Transcript for Spicy Sensual Stimulated Sex P.1
Transcript for Spicy Sensual Stimulated Sex P.1
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Welcome to Real. Raw With Dr B This nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthened their relationship with God themselves and each other. With 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw with Dr B O
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Goodness. This is Dr B and we keep it Real Raw we are so Real and so Raw, uh, some Christian stations don’t even want us to come on. It’s I real war. We are. And guess what? We gone there the day people, uh, I made my mind, uh, every, every three or four weeks, I’m going out to people I’m going after people with their, for lack of knowledge. So every three or four weeks we’re going to do river. This he Spicy Seductive Sensual Saved Satisfied Sanctified SEX we’re going to have different parts of this.
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Cause uh, I mean y’all could deal with all of us at one time, because now why is this important relationships? Because there are a lot of married couples. All right. Who are not having sex. Okay. They’re not enjoying what God has given them. Okay. Okay. Now let’s understand this. Who’s the creator of SEX. I can’t hear y’all. Can’t hear you. Yeah. God created SEX alright, so God created SEX alright.
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So since God created SEX then those who are believers in God, especially should be what? Enjoying sex, but they’re not, they’re not happy. They’re not Satisfied they’re having affairs. Okay? Okay. They’re having affairs that they’re slipping off here is slipping off there. All right. That they don’t understand. That is a job of the enemy to keep them not, uh, happy with what God has given a married couple.
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It is they’re okay. And there’s so many blessings. Oh my God. There’s so many blessings that comes with Intimacy. Okay. But now men hear me loud and clear for a woman. It stops between not between the legs, but between the ears. Okay. All right. Well, they ain’t gonna like me today. All right. Men, it starts between her ears, not her legs. Now some of you got wives who have very high libido.
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Alright. Or SEX jive. Okay. But for most women, you know what a stimulate me. Oh Lord. The P D river that stimulate me between my ears. You know, a God comes behind his wife, you know, starts to immediately start to unbutton her pants or, you know, start to go up your skirt. Hey, Hey, I know even now and then cut, but she first, wait a minute.
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Can you stimulate my brain? Okay. Uh, can you say you love me? Uh, uh, can you say you still want to be with me? All right. So when you start stimulating from that point of view, it changes everything. You know, you know what I’m saying? It changes everything. Okay. So it’s is understanding. Is that, am I stimulating her? Okay. Now, now, now wives. I got right about my back. I got to be fair. You know, for us as guys, I’m going to tell you right now for us as guys, it ain’t that hot.
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Yeah. Use that word. They die hard. Touch us in the morning. That’s all. That’s all we need. Just that one touch. Just that will look now here’s the problem with a lot of couples. All right. So the man sometimes treats his wife like him, all the wife may treat the husband like her. In other words, you know, well, I need this to get in the mood and I need that to get to move. And so, because you’re not translating. Okay. That’s the key word because you’re not translating.
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Okay. Cause you’re not translating. You’re not what, what’s the, what’s the key word. You’re not connecting. Okay. When you don’t translate, there is no connection. Can I say that again? I will. When it comes to the married bedroom, you see if you are not translating, okay, what does my wife need? What do my husband needs when that’s not being translated? That there’s no connection. And then the SEX is just there. Now. Now ladies, let me say, when you did a little while longer, all right, let me, let me stay with you a little bit longer.
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Alright. I’m still a little bit longer than I jump on the men real quick. All right. Now, when there is Intimacy and the man is doing what’s right. He don’t want to, he didn’t want it to be like, it’s a job. All right, let’s get this over. Get this over with. Okay. I got to watch a desperate Housewives. The man don’t want that. Okay. Nor does he want a starfish either. I’m going to get in trouble for this, your marriage, Wallace.
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Tough. You’re just lay out of there about fish. All right. I EPR being real nice. You know? I be Raw okay. He and I don’t want us to fish. Alright. Cause the starfish has no love, no emotions and you just going through the flow. Okay. So those things cannot happen because that’s going to impede. Okay. That’s going to destroy the lovemaking and hear me loud and clear when there is bad.
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SEX With a couple, that’s also a bad word relationship. Okay. Now to me, a bad SEX uh, for a married couple is when they’re not having good orgasms. That’s why they don’t want me on the regular. Okay. Okay. Okay. That’s how you want me to, okay. Okay. There has to be a flow. Okay. When there’s not a flow where he know about this and I’m also a SEX coach.
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Okay? Okay. I’ve written, I’ve written seven books on Intimacy and a 24 or relationship Intimacy and theology. So, alright, so that’s what I know. Alright, so, so, so when there’s not a flow of orgasm, that’s not being done. That’s bad. Let me give you a point in case. All right. Y’all know where I’m going. They don’t like me today. So, so for example, the husband reaches the mountain top.
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He has his orgasm. Alright. I ain’t gonna use the other term, but you know, he he’s all guys though. And then the next thing you know. Oh, okay. That’s not wrong to your white peers. Wait a minute. So she works that hard to bring you to your orgasm. And then after the orgasm brother, you go, where’s my sleep atmosphere.
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Did your wife, your wife don’t want to be even the way. I don’t want to be doc Vader. Alright. Are you ready to go? I got myself. No shit don’t want that. That does not help. So good point. Good point brothers is that is your wife happy? All right, because if your wife’s going to happy in the bedroom, okay? It’s not going to work. And can I tell somebody this a happy wife makes a happy what husband, see?
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You thought I’m going to say happy life. I do not agree with that. I do not agree. Happy wife, happy life. I do not agree with that. You know what I agree with? Happy wife, happy husband, happy life that I agree with that I can do it, but there’s other stuff about, you know what? Just make her happy. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I’m trying to tell you right now that if you really want to flow through with your relationship is making each other what? Happy. Okay.
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Ooh. I’m bringing it down today. Alright. Alright. This is the part one. This this is part one. All right. It has to be mutual. Okay. There has to be mutual touching mutual Intimacy mutual awry. You do what Satisfied mean? And I do it. Satisfied you know, why is it so important to me? Because as a kid, Oh, it’s still in my head. I had preachers get up in the pulpit, telling people how to have SEX. Where are you in my bedroom?
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Preacher. Why are you telling me what I cannot do in my bedroom? Now I was a kid at the time. So I wouldn’t tell about my bedroom, but you know what I’m talking to in general, you know, now you can’t do this in the bedroom. Why? Why not? Now? As I tell my counselees only thing, I don’t agree with all three ways. Okay? Okay. You can’t do three way. Oh, I’m sorry. It was like everything else. I ain’t gonna mess with you. And you know what? I want you to mess with me when I get married and I don’t want you to mess up don’t you don’t uh, uh, I know you married and their preacher, but you’re doing, I don’t want that.
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I don’t want that. Do you want that? No, but that was, has happened on a regular basis. All right, because it hasn’t been a flow through. Okay. That hasn’t been a, you know what, let me please you, because again, one of the biggest hindrance of good sex with the guy with a married couple
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Selfishness,
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When you are selfish in the bedroom, that is going to affect everything else. Because here’s my logic. If you’re salvaging the bedroom, you’re going to be selfish everywhere else. Okay. So sir, it can not be all about you. Ma’am it can’t be all about you. All right. I’ll come back. Y’all get some water. Cause I know you need something. All right. Get some water, come back. But the part two,
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The Bible says that any man that loves his wife loves himself. So it’s in that vein that Dr, B wrote the book, successful marriages for successful men, giving guys the tools on marriage that he was never taught.
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I tell you that my ignorance, uh, in my first marriage was definitely shown. And I learned the hard way. And that’s one of the reasons why I write so many books on relationships because no one taught me. And I learned the hard way and it, my heart to help men, especially not learn the hard way
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Is Dr B and a. We are in the midst of our, uh, special Podcast will do, uh, every three or four weeks. Spicy Seductive central Saved Stimulated Sanctified st. Divide. SEX yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I I’m calling all out and getting all the S the words I’m calling. All right, because this is an area that I believe the church really hasn’t dealt with correctly. And every time someone does a, the church gets, why are you talking about that?
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We talk about everything else. Oh boy. What about we’ll? Wait, doesn’t the church supposed to be the guide and it’s in the Bible. Maybe y’all haven’t read the song of Solomon. They number SEX is done with sex, sex, sex, sex, and more SEX. All right. All right. Let’s go to first Corinthians chapter seven. I’m going to real quick. Uh, first crane, chapter seven, first Corinthians chapter. You know what? I’m gonna go. The Hebrews chapter 13.
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Okay. Uh, verse four. Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled. I’ll say that again. Marriage is honorable in all and the bed on defiled. The bed is undefiled in a marriage. The bed, the bed is undefiled. It is on the file. So why are you thinking? And then what? The church does wrongly. It puts a guilt trip on you, right?
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It makes you feel guilty, you know, makes you feel guilty for enjoying sex. And you’re married. Why are you making the person feel guilty for something that God has ordained? Oh, EAP. They don’t let me today. They’ll go. Whoa, why are you feeling guilty when God ordained it? Okay. Why are you fighting? What God put in place? Let’s go to Genesis chapter one, verse 28. I don’t believe he’s called him scripture. Y’all going with scripture on you. I’m calling the Audubon, got the script on him.
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Genesis one 28 says, God blessed him. Okay. You got that part one. God blessed him. Right? So God with the blessing of a man, Adam and Eve. God with a blessing on Adam. And that he brought the blessing. When Adam and Eve, he blessed him and said, and God says, be fruitful, multiply, and replenish the earth and subdue it. You see that being fruitful, multiply and replenish. You know, that means SEX SEX and SEX yeah, that’s what I said.
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Don’t get mad at me. Jesus is one 28. Be fruitful, multiply, replenish. That’s SEX three times with people that matter of fact, I tell my married couples minimum, come on, say, minimum brothers, stop, stop rushing home. Tell your wife about this Podcast or right. Is Brookdale. They will get there, right? Three times people. Why? Because we see in scripture how God said, replenish, multiply the earth, be fruitful.
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So again, it’s understanding and SEX is healthy people. I know y’all don’t believe that, but it’s a help. You feel so much better. Some of you kicking the dog and kicking the cat and kicking everybody else. And your wife is wondering, you know, what’s going on with you? You know why y’all need some loving, but guess what? If they eat P okay. I’m going to say this real nice without getting in trouble. Okay. He P. Okay.
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Y’all don’t know me, but I’m being nice. Okay,
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Great.
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Oh, big nights. You can’t have vomit. I’d be nice and love juice at the same place. Yeah. I kept that. Nice. Okay. I like it. You know, the vomit means anger, right? Right. Just had a major fight. Am I talking? Right? You just had a major fight. So guess what? Everything is. You vomit on each other. You curse each other out. The D D told your son.
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I want to tell you this long time ago, Dan angel, founder just said nasty stuff. Then one of y’all turn around and say, let’s have sex. Uh, we just vomited. We just vomited. And now you won’t have love juice. Whoa, wait a minute. We gotta do with the vomit. And that’s why that’s why brothers. Cause I know love. Okay. Okay. Okay. I see something to do. The scripture will preach. The Bible does says love, covers a multitude of sin.
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Yeah. It said love covers a multitude of sin. It does come up dual sin, but the love is so powerful. It will clean up the vomit first or there we go. See, when you clean up the issues between husband and wife, the Intimacy becomes stronger, but hear me loud and clear. I’m trying to make these as graphic as possible. You cannot make love when your smell environment. At the same time someone gave me an amen. Amen. I know that out there somewhere.
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Okay. You cannot. I’m sorry. That was my preaching voice. I’m just saying you cannot love and making love to your husband, to your wife where there’s vomit because of vomit stinks and guys, okay. What are you talking about, mom? I’m talking about emotional. What?
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Emotional vomit.
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I might teach us. I’m sorry. Am I counseling somebody? Okay. You can’t well, she’s not affectionate. Well, maybe she is not affectionate because you’ve vomited over your face. Your, your, your, your, your, your nitpicker. You got OCD up the yang yang. You’re never happy. You never Satisfied. And only time you talk to your is when you want to get busy as get it home. Woo. Let’s get it all. No, there’s volume to be taken care of. So when you understand that, then the SEX can be Satisfied to SEX can be fulfilling, but when that’s not done on a regular basis, you’re not going to have the orgasm and the pleasure afterwards.
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And, and again, why did God give us SEX I’m gonna keep saying it. Cause y’all don’t believe it. Why did God give us SEX because we need to what? Release. Okay. There has to be a release when there’s not a release, uh, with a husband and wife, when there’s not a release, you’re going to have problems down the road because you’re not releasing. You’re not letting it go. Okay. So, so Real, Intimacy real. Intimacy I met with your brother is here today.
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Real Intimacy is that when you release emotionally, right? And then you emote, then you release what? Physically. There you go. Okay. Once you have that release emotionally, and then Real then physically, the SEX is unbelievable. Now, again, some of your life, what are you talking about? I thought only my husband had orgasms. The devil is a liar. Come on out with a girl. No, no, no.
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Okay. Yeah. I’ll go again. Oh Lord. They’re going to come out to me. They will come after me. They will come after me. Lord, give me strength in Jesus name. Amen. There’s over 8,000 nerve endings. A nerve in the clearest is over 4,000 in the male’s penis.
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Yup. They won’t have us on radio. I’m using clinical terms though. I’ll tell you a thank you. All right. It’s over 8,000 ladies, 8,000 nerve endings in your clitoris. 8,000 is only 4,000. The male penis. All right. So the male penis and the clutter is there really identical, gay, just one is on a, uh, on a male counterpart and one on the female counterpart. They are identical. And the problem with a lot of men is that they treat the clutter is like their penis.
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All right. So most men like it direct stimulation. Most women don’t like Dr most women don’t like direct. Most women don’t like direct stimulation on their clearest women. Please say, amen, thank you very much. Because that direct stimulation, they need to work to that point. Okay. They need to work to that point. But again, what happens is that because men, uh, go their wives as if, uh, that’s how they are.
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That’s why the issues. I cannot tell you how many people come to my marriage, uh, uh, to, to therapy with sexual issues. And, uh, we, uh, we’re not going to cover, uh, ed, uh, erectile dysfunctions, uh, on this broadcast. We will, uh, on other ones, but that’s a major issue because people are not understanding the anatomy. It is 2020, and people still don’t understand the anatomy of the sexual organs. They still don’t understand the genitalia.
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Don’t worry. I won’t have no pictures. Okay. Cause y’all, couldn’t take that. So don’t worry about no pictures or go cause Facebook cut me off. I ain’t gonna that. Dang will do that. And he’s got to describe it to you. Okay. All right. So the, the, the, the genitalia, you know, it is what God has given to bring pleasure what’s happening instead of bringing pressure. Now what’s happening is bringing pain. Okay. So, so you can see how jacked up a couple can be, right? That instead of something that brings pleasure is bringing what pain.
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All right. Again, SEX is supposed to bring, help me, somebody pleasure. But instead after all right, I got my, I got my side will come back with part three. The last part you can get some water
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Now back to your virtual relationship counselor, here is more of Dr B. This is dr. B.
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Uh, well back, uh, again, this is our part one part one. This is part one Spicy Seductive Sensual Saved Stimulated Satisfied st. Divide. SEX yeah. Yeah. I think it’s enough essence for the T. Why? Because again, this is where, uh, back to my point, I was drawn, bring out is that, uh, Intimacy between the husband and wife is supposed to bring pleasure, but it, but for many couples, it’s not bringing pleasure.
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You know, what’s is bringing a lot of, a lot of pain. Okay. So, you know, this is an epidemic and guess who is happy? Satan’s happy. Okay. He’s happy because he, here are people, excuse me, having affairs on regular basis, right. Having first with the regular basis. And yet the understand that same Levin who is at home waiting for them.
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Okay. Again, I am trying to teach you the things I learned the hard way. Okay. Again, we were not taught this in church. I was born in church of God in Christ. Uh, this was not taught. Uh, it was more of wives submit to your husbands and that was it. Well, you know what husbands submit to your wife to, uh, preach out, wait a minute. I was with ya. I was with ya. Now. We’ve got some problems. Why the Bible says, submit yourselves one to another.
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So it’s the husband submitting to the wife and the wife. Somebody does. And together they grow together. They will prosper together. It goes another level. But how can that happen? Right when there’s no mutual, uh, submitting. Okay. So we got to make that change. Now here’s the problem with a lot of couples, a lot of couples don’t have pillowtop.
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Okay. Let’s pull up. Talk to me, pulls off is that, you know what? This is what pleases me in the bedroom. Alright? Uh, Liz and what didn’t please mean the bedroom. You got to have conversations. So many couples of the conversations they did that. They just go with the flow. Let’s go to Dr. And the reason why people have affairs can, will be honest. They have affairs because it brings back the excitement pointing simple. The reason why couples, men, or women, women y’all do it too.
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Y’all just, don’t get caught as much as men doing the reason why it happened, because that spark, that love that excitement, that euphoria, that adrenaline is not there anymore. And because it’s not there anymore, they go out looking at it for somewhere else. That’s not right. That is wrong on every shape and form and fashion that cannot help. That can not motivate. That cannot take another, another level.
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Okay. That is, uh, where I go again? That’s illegal. SEX almost say something else. Y’all don’t know me, but I’m being nice. Okay. That’s illegal. SEX I won’t say something else. I aint gonna say that’s illegal. That, that don’t belong to you brother. Zip up your pants that don’t belong. You.
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That’s not yours. Don’t belong to you, sister. I know its 18 inches. I don’t belong to you, but I say that all belong to you. Okay. Did you know what? Since I brought it up since I brought it up, keep it nice. Brantley it’s not the size people.
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Okay. Is that it’s a connection. Okay. Okay. It’s not the size it’s connection. Well, I want to launch and I want a girth. Uh, I’ve had women coming to my practice with the husbands and he says, dr. B after one hour, I’m dry. I’m done. I can’t do little more. And the guy, like I said, messed up laughing. You’re killing her.
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Why? Because it’s not the size. See again here, you guys is not your ego. That needs to be stroked. Or am I teaching? Good. Somebody see? Good. Intimacy I told y’all this is part one. Okay. Don’t worry. I’ll give you a reprieve the next three or four weeks. All right. Okay. Okay. It’s about ministering to her Eagle. See? Here’s what I believe. Okay. You minister to her. Tell your wife, then the wife.
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What? Say it. Say wife, look at him. And then I minister to you. Okay, ladies first. Yeah. Now it makes sense. Why leaders should be first when it comes to the bedroom. It doesn’t make sense. Yeah, because when a man has orgasm, he’s done he’s down for the count. You can count to 100. He aint getting up the truth. He done. Now. Some men, God bless him.
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But the join the man, once all guys don’t wants to climax, you can count me out. I’m done. So it makes sense that the wife orgasms first, right? You please, her first. You, you make sure she’s happy. Now. There may be times she is. You don’t want honey. Ah, you know what uh, is about you tonight. So be it don’t fight her. Just say, thank you. Okay. Now again, now people who used to meet me, he was saying This for y’all for a lot of first time hearing me, this is gonna blow your mind, the best vibrator for a woman.
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And uh, uh, one day we’ll do the history of, of, uh, of vibrators. In other words, uh, you know, the number one vibrator for a woman is helping
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Around the what? The house.
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Yeah. I blew your mind. Didn’t I? Yeah. The more help you give to her, the more it helps you can help you. The problem is is that, uh, uh, so many guys are just so focused on their needs. They don’t see the needs of their wife, right? They don’t see the needs of what the wife needs. So by understanding that, you know what, the biggest, the best vibrator is you seeing her needs It, seeing what she needs.
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Uh, I got guys out there who actually, you know, track their wives, menstrual cycles. Cause I want to make sure they’re doing everything right. That they want to make sure the wife have all the menstrual things that she needs to go through that time of the month. That’s a man. That’s saying, you know what? I’m going to make sure that my wife is taken care of. Not just what I’m going to have sex again, guys, since you like to touch her all over, how about touch her mentally all over? Can I say that again? I will just don’t touch her physically.
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You got to touch her emotionally. You got to buy her flowers and you’re not in trouble Here, honey. Here is some flowers. Why is your buying the flowers? You know what I’m mad at ya? Well, guess what? The flowers don’t mean nothing. Right? So I teach men. You don’t buy flowers. You don’t do nice things when you’re in trouble. Because if you’re going to do something nice to her, when you’re in trouble, then she is always going to assimilate what you done something wrong. Could you bring me nice things? Does that make sense? That’s about it. Okay. Again, I’m trying to help you guys.
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B totally Satisfied in your Intimacy okay. But, but again, Intimacy is not just in the bedroom. Intimacy is when I please you and you please me. That’s Intimacy that’s being connected on regular basis. All right. People. That was part one. You all right? You show you. All right. Okay. All right. There’s this is dr. B Real Raw With Dr B and a EDP. The one that only minister Henry beginner. He will give more information about us and we’ll see you next time on the Podcast think about supporting, make sure you hit, like, make sure you
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