is very important yet you have a new Husband and it’s not his business, but you gotta let him know and no uncertain terms. Ah, I’m a different person now. Right?
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And what I used to do for you every now and then ain’t doing them the best. Hopefully that helps somebody today. Hopefully that encouraged you to not stay in that mind frame. That’s not good because again, you have to tell the Baby Daddy okay, watch this. You had it. You messed it up here. You had all of this, you have it. But JJ, you, you had all of it. I’m trying to be not going to be kicked on Facebook. You got all of it, all of it. You didn’t want to cheat it.
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You don’t want this. Want to start a hair up and you don’t want to, didn’t want to be competent. You don’t want to be the one a matter of me after 20 years launch here a long time. So all of a sudden you told that you talk a lot of Sylvester Stallone. So he had a chance lady don’t feel bad for him. A haircut. I’m your guy. All right. So you got to let the guy now move. All right. Especially if the children are adults, especially and the other house, why are you one last thing I think, okay.
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I know you you’re Baby Daddy to go out, you know, have vacations together. I’m not sure how that works. A part is together. I’m not sure how that works. You gotta know, man, that’s a stop. That’s a stop. I’m going to jail. So hopefully I help somebody today. You know, Baby Daddy and the husband is understanding that it has to be a transformation as to be a switch that switch, you know, I’m going to work. You are not going to work at all. Hopefully that helps somebody today because I have two podcasts now and trying to pace myself.
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So 15 minutes on my podcast with apologetics and 20 to 25 minutes off is Podcast all right. So hope you enjoy that. C may have some announcements foliar. I do. So we’ll be back at the Mohegan sun. Yeah. Will be back. I just found out about this this week. I was a whole nother. And then to just find about this week, I will be at Mohegan sun, October 29th, only three comedians. And I’m one of them. So hopefully, you know, y’all can come out and support dr.
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B and we’ve used to have fun. Talk to the audience. This is a big, old love fit as a matter of seminar, you know? And so just come on out and just not venture and I’m there to have fun. I’m the, I’m not trying to stop my day job of being a therapist and helping people. But I like me to make people laugh, a laugh and be part of that to get tickets, to go to my website, a WW dot Dr T C brantley.com. Got a little thing up here. If I could find it a WW that Dr, T see brantley.com for more information about how to get tickets there. Right? And you click onto the comedian comedy with doctor B.
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