Transcript Emotional Hostage

Transcript Emotional Hostage

 

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Hello there. This is Dr. B and we are, and one of our Podcast, as you know, we have three podcasts all or the God Real Raw With, Dr be apologetics. And also my classic hot 97, when I was back in the day with Nancy Buck, Joey, and Others hot 97. So this is going to be about Emotional Hostage, you’d be surprised how many men and women are in a Hostage stake in their marriage, in their relationship.

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And they are, and we, we, we went deep in Sunday morning service, and you can find the February 14th service. You will see how it really deep with the Emotional Hostage. But again, you’re in a relationship where you can do nothing or they make you feel that whatever you do is wrong, that’s not how you’re supposed to be in a relationship. They, everything you do, every touch and every dog touch it’s like you become COVID, you know, you become a negativity point to your, to your listen.

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It’s time to get it in a Hostage Emotional Hostage not negotiator the counselor. Yeah, because this can’t continue. You cannot continue in this vein where you go through life, walking on eggshells. I mean, do you remember back in the day? And you’re still doing that while you drove home, Real slow and makes you pray for accident brain and the cops will stop you because you didn’t want it on God. You know, the, the, the, the, the, the Hostage taken was at your house.

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That’s not how you’re supposed to live people that that is not supposed to, that is not supposed to where you live and listen, hear me. Yeah. Me loudly now dating somebody right now, who is making you feel? Hostage

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Why?

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What is hot today? Okay, cool. Wow. That’s that’s, that’s not good. It’s not good. It’s not healthy. It’s not powerful. And it’s not relationship now again, Hostage he hit me. Hostage is a relationship. It is a negative relationship as a toxic relationship, but it isn’t a relationship. And, and, and, and, and, and some people get this Hostage mentality from their parents, right? The way they were raised, the way they, they, they, they, they went through things. And so they just say, this must be normal.

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No, it is not. No, it is not normal for you to sleep with both eyes with them. It’s not normal for you to feel that way. It’s not, it’s not, it’s not where you want to be. And then what happens was a Hostage Emotional Hostage mentality is that they’re the great manipulators. Well, if you hadn’t done this, if you hadn’t done this, you had done that. I wouldn’t do, but what I do, that’s a manipulator. And one thing,

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The kids stay in debt.

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Can’t deal with them. Why? Because they’re manipulating right there. They’re trying to make you feel bad about who you are and what you are not a good thing. And so you need to really take this again. I’m not gonna go to detail what I talked about on Sunday, but definitely go back to March 5th, March, February 14th, and see the sermon that was preached on that. Don’t be in that relationship. What are you doing? Especially when children are involved now, now, you know, when hostages, when, when, when, when, when people in a Hostage relationship or they love children, right?

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Because you want to everyday to protect the child, right? And, and some of you have just been tight rope to believe that if I, the, the person who was go, who, who is using brainwashing to make you stay there, he’s making feel that, you know, what, if I, if you leave me, that works for the kids is with the kids now. So let me get this right. You’re going to allow this negative stimuli to stay in your life. And that’s not going to affect the children at all. It will.

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It has. Yeah. It has affected the kids. It’s affecting you and hate on James MIT, James, and you don’t want to be in this situation. You don’t want to stay there. And please hear me. And I speak from experience. The longer you are in a Hostage relationship, the longer it takes to heal. Yeah. Yeah. We will. When you recognize it was that no matter what you do, no matter if you buy the earth, they already have, it will help you in a bad month. <inaudible> so will you. And that type of relationship and you stay there, it just exacerbates.

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It just makes it worse. You don’t want to do that. You don’t want to say in a relationship like that, that you find yourself in a bad place. You don’t want to, you don’t, you don’t want to do that. Okay? You don’t want to be in that vein. You don’t want to be in that perspective. So it was really moving to a better place. Yeah. James says, James says, here it is normal to get a hot breasts. Yeah. Yeah. It being sarcastic. But it’s true.

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As having an Al green line build on another with our green, one of his many lovers through our grids are hot red zone, and it’s not normal, but again, you’re in this matrix relationship and it’s not good for you. It is not healthy. It’s going to bring you down. It’s going to bring on your self worth. Right? Think about it. Why would you, why would you stay with somebody who’s constantly bringing you down. Okay. Why would you bro? Why would you say with somebody who constantly is always finding fault? They’re never happy. I mean, they can win a million dollars in front and I can tell you, well, how come I didn’t win to me?

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I mean, those types of people, you don’t want it. I be around them because nothing you do, but making that nothing, nothing you do matters. Happy. None. Why? Because they’re not happy with themselves. See, that’s what you don’t recognize with a ha Emotional Hostage scenario, person happy with themselves. So, because I’m happy with themselves, they don’t put that on. Don’t put that on you. So it’s really taking a step back. And some of you are just first responders to these people who, who put you in a pretzel, you do everything, right.

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Not, not now, listen. Okay. You are trying to help a victim who will never be helped. And you are trying to help someone that will never get to that place of moving to a bit Avenue. So it’s really saying that you, you, you, you gotta stay away. Yep. Yeah. So, so James says physical abuse, meaning the partner isn’t good using sex as a Barling or you’re using each other’s body and chip. Yeah. The bottom line is, is that when your place, you know, I got, I got, I told him and his left ear, one minute, when you place in this situation, you really not.

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You, right. You are becoming, you are assimilating with the person. You are becoming them and not becoming you anymore. That’s not good. That, that, that, that, that, that is not, that will help you in the long run. If anything, it’s going to burn you burn you big time. Why? Because you’re not being, you you’re being somebody else. Okay. So I hope you guys enjoyed that. You know, I, I only stay here about 10 minutes. A good book to get. Yeah. Nope. Not that one. Yeah. This one. Yeah. I love the hell out of you.

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And I also made me read, get hell out. All right. Because again, you don’t want to be placed in that variation or that relationship. It’s not good for you at all. And you don’t want to be in that situation. All right. Announcements, I’ll be next week. And then so loud Woodbridge. I have another comedy event and I took them out. I’ll put that poster up in a second, but I’ll be there next Saturday. I mean, next Thursday. And we give God praise and glory and honor for the open door. All glory to him is not means all him.

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