Transcript Emotional State of Black America

Transcript Emotional State of Black America:

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So the day topic is going to be The Emotional State of Black America the emotional state of black America. Uh, many people don’t find out, you know, uh, uh, really starting to empathize, right? They started to empathize, uh, white. America starting to empathize with what is going on, what is happening. Uh, they saw, uh, mr. Floyd actually die in front of them. And you know, is one thing prior to what happened to mr.

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Floyd in Minnesota, we saw tapes, uh, we heard, uh, it was after the fact this time, it was real time. It was real time that this man’s life was taken, uh, by a white officer in real time. Uh, you see this person go from alive to dead in real time. And so that’s why I’m a white America. And so now, uh, uh, traumatized by this, but first for us in Black America this is not traumatizing.

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This is something that just reinforces, uh, what we’ve seen in our lives for a very, very long time. So, uh, in this uh, point, I really want to get the Emotional State you know why they are so upset, you know, us meaning I’m talking about us, the black, America why they still upset. And I will say, okay, I’m going to understand that the origin of Black and America was due to slavery. All right. In 16, 1916, 19. The first, uh, Afro-American came here, uh, did not come as a visitor, did not come on vacation, did not cover just to do site scene, came in chains.

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Okay. Chain, uh, came, uh, where, uh, they were not looked at as being human. They came in chains. All right. So that right there. Okay. That right there, if the initiation OK. If the initiation of U coming to a place and they look at you as not being human, all right. Not being someone that is on the same level, that right there destroys the psyche, that right there will make you kind of do things in different perspective.

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Why? Cause you know, you are a man, uh, and they know you are a man. Uh, but because of the attribute of one being a slave and one being a master that’s taken away. And so that’s why the emotional state of, uh, of black America is so frigid right now. Do I agree with diluting? Of course not. Do I believe in the violence? No. A violence by a white man and violence by a black man that still equals violence. Okay. That that’s still a wrong issue.

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That’s happening. And as we preached on a Sunday at the time I’m going to preach, I’m just, I’m just doing counseling here. That doesn’t change anything. But because of the Emotional State again, the Emotional State in America four Black, uh, for, for black people has been, you’re not a human you’re your own, you don’t really have anything, uh, comfortable to me. So that’s why the anger is so powerful. That’s why so angry. All right. Come on. Imagine, imagine, you know, someone, uh, you know, calling you out of your name, you know, not giving you your due respect, you know, and I hear somebody saying, well, you know what, uh, that was really, you know, over 120 years ago, uh, you know, 140 years ago.

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Yes, it was over 140 years ago, but the foundation, okay. Hear me. The foundation is still something that’s still in America that foundation is still there and we saw it in where in Minnesota I will. Okay. Okay. Okay. Let me break it down for you. Some people might, uh, and white America may say, wow, you know, that was the old for over 140 years ago. Uh, used to be past that. Uh, yeah, we should be past that. But again, what we saw in Minnesota, you know, is a reminder of how people can look at you as not being human.

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Now in counseling, please hear me loud and clear, uh, and counseling. How can a person healed from bad behavior? If the behavior continues? I will say that again. Okay. So, so for why the America please hear me loud and clear, you know what, well, you know what? You should be further along. Yeah. We should be, we should be that that’s the keyword. We should be further along, but when we continue to see these types of points, uh, in, in, in America it’s a reminder and, and, and as a counselor, again, I tell men all the time, well, you want your wife to stop, uh, to heal from the affairs.

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Okay. So you wanted to hear, right. Okay, Washington. Right? So if you want someone T heal from a bad behavior, uh, right. To heal, all right. H H want them to heal, right? You want them to heal, right. But the only way you’re going to heal is that you stop the Babby behavior and that’s what is happening again. I do not agree with diluting. I do not agree with, uh, bringing, uh, a spray paint to a protest.

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Okay. Why are you bringing spray paint to the protest will be, why are you bringing things to cause damage to property? Now, it’s funny that, uh, you, you don’t want no one to damage your property, but your dad to other people property. Okay. All right. So that’s my point that, uh, With, Black, America, that’s what they’re doing in some of these cities, they are just losing it because they haven’t healed. And if anything that I could tell my white brother and my sister, the problem is we haven’t healed.

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Okay. And we want to heal it. It’s not that we want to continue this because we don’t. But on a regular basis, we see, uh, these type of systemic racism, or, you know, I’m judging you based on the color. Now, some of you may say, well, uh, other other cultures of the continent have had slavery. You know what you are absolutely. Right. Okay. Uh, you know, mostly every continent has had some type of slavery. Okay.

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Probably except for Antarctica, but every continent has had slavery. Okay. So, so that will give you that the difference is, is that after slavery was over the people who were enslaved, they came more part of the civilization. They, they, they, they, they become more in tune within with what was going on right there coming to them. We as black Americans, our color makes it different. That’s why this is different for us than other cultures who were enslaved.

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Because usually they look like the masters. Are you guys following me here? They look like the person that was enslaving them. In in America again, we talked about the emotional state of black America. The reason why it’s such an oxymoron within our culture, because we don’t look like the master. We don’t look like the person who was our slave masters. So because of that, the healing has not taking place and the healing needs to take place.

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Okay. It needs to take place, but again, if the issue continues to go on, then how can the things get better? All right. I’m coming back, uh, with more information after these important messages,

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Alright. This is doctor B with, uh, back, uh, we’re on Periscope. Uh, Facebook, YouTube, I pack of cards are everywhere. So, uh, wants you to be a part of it and, uh, really, uh, take this cause this is a different type of ministry we’re talking about, uh, E the mental state, uh, today we talking about the emotional state of black America. Now, again, uh, in counseling, uh, I always tried to get to the foundation, right. The foundation of a person.

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Okay. When you understand the foundation, okay. When you understand the foundation of the person, then you’re able to understand why they do certain things and understand why they have certain proclivities. And so for black Americans, our foundation, you know, is not that great, because again, we came here by slaves. All right. We came about State that’s number one, number two. Ah, the founding fathers said one thing, but did something different.

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So, uh, I’m going to bring the witness statement. I’d bring the witness stand EAP. I’m bring the witness stand mr. Himself. Thomas Jefferson. Okay. Thomas Jefferson. All right. I ain’t talking about Jefferson moving on up. Okay. Okay. Thomas Jefferson was the third president, the honest States of America. He is, they caught him the father of the declaration of independence. So he is writing to England that, uh, we as men, uh, feel like slaves, uh, to England.

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I will say that again. Uh, we, uh, white American men feel like slaves to England. And so you, uh, hear the founding fathers are saying that we want to be free from the tyranny se of Britain. But at the same time though, uh, mr. Thomas Jefferson had over not one slave, not to slaves, not three. He had over 200 slaves in his possession.

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Yes. I didn’t stutter 200. So right there, when we talk about the foundation, all right. So here, the declaration of independence, the founding, the author of it, you know, he is being, what’s the age where people, yeah. He’s been a hypocrite. Okay. And this is an issue that’s been in our country. We say one thing. Uh, and then we do something totally different. In other words, uh, to us, uh, it makes sense, uh, to certain perspective, but overall it doesn’t, uh, mr.

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Thomas Jefferson, president Thomas Jefferson, he wrote a book called the notes on the state of Virginia. Uh, and he said in it, again, this is the founding father. Okay. Founding father of America. He said in essence that, yeah, a Black should be set free, but, uh, it ain’t gonna happen in so many words. Cause it didn’t have it. Cause he didn’t do it him. Self alright. So here’s a man who is saying one thing for himself, With for the people in his own race.

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But for the people who look like him and walk like him, just a different color, it didn’t happen. So the hypocrisy is why Black America is so angry. It’s so upset because we are seeing a one thing being said and another thing being different. A matter of fact, I just had a lawyer reach out to me and saying, what can we do? Okay. What can we do to make a difference? See, that’s how we changed because the change has to be not from a universal point of view.

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As I preached on Sunday, it has to be what individual. Okay. It has to be individual, have to be an end of it, individual things that you don’t know, what if I see something wrong, I’m going to say something about it. Okay. Uh, I’m not just going to look there and say, ah, you know what? That doesn’t concern me. Listen, we are all human beings. All right. But again, when it comes to a Black America we never, I foundation again, our foundation was not human.

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A matter of fact, the, uh, the American constitution, uh, said, uh, so many words they will do. We will, we were three fifth of human. You understand that? I, okay. So that’s that looking at somebody and say, you know what, eh, your three fifths human, you know what that does to a psyche. Okay. That’s that’s Emotional help me, somebody I’m going to show what abuse. Okay. That’s E emotional abuse.

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And because of this continued, uh, Emotional abuse that said that you’re not on my level. Uh, just because you have a different skin color, just because you don’t look like me, dude, because of that, uh, you are different. Uh, my, uh, my T shirt that I’m wearing is a Florida university frame. You fam you, uh, is a historically black college. All right. Historically black college. All right. Uh, it was built in 18, started 1887.

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And it was, uh, it was brought about because they needed to educate, uh, the slaves who, uh, just got a free. Now, now come on, people you’re smart. All right. We want a slave set free. Come on. Your smart people, all 1861, you are a smart clap. So we have 26 years. Someone don’t like me here 26 years. That’s what fam you.

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Okay. We have 26 years, uh, that the Florida legislator, uh, that came, uh, from, uh, you know, a, of the president at the time said, you know what, uh, we need to educate, uh, the slaves 26 year gap people, 26 year gap. That’s just for my school. Okay. 26 years. So again, so 26 years, all right. You know, compared to the, over what, 200 years of slavery.

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Okay. So again, the emotional state is where it is because things were not taking care of going back to Thomas Jefferson. All right. So not only did he not say, uh, that, uh, blacks were not on the same tier, Oh, here we go. EAP. They gonna lighten this. But some of you notice right now that, uh, our founding president, uh, Thomas Jefferson, you know, he was the third one. He had a Black mission. He said her name was Sally.

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Yeah. Alright. So let me get this right. Uh, almost <inaudible> so help me get this right. Uh, you’re not human, but you’re good enough for me to have sex with. Okay. Now. Okay. See, I’m trying to get y’all to see the Emotional State okay. So, so for, ah, for, so for the culture, for the person, you are not cumin.

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So that means I look at you as a beast. So every time, ah, the white master had sex with, uh, the Afro American or the black slave. So he was really doing beastiality. Yeah. I love my job. All right. So that’s not the case. We know that’s not the case. We’re not animals, but, but you see the, um, the, the, uh, the dichotomy here, you see one way you seeing your saying this, but another minute you’re saying something different that causes the emotional state of black America.

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Okay. That right there causes anger. That right there. Cause the systemic drug abuse that right there, uh, changes the narrative. Can we go deeper? Can I go deeper? I will say so. Every time the slave master, okay. Had sex with the African woman. His kids were not as kids. No, they called, there were slaves.

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Okay. Back up. So my father is the master of the plantation, but you don’t call me son. I, you guys getting me here today. You don’t, he doesn’t call me son. He doesn’t call me daughter. He’s called me slave. He calls me boy, you know what that does to the psyche. Again, the emotional state of black America. Again, I’ll say, I’m going to say to every single segment EAP, please remind me. I’m not agreeing to the looting. I’m not agreeing to destroying property.

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I’m not agreeing to all the negativity that black Americans, some black Americans are doing. I’m not agreeing to it. This, this broadcast is trying to do the emotional state of why people are so angry. Okay. We’ll come back. I hope you all come

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So mad, so upset and we’ve covered a lot of good stuff. Hopefully you you’ve been blessed by that. You cover a lot of this stuff of why so much anger, why so much discord again, because really, Oh, the consistency of hypocrisy again, when you tell somebody that they are free, uh, and yet you’re not doing what is free, that’s going to distort, that’s going to the store now some, you know, and don’t know that it was 1968, the voting voting rights path.

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Okay. Now some of you don’t know, that means the bottom line is that’s when black people in America really were able to vote. So in actual reality, we didn’t become citizens until that time.

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Yeah,

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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I want y’all to kind of do that. All right. So, so from 1861 to 1968, we will really not full citizens. Do you understand that we were not full citizens? I don’t have time to cover the KU Klux Klan. I don’t have time to cover the Black laws. Uh, I mean, but again, it was that distance, that scope of time that we were not a part of America, so that’s a hundred, 107 years.

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Do you understand that? 107 years, you say we are free by the year 13, 14, 15 amendment, but it was 107 years until we were totally able to vote. Do you want to stay in the psyche? Alright, so let me break it down. So here you are asking for something and it’s taken 170 years to get it. Do you understand why the emotional state of black America it’s so jacked up?

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Okay. So, so, so, so, so, so, so, so you say that we are free, but it takes 107 years to become full citizens. That’s why the anger. Okay. That’s why the poverty. Okay. And I don’t even want to talk about welfare. Okay. Okay. Welfare for many was, you know, not to have the corporate structure of husband and wife, right.

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Because the government took care of you. If you had Jess mom and the kids soon as the man comes in, well, we can’t do it. And to me, that makes sense. Right. But again, it was a perpetuation of, you know, what, why have a man now, again, as a therapist, as a counselor, I’m telling you is going back to the foundation. So the founding, so let’s talk about solutions. All right.

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Let’s talk about all right. So how do you do the solutions? We got to deal with that foundation. Okay. I really believe that it has to be a day, uh, uh, part Thai, uh, that was in South Africa. Uh, several years ago, once apartheid was destroyed, they all came together and had a face to face. Okay. The blacks and the white had to face to face.

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And because they had a face to face, South Africa has not burned to the ground. Okay. Think about, ah, the apartheid, uh, that was in South Africa, the brutality, you know, blacks were, I believe five to one. There were five blacks to one white, but the whites were in control. That was apartheid. Okay. And then of course America had to have the nerve to say that was wrong. And yet you ain’t care of your own mess again, the Emotional State so I believe we need face to face.

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Okay. We need face to face whether it’s the government, whether we need face to face, you know what, let’s talk about these issues. Secondly, as the solution. All right. Secondly, we need to call out wrong. Okay. Needed to call it out. Okay. I need to call out the Raul when something is wrong, black or white, we need to address it. Okay. So point number one, we need face to face number two, you know, we need to call out the wrong.

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Okay. Get my eraser here. All right. And I think number three, I don’t think number three is that, you know what America needs counseling. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Because you know what it hear me, even if America stops and a police officers stop wrong behavior. Okay. Now that it’s stopped now the needs to be healing. And that’s why things have continued there hasn’t been a stopping.

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So my three suggestions is, um, Black America while America needed to do face to face conversations, face to face conversations, real conversations. All right. T talking about white privilege. Why don’t believe in white privilege. Well, I’m sorry. Why the America it’s Real okay. It’s a Real thing. I’ve dealt with it. I’ve dealt with it in my own life. Okay. And I have a couple of degrees, but you know, there was instant for instance, a couple of years ago where, uh, I had a white manager that really treated me really bad.

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Okay. I had to deal with, I had to suffer. And even when I went to the appropriate people in HR, they didn’t help me. Okay. They didn’t assist me. You know why? Because of my color. Okay. That actually happened. I ain’t talking about 1970. I ain’t talking about 1980s. I ain’t talking about 1990. I’m talking about in 20, uh, 20,000. This happened to me. So if it happened to me again, the anger is there. So my three points is very simple.

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Face-to-face to call out wrong, whether the black person to do something wrong, a white person to do some wrong is wrong. And thirdly, we need counseling. This country needs counseling. This country Nisa. How can we heal? And yes, I’m going to say it all EAP. They ain’t gonna like it. And okay. And here’s the kicker. The counselors can’t be all white.

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Does that make sense? So here is where can we really heal? Get, can we really heal? Okay. Because to heal, it’s going to take someone that looks like us to help us to heal. Now I’m saying there should be no white counselors law. Of course. I’m not saying that, but I’m saying if we got counselors, all right. So let’s say America starts this counseling thing. Okay. And 90% of the counselors are white and 10% of Black wrong answer.

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Okay. That has to be flipped. Yeah. That has to be flipped because when you heal, I need to see someone that is healed already or is going through the healing process. That’s how I’m going to change the people. That’s how we going to make the change. Okay. Again, I’ll write up again. I’m going to write up again. Okay. Face to face.

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Okay. Call out wrong and what counseling. Okay.

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That’s how I’m going to heal. That’s how I’m going to get better. But until yes, I believe in Jesus. I believe in God. Yes. I know the spiritual aspect of it is very important. I got that. But as I preached on Sunday is that there is a real reality that needs to happen. Things have happened to people and people need to be healed. Didn’t Jesus says I come to heal. The what? The word, the broken, what? Hot it. Hello. So he’s coming to heal and those points of healing can come in different forms.

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All right. But again, they cannot heal. Watch it. You cannot heal until the pain. What stops does that make sense to somebody? All right. Uh, my time is up people. I hope you have enjoyed the emotional state of black America. We may revisit this later on Bob, you will bless again. WW dot Dr T C brantley.com uh, send in your messages to the Dr T uh, Dr B is real@gmail.com. Uh, Eve you will get more information by the time we’re joined.

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Now he’s giving me that look y’all

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