Transcript Marriage

Transcript Marriage

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Welcome to Real. Raw With, Dr be this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthened their relationship with God themselves and each other with 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw With Dr be hello.

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This is dr. B along with my lovely wife, miss Portia Gorham Brantley are you doing my love? I’m doing well. Thank you. All right. And I’m trying to get my, my stepson on and we haven’t problem with him. We’re working with him and we also thank God for mr. Watson. His lovely fiance, Morgan. How’s everyone doing? Are they all right? Good. How are you? All right. All right. All right. So Relationship Talk is that we’ll just try to get positive energy about relationships, and also maybe some of the things that you may be doing to, to how about your relationship, and we just want to encourage couples.

1 (1m 20s):
So, so I’m Jason Morgan. I’ll give, give us an introduction how you guys met and take it from there. Go Jason Morgan. All right. Well, introduction to how we met was pretty, pretty straightforward. I think it’s stuff that people are doing more or less nowadays just to online dating it. Wasn’t a website. It wasn’t actual app con hinge, and it was pretty easy to meet people up there. So when I met Morgan, she was one of the few matches in Connecticut.

1 (2m 1s):
So that’s how we kind of linked up and we matched. And that was really, that was it. And that’s all she wrote, you know? So, so because Morgan was faithful to Connecticut, two or three, so you found, and the rest is history. That’s pretty much it. She was, I said, I don’t like driving three, two hours. And then, you know, the matches were planning phones outside of Connecticut. But I said, this is local. She didn’t tremble said, let’s give this a shot. So we, we connected through the app and we went on a date and we had a good time. Morgan comment. Was it important for you to find someone close by, or it didn’t really matter for you?

1 (2m 45s):
And did it really matter for me? I never thought about distance. He travels more than I do so that wasn’t a big deal for me. Right, right, right. All right. Portia how’d you find dr. Brantley?

2 (3m 1s):
You mean how he found me?

1 (3m 4s):
I knew that was coming. I was setting it off with a layout. Yes. How did I find you? My love?

2 (3m 10s):
Well, we met ironically at work.

1 (3m 14s):
We did, we did. And I saw her from the distance and my, my, my, my, my, my, my eyes. See, I’m, I’m still stuttering people, but my, my thinking was cloudy. But when I saw her, she helped me see a little things much differently. So I thank God for that. So, you know what, let’s go here. What do you guys think about long distance relationships? Do they work or don’t they work for you guys? Think about that.

3 (3m 39s):
I think they can work. It’s just a lot more work, you know? Depends how long the distances. And it depends the duration of the long distance. So I think if it’s a short term thing, that’s pretty doable. But when you talk about a year, two years, I gets a little tricky. Okay.

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Morgan, what do you think, Morgan?

3 (4m 3s):
I agree. I think they work. I think it depends on the people. It’s hard. That’s for sure. But if the person matters, you make it work.

1 (4m 13s):
Mrs beautiful. Portia Brantley what do you think about long distance relationships?

2 (4m 18s):
I personally don’t like long distance relationships, but if it works, it works for me. I’m a little spoiled. I just want my thing right here. And now

1 (4m 32s):
The thing about it, and I’m, I’m, I’m trying to get my, my son and his lovely girlfriend on, but it keeps saying edit name kickoff. When you guys came on, it was, it was beautiful, but some reason Tony is having a problem with

3 (4m 48s):
Maybe, maybe send it to the partner instead of him.

1 (4m 52s):
Okay. Good idea. Good idea. Good idea. All right, so, so in reality, do you guys see that your relationship has grown over time? I will say this I’ve been married only two months. Today’s our second month anniversary.

2 (5m 10s):
Yeah.

1 (5m 13s):
Okay. Yes. And I still want to be with her after two months. I’ll do it. Good people.

2 (5m 19s):
Wow.

1 (5m 21s):
But yeah, this is our two month anniversary, but I think a lot of people don’t understand that relationships. You have to really work with them because if you don’t work with them or don’t invest in a relationship, it will cause problems down the road. What do you guys think about that? Investing

3 (5m 38s):
For sure. Yeah. Time is important and you got to put stuff in something into it, you know, to get what you want up. Okay.

1 (5m 48s):
Ms. Brantley comment.

2 (5m 50s):
Sure. Of course. Invest investing into, you know, it’s like investing to your future. You have to do it. If there’s no future investments, you’re just going Willy nilly with just a person. It’s probably not going to look a strong and powerful at the end, but investment with communication with allowing each other, to earn the trust in and for each other. And you know, for me, allowing the man to be the man, like letting him, you know, kind of stuck and Sort of letting him set the pace for how the relationship is, you know, how he wants the relationship to go and for the woman to be wise in us enough to listen to, to that process for him.

1 (6m 44s):
Right. Right. And, and, and also, Oh, Hey, wait a minute. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. And drum roll please.

4 (6m 54s):
Yeah,

1 (7m 4s):
We knew he was <inaudible> Tony. Caitlin. Please tell us about you guys quickly about tremendous. It will continue in our conversation. Great. Toni and Kaitlin.

4 (7m 19s):
Sure. My name is Tony Fox joined with my girlfriend. We currently live together. We are approaching a little over a month and a half of living together and our gorgeous new condo. We are working very hard to, you know, work together and, you know, get down our new routine as a couple first time for me, second time for her. So I’m just trying to do with all the right things and make her happy,

1 (7m 55s):
Ah, all the right things like following her directions, how to get back on stream yet,

4 (8m 1s):
Which laptop?

1 (8m 3s):
Caitlin, on your point, how’d you all get together? What’d you guys mean that? Go ahead.

4 (8m 9s):
We met at work. I was working at this place called Hubble and then he started like three years after I had been working there and yeah, we had this like Halloween con dress up contest at work and he wanted me to do his face to make up for him. So,

1 (8m 31s):
And that was the move. So that was the move, Tony. That was the move beyond.

4 (8m 35s):
No, it really was. No, sorry. I was just gonna say, you know, we met at work and things, you know, start off as friends, you know, similar to you and my mom, you know, both met at Webster slowly, but surely, you know, and here we both are.

1 (9m 9s):
Okay. All right. So, so ladies, I’m gonna let you guys talk first. What Morgan, I’ll start with you. What is the most important thing for you and then relationship. And then I go to Caitlin and then I go to my lovely wife, Morgan, you first, what’s the most important thing for you? And then Relationship

4 (9m 31s):
Communication. I need him to hear me. I agree.

1 (9m 41s):
I like how Morgan, as she was talking, she slowly touched his head and ear and said, I need

4 (9m 49s):
Help.

1 (9m 50s):
Caitlin. What’s important for you, Katelyn.

4 (9m 53s):
I would definitely agree with that. And Hmm. I guess I would say allowing each other to fully be themselves, like I don’t have to act like, I don’t know, just like another person when I’m around telling me I can completely act like goofy and stuff like that. I don’t feel like I have to pretend to be anything. I’m not

1 (10m 21s):
All right, ms. Portia Brantley, what’s important for you, Madam,

4 (10m 32s):
There are so many things that are important, but for me it’s like, it’s a very, very small things. I do believe like my husband connection is very, very important to us and whatever ways we come up with that connection is really, really great for those of you that don’t know. Well, next door is Tony is my son. So Jason, me, Tony, Tony, me, Jason Morgan. I mean, yeah. Morgan meet Tony as well.

1 (11m 1s):
Yes. I had to be on my best behavior people because her son, Tony Senator is quite bigger than me and I have to be with my behavior. So I will, it’s really in the dynamics that in Relationship, as he talked about, the women talked about, you know, connection communication. One more question, ladies. And then I called, then I go to the men. How important is date night to you? Katelyn? I go with you, ms. Brantley and then Morgan, how important is date night to you and Caitlin?

4 (11m 36s):
I like we spend every night together. So, so like, I don’t know. It kind of feels like a date night every night. We were really casual. We like to dislike, watch your movies and eat good food together that he cooks he.

2 (11m 54s):
Yeah. Yeah. He’s really good at cooking. So like, yeah, just, I mean, it’s important definitely to spend time together, but we don’t like have this like official date night or really like, except for the week.

1 (12m 11s):
All right, ms.

2 (12m 12s):
Brantley how’s important date night to you Madam well, day and night is very, very important to me. I like to dance even though there’s like work inside COBIT date night is very important to me. It like keeps fun are our date nights apparently currently on Fridays. So Tim stops working pretty early and we plan something and it’s usually a lot of fun, whether it’s with other people or just among ourselves, but movies have opened if you’re in Connecticut, it’s the movie theater in Milford is now open at the mall. So we’ve been going there. We also have our casual date nights where we have fire pit night and we will sit in my backyard and have fire night and sit and chat it up and also sip it up.

2 (12m 59s):
Cause you know, I’m the sit and chat queen. So we do that and have good food as well. You know, we’re very simple as well as salads and you know, a lot of veggies, veggies and protein. We’ve had crab night, we’ve done date night with caitryn and Tony Fox as well. And, and, and just visiting people and whatever. But date night for me is very important. It helps us just laugh together and because we both work so hard. So we like when there’s just that time where we don’t have anything to do with our phones and we’re just enjoying one another and we do do that weekly and sometimes two or three times a week, so.

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Okay. All right, Morgan, your point about date night,

2 (13m 56s):
Dana is, is like non-negotiable around here. I will start to act crazy if you don’t take me somewhere. At some point I need to be able to get dressed. I need to be, he needs to tell me I look good and we need to go somewhere. Oh, we lost him. Are we still on? Yeah, we’re still alive. So I guess I’ll take over. So, so is that it for you Morgan? Oh, I need it. It’s very important. It’s definitely important. So, so fellas, what you like, what are you guys want us to talk about?

2 (14m 43s):
Like, what is important for you, Jason? And tell me both in your relationship when it comes to being the man, you both are very powerful men and your communities. What is it like for you, Jason? And what’s Mo what’s most important to you?

3 (15m 1s):
It’s important to just be able to lead and be a man. So Morgan is very good at allowing me to lead with majority of decisions and, you know, still taking in her input on things. So that’s helpful, you know, date night and so on. That’s something that I think we all enjoy when it’s time. I don’t have a problem finding stuff to do or things to explore or ventures. So that part is that’s easy, but yeah. Oh, did the TC, is that okay?

2 (15m 41s):
So, so I just, I just asked them a question. I asked both Jason and Tim and Tony, both what was most important to them and our relationship. So Mason was just astounding on that part of it.

1 (16m 0s):
Thank you. My love for tag teaming when my, my iPad went down. Thank you so very much. See that’s called teamwork people. That’s called teamwork. Thank you very much. One question that I have for the men and I’ll, and I’ll start this one. One of the issues I had about it becoming married is that I was afraid. And of course my fear was not substantiated at all. Portia changing on me and I th I think it’s fair that most men have, but my lovely wife has not changed at all. And I’m glad she hasn’t. And we talked about, you know, we’re going to change for the better, not for the worst. So, so, so Tony, Jason, tell me how important it is for your respect of mates to either get better, stay the same, but definitely not going backwards.

1 (16m 50s):
You first told me.

3 (16m 52s):
Sure. Thanks for the question. Or I think it’s very important. I believe in personal development as human beings, we are forever striving to learn and I choose to not be stagnant in life because then that is when you become a drifter and ultimately allow other people to make decisions for you. And I try to encourage Kaitlin and I both to make our own decisions, you know, with each other in mind, but we respect each other’s choices. And I think that is a huge part, as I believe, you know, it’s important to acknowledge that we are our own separate entities that are working together for the greater goal of love and to have a successful partnership.

1 (17m 43s):
Okay. All right, Jason, your perspective,

3 (17m 48s):
My perspective. Yeah. When it comes to us, just staying true to who we are, you know, in the beginning of a relationship and according lost TC here. Yeah. My perspective is, you know, we should, we should be as close in the areas in which we started as far as our attitudes, as far as our feelings toward each other, how we treat each other and we should evolve in a positive manner. So I think that’s vital to it. And I think when it comes to just having a partner, our needs and our desires change over time, so we both have to be open-minded to help each other with those shifts and changes.

3 (18m 37s):
And I think that’s, you know, one of the keys.

2 (18m 42s):
So that’s that, that is awesome. Thank you both for, for, for your input on that. So as well, this is going to be geared to the guys as well because women will always have worse to say. So I will ask the guys another question as well until Tim or TC comes back. So, so with relationships, we know that Jason and Morgan are fairly, fairly new engaged failure, new engaged, and con congratulations to you guys for that. And totally Toni and Kaitlin. You’re also like pretty new in the Relationship game, even though you’ve been friends for quite a while, both of you have met on different, totally different spectrums.

2 (19m 33s):
So Jason and Tony, are there any, I don’t want to go on expectations for you, but what is it that you guys need and your relationship with Jason, you could go first,

3 (19m 50s):
Just, you know, open communication, loyalty partnership, just someone who’s in the trenches with you, you know, life throws many curve balls, and it’s important to have, you know, a partner who’s ready to get down and dirty when it, when the time calls for it. And because everything’s not going to just be all fun and games and dates and this and that. So Morgan’s a hard worker and she’s very persistent and the, her goals in life, and that matches up with my ambition and it just works, you know, to where we’re compatible. So communication loyalty, and, you know, just that, that confidence in each other, that’s beautiful,

2 (20m 37s):
Tony as well for you.

3 (20m 40s):
So I, I would say, I don’t want to say a little to no expectations, but I feel as though Katelyn and I are at a point or my perspectives, at least where I really want her to be the person that she is. And I want her to treat me as naturally as she feels. So, you know, whether that is, you know, cheering, or if she’s angry at me, I just want her to be her most natural self. And it really shows, you know, the person that she is, and it shows her character, she’s a lovely partner and, you know, every night feels like a date night.

3 (21m 25s):
And then I’m pleased to say that. So, yeah, that’s, that’s what I would say.

2 (21m 33s):
So one more question to the guys and, and because I am a mother and the mother of Tony Fox and people have asked me about like, you know, I always said this, Tony, I thought you were supposed to like, get something that resembles your mother, you know, is that a true statement? Like, do men kind of indirectly look for something that is similar or re is a reflection of your mother or, and, or women that have been in your life? Like how important is that number one? And is that true or is it a myth that you guys look for?

2 (22m 13s):
Something that resemble your mother, Tony T first?

3 (22m 17s):
I think it’s a myth, but there might be some, some subconscious truth to that. Clearly Caitlin as white and your mom, your, your, your first and reality, all your personalities are similar. And I’m not the only one that noticed it actually with some family members that brought it up first and you and I both were kinda shocked, you know? So just kind of hear that and, and think about my relationship from, from that perspective. But that’s not something that I initially, you know, look for, like, Oh, you’re not like my mom.

3 (22m 57s):
I don’t know. Like I said, how I answered my last question, it’s all about how someone treats me naturally. And that’s what I found with Kaitlin.

2 (23m 11s):
Awesome. Jason. Okay.

3 (23m 13s):
I agree. I think it’s kind of a myth. I think guys just w we’re so alike. We were so up and down. I think anything can get our attention at any point in time. So when it comes to settling down for myself, I just go off what’s there. You know, I don’t go off of prerequisites or things that check boxes that need to be there. That there’s a connection and the connection grows. It doesn’t matter how tall

4 (23m 47s):
Or holler the person, how long their hair is. You know, that all that stuff goes out the window. And there’s a true connection. So I don’t know that searching for someone based off of another ideal is the, the way to do it. Awesome. Thank you guys for that.

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4 (25m 9s):
Tim, welcome back. Where have you been? I have a lovely, beautiful and attractive, intelligent wife that can take over where I left off, sweetheart. You’re doing well, want to just continue and I’ll just, I’ll I’ll fit in what I fit in, as you say, because you’re doing so well. So if they have my level, so ladies, I guess, do you have a question for the lady SIM? Yes, ladies, you know, one of the things, you know, and, and, you know, I’m, I’m much older, you know, I’m, I’m 55 years old.

4 (25m 50s):
Do you see a difference in my generation and your generation as far as a basis of dating? Or do you think it’s still all the same Kaitlin, Morgan, and then Portia, what do you think? That’s a good question. I don’t really see a difference, actually see a difference just like, about being with each other and like, I’m doing things that you enjoy together and just spending that quality time as far as like dating those or like all the time together, but I don’t really see a difference.

4 (26m 37s):
Yes. All right. So let me change the question then. Do you think dating is important as

1 (26m 44s):
It was 10 years ago, or then people are not too sure about dating and they just want to go through the process or they’re very serious about it. What do you think about that? Caitlyn Morgan and then ms. Brantley we think about that

4 (27m 0s):
It’s well, from my point of view, I’m, if I’m getting the question correctly, like, it does seem at times, especially with social media, that people do certain things in regards to meeting for like the views or for the social attention, as opposed to like the, the authenticity of the relationship. I definitely get that sense with this day and age. Whereas like, I don’t think social media was really a thing when you were dating or like, Sorry, but yeah.

4 (27m 46s):
So there’s that for sure. I think a lot of that has gone out the window as far as like genuine connections with people because of so social media and different types of like pressures there are for like to make your Relationship look perfect in other people’s eyes, as opposed to how it is in real life.

1 (28m 7s):
God beautiful. Kaitlin Morgan, you’re pointing to my lovely wife’s Morgan.

4 (28m 14s):
I think that, I think that now, at least with my generation, everybody just wants to chill. Everybody wants to talk to multiple people or a day. I don’t know if talking to someone and dating someone is the same thing anymore, but they just Swan and play the field all day long. And I feel like with my parents, with my grandparents, like there was, there was intention. You were dating for a reason. My grandfather, he met my grandmother. They dated, they married within months. My parents dated in high school, married when they got out. And Jason was like that too, because he’s, he’s older than me.

4 (28m 54s):
And so they had it, he, he was very intentional with me and I hadn’t experienced that with guys my age.

1 (29m 7s):
Okay. My lovely wife. Portia your comment.

4 (29m 12s):
So I’m also pretty up there in age, and I’ve been through a C let’s say the twenties, you know, the teenage to twenties, to thirties, and now, you know, forties into almost 50. So it seems a transition of relationships. And I will say for my ears and my experiences, it’s pretty much all of you have said it. I remember being in my twenties and people were very serious about relationships. It looks like

2 (29m 42s):
You have to get that woman, you know, make her yours, make her an honest woman. And that’s what a lot of guys went for as compared to now, what I see is that I hear a lot of younger people say it’s so hard to find something similar to find that connection. And it’s almost a pity because I mean, I remember, you know, running from the guys or, you know, whatever, I was always cool with them, but I remember running from them like, Oh my God, it’s just wedding too many. And you know, we’re in that all the young girls that you know, would have been in their twenties are saying, where are the guys?

2 (30m 27s):
And the guys are saying the same thing. I think everybody stuck like this. I think they are they’re into this rather than into the communication, you know, of the whole thing. And my thirties, it was all like, I just wanted to have fun. It’s kind of like what Morgan is saying. I guess I’m, I’m not sure how old you are, but in our thirties, man, we want it to run the streets with our girlfriend and have a great time and get banged out if we could, we’re all grown here, but it was just like, it was just like, you know, we were all friends and we want it to have fun. We want it to have a good time, you know?

2 (31m 8s):
Yeah. It was like, Hey yeah, you know, whatever. But, and then at your forties, you know, going into, you know, forties, your kids are growing up and now, and you’re not running around as much. It’s like, yeah. At some point you do want to settle down. I think every woman desires with a certain type of companion. Sometimes we’re not as approachable as a few 40 year olds. And sometimes we’re were so into our, you know, work habits and workforce. And I would say old neg, old, bad support system that we don’t know how to get rid of that.

2 (31m 50s):
So, so a lot of times, as you know, from what I see and from what I experienced with other P other people there there’s been decade, every decade has been quite a change. I’m going into my fifties now as of next year and I’m going in as a married person. But I will say I did have a lot of fun being a very single person, raring my son, wearing my son. And I’m just having a lot of fun dating when I didn’t have him. So, you know, there’s, there’s quite a difference that the grandam mix of a lot of things have changed being out in the world as a single woman was definitely different and later in life, as opposed to being single in my twenties.

2 (32m 38s):
So, so yeah, I’m not sure Dr be his as well. So, so with that on the flip side, guys, what about for you? What, what differences, what differences kind of to Tim’s or TCS question? What differences have you guys experienced and, or Tim, his background? I don’t know what other question he has, but what differences maybe have you guys experienced? They sent me first,

3 (33m 10s):
I believe men and female have just little different cycles. You know, you go through their period of fun and single and all that stuff. And then at some point you mature and you slow down. So yeah, for me, I just, I’ve been kind of a Relationship person for the most part, even in my younger years. So it wasn’t, it’s not hard for me, even though, you know, the, the, the options are plentiful and they are out there as a, as a young man, as a middle aged man made 30 whatever young twenties, as you said, there’s a lot of options.

3 (33m 59s):
And sometimes guys like to just play the field and play the options. So even though that’s, there, there is a benefit to having a core partner, a core relationship that I think in, in our modern society gets overlooked or doesn’t get spoken of enough. And it’s not until it’s way later in lights or your, your, your, you know, you’re in the elder years of your, your midlife that you decide, okay, now I’m ready to settle down. And then it’s not always that easy to find there, the one that you want to settle down with. So my philosophy is if something’s in front of you and it works, and you’re good take that benefit, you know, take it while you have it versus called out for something better or more fun.

2 (34m 55s):
Awesome. Tony.

3 (34m 57s):
So I guess I see a difference in generations, especially with regards to social media, specifically for my peers and my friends. We are either all in relationships or, or trying to focus on our careers. You know, I’m 24 years old. So my friends and I, you know, kind of fresh out of college have a couple of years. So I’m really trying to get a good basis for our life and really building that foundation.

3 (35m 38s):
And, and some

4 (35m 38s):
Of us, you know, build that foundation quicker or earlier on and become more stable as I am now. And as some of my friends are, but on the other hand, some of my friends, you know, just actually moved out to California and to Arizona, you know, to pursue their careers. So it depends on what stage you’re at in life. Like, like Jason said, every guy has his ups and downs. And, you know, during that time, if something does make sense and makes you happy, then that is what you rightfully should, should pursue.

2 (36m 23s):
That is beautiful. Thank you guys. Thank you so much. So as couples, let’s talk about some fun stuff. Like what, what, what are like two of your biggest pet peeves with, within each other? We’ll let Kaitlin and Tony go first and then Jason and Morgan. Okay.

4 (36m 48s):
Well, he knows one of mine, cause I say it all the time, but Tony’s a very passionate cooker. He’s he’s chef and he’s just very passionate when he cooks. So after he makes a meal, it is just like, it does not a disaster. He’s gotten better with it, but like, there’s a lot of stuff everywhere and just like seasonings over here and like Self and the sink and whatever. So that’s one. Hmm. That’s another one I do too much at night.

4 (37m 28s):
Oh, recently? Yeah. Recently he started vacuuming at like 10 30 last night and I was just like, it’s not necessary. You need to go to bed. Like you gotta wake up early. So he like, he’s, he’s more of a night guy, I think, but he has to be up early for work. So he likes to do stuff at night. And like last night he was putting a bed together and then he started vacuuming and I was like, dude, if you need help, you got to wait until tomorrow because I’m not doing it tonight. So that’s another one, I guess. But overall he’s pretty like pretty easy to live with. I’ll say.

2 (38m 5s):
And Tony with Kaitlin, I guess he gets that night out thing, honestly for me. But go ahead

4 (38m 11s):
With Kaitlin. I don’t think I’ve heard that. No, I’m in there like simple reminders that I try to tell you. Biggest thing is just like put everything back where it should be like your shoes, like your shoes. And I’m working on that myself and my clothes shoes, you know, closing the hamper,

3 (38m 36s):
You know, that type of thing, you know? No, I don’t like food in the bedroom. Yeah know, just cause there’s no place to put it besides either I’m like a nightstand or the floor. So I don’t know. I just don’t like it. That’s about it. Just keeping things clean and you’re clean, but yeah, that’s about it. There’s there’s, there’s really no. Oh, picking up after her cat.

3 (39m 17s):
There we go. That’s hard to keep up all these very hairy. That’s an ongoing thing. Yeah.

2 (39m 25s):
Yeah. That cat Romeo Morgan. I just have one thing that drives me nuts. Jason walks into every room and changes it to how he likes the room. So I like a lot of light. I like, I can be like really quiet if Jason walks in the room and I’m sitting here and he will close the curtains, turn up the lights, turn on the TV, turn on the radio. And they walked back out and go like, you all see ask me every day, all the time. And Dr Jason.

3 (40m 11s):
Yeah. Morgan’s pretty good. It’s not, I don’t, it’s not blaring out at me. Right. All that. But I wouldn’t say just communicating like efficiently and yeah, just communicating and making sure we’re on the same page and sweat and stuff. Most of the time is there, but sometimes it’s short circuit. So actually, and then her memory, she, she has like a, a faulty memory thing sometimes. So when we’re having discussions, you know, I’m usually the stronger memory person.

3 (40m 58s):
So, but that’s, that’s not a pet peeve. That’s just, you know, that’s, it’s part of our makeup, which is no problem. It’s cool.

2 (41m 7s):
Well, ladies, I think we all share that. Like I saw pointing at Toni and Jason says, he’s the memory bank? So it’s Tim. Tim is like the memory bank. He knows his history and the, and the hour and the time like women have a certain, we keep a certain, you know, tab on things. But men have actual facts and like Real lifetime things that they’re like, no, this, that, and the third. And if we hear them, the way we should, then our lives will probably go a little smoother. But you know, we’re, we’re sort of combative. So one of my biggest pet peeves with Tim is that like tonight we are going, we’re doing a facet of things today.

2 (41m 53s):
Right? So we will work, you know? Well, I was actually off today, but I, I had a meeting that I called in for, but Tim had my biggest pet peeve with him is overbooking. Like he’ll overbook stuff. Even if we’re, even if we’re like doing a date night, he wants to like do 5,000 things on one night. And it’s like, babe, it’s not necessary. It’s so not necessary. So like tonight he overbooked the kind of, he he’s getting better with it, but we have comedy night, I’ll go backwards because we have comedy night, we’re doing this. He D he’s actually going to do something after this. I need to go driving because of his schedule that he made for us.

2 (42m 33s):
I need to go pick up my sister, drive an hour, to see another sister. And then we’re going to Mohegan all to like party and see him. But it’s like, he has this thing with like, he gets booking happy and he’s like, Oh, let’s do this too. And let’s do this and that. And it’s like, do we have 15 minutes to get 30 minutes away? Like, how do we do that? Like, it’s not, it’s not feasible. And then, so, and then he’s a guy that’s on time, which I definitely appreciate. But sometimes he just gets like way too crazy with the overbooking. So that’s one of my pet peeves with him. And another pet peeve is what’s my other pet peeve.

2 (43m 18s):
He’s kind of the same as Tony. Like when he’s cooking, he has, you know, it doesn’t really, there’s no pattern I guess, to it. So when he’s cooking, he just likes cooks, cooks, cooks, cooks, cooks, and he’s like, Hey, well look what I did. And I’m looking back at the kitchen like, Oh Mike Cain disaster. It’s all good. And, and, and he’s a lot of fun.

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2 (44m 32s):
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1 (44m 46s):
Thanks for telling the world about my issues. Madam. I love you so very much.

2 (44m 50s):
Oh, wait, what is your, what is your pet peeve with me? We’d like one, one or two of pet peeves with me.

1 (44m 56s):
My biggest pet peeve about my lovely, beautiful, attractive, wonderful white is that the toilet tissues hide when she comes into the house and she goes wrong, like crazy. I can’t keep enough toilet tissue in my house. I don’t know about what these women do with our tissues, but they have a privilege that we guys do not have. That’s my pet peeve right now. I got to keep a whole stack doing cold bed night, James. I was in prayer going around the world and I’m here to talk to you all for my wife and son. And that second wave comments you got to get ahead.

3 (45m 31s):
I started stacking up.

1 (45m 38s):
So that’s my pet peeve right now. Okay. I told her to shop on a split of Relationship dang it. But they do. All right. Okay. We’ve got about five more minutes. We promise to have you guys back again. We’ll I’ll probably probably use zoom or another thing, because this is really bothering me as my wife knows, but technology doesn’t work. I get really frustrated. So maybe I’m frustrated right now.

2 (46m 13s):
Well, breathe, baby. You got to breathe. It’s all fine. It’s still going forward.

1 (46m 18s):
Fine. Take it over. But I know. Okay. One thing about social media is that when I first started dating Portia I didn’t feel pressured, but I saw how a lot of guys were talking about their relationships on social media. And I was like, I’m not ready to do that yet. And one thing I do appreciate about Portia she did not force me to do it. It was when I was ready is when I was ready to do it. So, guys, what do you think about social media and your relationships and telling them and telling the world about it?

3 (46m 58s):
I’ll start off with this one. So Tim had kind of had the same experience. I really wanted my relationship with Caitlin to be more authentic than just, you know, posting, you know, good times or whatever. I’d rather really live in a moment with Kaitlin and, you know, just, just have authentic experiences because that’s what life ultimately is just a collection of experiences, both good and bad, but for us, the good outweigh the bad, you know, and you know, I’m, I’m a pretty private guy, you know, as I get older, even though I’m only 24, as I get older, becoming more kind of closed off.

3 (47m 46s):
And the people that you know, are my friends, you know, the number they can contact me, I contact them, but I don’t need to necessarily share my life with individuals that I necessarily don’t know or, or talk to, you know, on a even monthly basis. So that, that’s just my personal opinion and just, just becoming more private and trying to bolster and support the people that are in my small circle. Alright, Jason saying, I have a unique relationship with social media because of the events and the marketing and the type of things I do with my group.

3 (48m 35s):
So I attended to keep most of that focused on the business side and the marketing of the things I’m doing. But I do think, you know, as Matt and Morgan grew in our relationship, we talked about, you know, what’s appropriate what we wanted to share. We didn’t care to have everyone in our business. We actually went to the Philippines last October and I don’t think we’ll share it as a picture of ourselves. Right. And a picture. And then I don’t remember, but my point is we weren’t on the memory bank, but I don’t remember that.

3 (49m 20s):
I don’t, I don’t think we were like, so their point and other people point earlier, like just shell case on ourselves, like we were living our best life and doing this and that. We just, we didn’t, we saw some amazing things and said some amazing pictures, but that was our moment that we chose to keep from ourselves and not necessarily share to the social media world. That’s awesome.

5 (49m 50s):
People question my baby. No, go ahead.

1 (49m 58s):
Think for you to say something that was very powerful. And again, I apologize to all of you guys, Jason Morgan tank, I’m sorry, Toni and Katelyn. And Portia, I apologize for the technical issues. I will fall wifi here, but for some reason I have issues. So we will come back and do this again in November. Are you guys up for that? Yes or no?

5 (50m 24s):
Yeah. All right. So what we’ll do, we’ll,

1 (50m 29s):
We’ll find a time and then we’ll, we’ll do that. So, and mean each of us our minute, why don’t you will encourage a couple of out what they may be going through and give them an encouraging word. Jason, I’ll start with you with Morgan and then Katelyn, and then Portia Jason and Morgan. Do you have somebody to encourage your word?

4 (50m 49s):
So just be, you know, have a plan. What are your relationships and know where you want to go with it instead of just flying by the seats for that day phrase, but they have a plan, basically know what you want. Yeah. That, that, yeah. Yeah. Have a plan and just be intentional. And don’t worry about what society says you should do. Just do what makes you happy and what makes both of y’all happen and that’s it.

1 (51m 25s):
Okay. Tony.

4 (51m 31s):
Oh yeah. Morgan. Oh, sorry. I thought he was speaking for both of us plan. And I think for ladies and Portia, you touched on it, allow him, he was intentional and I allowed him to be, and I come from a single mom, so I don’t know how to get to it and get it done, but I had to really learn to allow him to be and allow him to leave me. So I heard as well.

1 (51m 59s):
Okay.

4 (52m 3s):
Yeah. I think supporting each other with whatever your goals.

1 (52m 12s):
Sure.

4 (52m 12s):
Okay. Supporting each other with whatever they might want to do. For example, Tony’s in school right now and he, you know, it takes up a lot of time and he also has, you know, his nine to five jobs as well, but I still want him to do things that make him grow as a person. So I’m like very supportive of it. And so things like that. And then also another thing is like doing small things for each other that make the other person know that they care. Like this is something super small, but like if I I’m out, Tony loves like data rate or power needs. So I’ll just come home with one and he’ll be super happy about it.

4 (52m 52s):
And it just shows that I was like thinking of him while I was out and about, and I know he appreciates it and he does the same thing for me. So I would just say before anyone out there just, you know, give effort at the end of the day, that’s what it’s all about. You know, your partner or spouse, if they don’t like it, don’t press your buttons. If you don’t have to, you know, if you push a button and make sure it’s the happy button,

3 (53m 29s):
You know, try to live life peacefully, that’s what a relationship is all about. It’s, it’s, it’s just, you know, there shouldn’t be any drama. There shouldn’t be, you know, any type of negative energy or jealousy envy between, you know, two people. It should just be, you know, two people supporting each other for a common goal, whatever that goal might be for that couple. And as long as you have a plan, like, like Jason said, I think that’s the most important, you know, and you know, just reverse engineer your goals

5 (54m 7s):
Portia

2 (54m 9s):
Yes. So I don’t know if, if people are looking at these number one amazing men, because each man that you see here is a great model. I think that’s the word, it’s a great model and their communities and they’re, they’re all doing the modules. So women that are looking for men like these men that you see, you might want to take notes from each woman that are around them as well. I see a very laid back couple. I see, I see a couple who is like, they’re all lit. We’re all laid back.

2 (54m 49s):
We all love to have fun. We’re all, we all allow the men to be men yet. We’re all sitting in these men’s lives. So if I was say that particular thing, it goes back to what Jason said. If a man doesn’t have a plan, how are you going to fit into it’s life? And with these men, they all have very multiple things to do. Not only in their community, but generally your mind and everything else. And we didn’t touch into it with time to go like far deeper into it. But these men are amazing men. And these are amazing men that were sitting on my line. And I’m also great, grateful and gracious to sit among the different facets of women that we also see here.

2 (55m 39s):
It’s very important that we keep ourselves and lively that we keep ourselves into the guy as well, and that we keep ourselves, right. So Caitlin and I have formed her a little sisterhood, you know, a mother to daughter hood that I love dearly Morgan, you are a fascinating woman. I noticed you guys after the, there there was, what was that movie like a Bonnie and Clyde movie, but a queen and slim. And you guys took an amazing picture. And I was like, Oh my God, that’s like crying. And some,

5 (56m 19s):
My my idea, my idea,

1 (56m 27s):
It’s just like the capturing of it all. And it was just so beautiful. And, and I just think we have to keep it fun and just sex and lively and yet comfortable. And like Katelyn said, you know, you know, it’s like Caitlin and Tony said it should be peaceful. You know, when, when we go out and think of each other, bring something back as the really small things that make these men happy. It’s the really small things and just allow them to be who they are. And that was over a minute and TCS back I’m I love. And my last point is that even with all this technical problems, I’ve having my lovely wife didn’t yell at me and she didn’t scream at me.

1 (57m 11s):
And she just took the helm. A and this is a perfect and acknowledge. You have a Relationship, is that where I am strong at? I’m sorry, where we get, she is strong, where I’m strong. She may be weak. What does working together as my wife knows all about connection and the more connected you are, the better you can communicate. So God bless you guys. I will look for another time in November and we’ll do this round table again. All right. People. All right, until baby, baby. Get ready until next time.

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