Transcript Do Not Use the D Word

Transcript Do Not Use the D Word

 

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Welcome to Real. Raw With Dr B this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthen their relationship with God themselves and each other. With 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw with Dr B

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I’m glad to be my Dr Brantley T Charles Brantley by the American association of Christian counselors and counsel with 20 years, then married, divorced, remarried. I’ve done it all. And my job is to give you the wisdom and knowledge that God’s given me over the years to share with you. And also that you can be a better person and your relationship we have right now, the Bible said it might be, will die. For lack of knowledge. I don’t speak about people to beyond, because I don’t know why it’s like my new one and I turn off and do another one.

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Then people don’t see me or whatever, but this is needed using a was out of bouncing ball and using the D word Weigley is not good. Okay. I aint talking about doing the ladies, either my brother, okay. Using the Divorce a Word weekly will and shell not help my relationship if you’re constantly going up and down with your spouse, and you’re constantly using the D word that is not helping, that is adding more wooed again.

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But I told him how between your legs, the husband, that’s not adding to the relationship at all, because now you are really creating a unstructured unbalanced on strong, the strong you creating umm, in the environment.

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There’s not a conducive to connection. Cause you always wouldn’t. You know, you get frustrated with one another. Get mad with her. You get married with him. You just throw it out. <inaudible> and guess what? When you throw at the D word, you don’t need a hundred miles per hour fastball. You don’t need to put no juice on it. You don’t need to do nothing. Just, just you put announcing bud spells trouble.

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Don’t do that because what you’re doing, telling your spouse, I give up, especially get on them. How can you give up? And there’s been no counseling. There’s been no help. Not going to see a therapist. What’s up. And yet you are just the, one of the D where the throne up now not hear me loud and clear. Gary. T you look in your files.

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You’re looking your files of your dating Garren. D ya? That same guy, the same girl broke it with you a lot. In other words, you know, this connects to what we talked about earlier is that the person is already shown you who they are. They showing you who they going to be in the relationship. They already, you already that thing, ain’t going to be good and yet, and keep going back to them and you keep going back, dude.

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The joke God that really is not showing you who and what they can be for you. Okay? Listen. Love the action. Word yeah, it is an action. Where in other words, you put a little something on it. You, you, you, your, you put a little, you put, you put, you put, you put a little something on it. All right. But if you are a constantly using the D word, a With the one that you say you love, I will do not believe that because you can’t keep putting the D word on and it’s been a good relationship.

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Now you cannot do that on regular basis. Okay? Why? Because you’re putting a, like putting sand in the car in the backseat, talking about putting the tan and the gas tank. Okay. You put gas. I mean, you put sayings and the gas tank. I didn’t, I don’t wanna go run because you put something in there that shouldn’t be in there.

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You, you, your, you put some in there that shouldn’t be there at all. Yeah. You, you, you, you, you, you put some negativity you put, and can we go further? I will. A lot of times what we’re doing or only reciting, I use that word. We are reciting what our parents did. Yeah. So that lack of me right now. Yeah. You are reciting what your parents did. You will be signing what you saw your parents do your own, reciting it like a recital.

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You are saying it and saying it and it just flew off your tongue. There’s no stuttering. There is no crying for us. You just do us. Not good. Not good. Why? Because your watch as you’re putting poison in your relationship.

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Yeah. You, you putting poison in the relationship. You keep saying D Word you every week, once a month, he keeps saying D now I heard you reap what you sow. So you keep putting the deal with it out there. Why is the bribe? One day you go home and then you come home and your bags outside the house.

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Ladies and gentlemen. This is not just for the men, ladies and gentlemen. This is not just for the one you can do that. You can’t consistently give off the vibe, watch this I’m so graphic. So let’s say someone doesn’t smell.

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Okay. And you come around everything the day you’re going around. ’em they smell swollen. You know, you know about them at all, because your brain going to say she get close to him. I told about the Corvette. This is either I’m so sorry. The Roundup. Well, that’s what Divorce does. And can’t use the word Divorce you’d keep using that word.

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Divorce

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Sound good

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Because you’re constantly trying to tell your spouse now I don’t want this. No, no, no. Come on. B can we B adults here. Okay. Yeah. B man. You Word. No. B want to leave. Word no, the, I know like when I say this, some of y’all use Divorce or the D word as a weapon. I don’t know. Don’t use the D word as a weapon.

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Don’t do that. It’s not right,

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Because you keep using the D Word as a weapon. Only sending the point for destruction. Yeah. You’re you’re the only setting yourself up. Can we destroy down the road? Why? Because you constantly have this D Word mentality. Right? You, you, you B, you’re constantly walking in the atmosphere and I tell them honestly, theatre. Okay. For what? You don’t, you won’t this atmosphere of really not understanding that I cannot bring this to the forefront.

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Yeah. Y’all don’t like me. Okay. Okay. Hey, you are, try and use it. And sometimes all that will happen today. Sometime people use the D word as a place of manipulation. Let me, let me manipulate my man by using Divorce. Let me manipulate my girl by using Word Divorce no, no. Can I say no?

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I’ll say it again.

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Yeah.

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Cause you’re not bringing in the right elements in your, your, your, your stopping and starting your stopping and starting the stopping and starting. And that’s not good. Okay. You gotta do things differently and got you. You, you gotta put things in different perspective. What have you, the, the Divorce Word. And as soon as you get what you want, you calm down your bipolar. That’s wrong.

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That’s not right. It is not right for you to have the mentality like that. It is not right for you to use the D word as a manipulating tool. Okay? Some of you, you, the D Word I forgot they call it. I don’t ride horses a lot. I do it almost, but it’s a horse by came on. Anyway. The a**l talking about me, whatever producer handling B enemy.

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The not the last time. You’re not mandated. I don’t come in later on. But the thing that you use to control the hole now not missing the mind what’s called is the bid in the mouth. And the rank is the range, whatever it is, don’t use Divorce for that. It really loves someone. You’re never going to use that word to hurt them.

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Don’t do that. Because again, you setting up for failure down the road, right? You said no, for break up for negativity down the road, because watches, instead of you want to work things out. And, and somehow I just slip. So instead of me answering the question, how should they wait a minute? I’d actually had your day was see, you use the D Word to manipulate and move somebody in another location.

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You don’t want to ask you the question. Like we were you two o’clock this morning, I rolled over. He wasn’t dead. Where were, where were you at? What were you doing? What were you, where were you at? I looked downstairs. I had the dog for you. And the LoJack that I put on you shoot dismantle the low you and you come up with the word Divorce that’s wrong. Don’t do that flight doing that. Why are you doing that to somebody? So you love, why are you doing this? Someone you said that you really are concerned about.

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It’s not right. It is not good. Okay. The kind of bless you. It is not good. What thing about it? So let’s say you’re about to take a shower. Alright? Most of us are normal. We don’t take cold showers. We take a shower. So here in the shower, right? Finally. Okay. You know, I’m going, hi, I’m going to shower walls.

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I’m a germaphobe rub, a dub dub. You know my gut, my gut, my rubber ducky. You. No kidding. That’s funny. So governor of Kentucky, you know, all of a sudden he goes and water, cold ice water from Alaska. It’s not using the whole mind frame. Why could you be cold me? So, so, so again, in the relationship, you cannot consistently keep saying to Divorce Word how are you doing Tanya?

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And God bless you, Rodney Stevenson. Bless you. You can’t keep using the D Word you can’t keep using the Divorce. You can’t keep saying that you’re not going to do it after awhile. It’s crying will see the word Word is a word that shouldn’t be used unless you mean it. Yeah. And if you saying that every week you’re in Amina, you’re just using the juror.

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Somebody of course, the people that I know when I say it’s not gonna happen, it’s done. But now you want to use Divorce to control someone. You want to use Divorce to hurt someone. You will need the Divorce. You want to ask them? You want to ask the question? You want to do the word divorce because you don’t P really not. Okay. Real if you did, you do not, you know what?

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You believe people’s feelings that you are really playing with people’s feelings, but I just throw another D Word you just turn it, listen. Okay. Now here’s what you don’t understand. When you keep using the D, Word really affecting you. Wherever you use is more, you really affecting you. There’s like a hand grenade and you pull it.

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You don’t throw it out who who’s going to get hurt. Yeah. He, he, and I just see that constantly. Right? I see that constantly of people just don’t want to be honest. And so they, so I won’t hurt you, but again, when use the word Divorce you will have heard and somebody else, yeah. You, you are really hurting somebody else, or you’re really putting them in a very bad place, but, eh, no problem.

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Right? Nah, will come back fat because you’re putting wrong stuff into the ground. Okay. And yummy. I don’t think Satan needs help and bringing the managers. So, Hey, you are being used by the enemy to hurt or use by the enemy, to the store. Really? Anything guys cheesy that he’s not he’s she’s not pleased because again, you’re using stuff to hurt.

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We’re using Self to bring down. So I really hope this help someone today. You can’t keep using it. It’s not stable. It’s not right. No. Can I be serious? The D Word to me as a therapist is close. Those ain’t the inward. Yeah. As an inward is very negative toward the person of color black, especially the D Word is very proposal to a person who loves you will have different.

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Now I’m not saying you catch ’em and this is 25,000 phone number. And his fifth affair in one month, they used Divorce. Word a understand knuckle message you have. If this person and your life is not trifling, but you use that word regularly. You try for you, the person with the problem, you, the person with the issue, and that cannot continue on a regular basis.

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So I really hope you really get, get this. You can’t keep doing it. Word you, you can’t keep doing that Word or legal basis and expect no one to be hurt strangely. You can’t. There’s no way. Hopefully this blessing today. Alright. Don’t use it. D Word don’t know. Know how about use the word? Love ya.

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How about use the word of forgiveness? How about used the other? The Word. No, not no brother. Not get the word date. Okay. Let us use other words because during the life is the power of your tongue. So you just waggling your calendar and you just dropping those negative points into your spouse live.

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It’s not gonna be good down the road. All right. Let’s God to B. I am done for today. Bless you. Hope you will stay encouraged and stay with God again, my website at Dr T <inaudible> brantley.com. My email is Dr is real@gmail.com. This is in the levels fields where this field Hartford, while you were at Hamden, God bless you so next time.

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