Transcript Turn Your Mate Out
Transcript Turn Your Mate Out
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God bless you guys. This is Dr. B and I have not been on in a while or just because, just because happy new year to everybody and 2021, we definitely have seen a lot of issues so far in 2021, but somehow we’re going to get better. Again. We are a therapist. My email is Dr. B is Real at gmail.com. You can send in your questions that I place on. My website is Dr T C Brantley dot com and you can contact me at (203) 753-7377.
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I encourage you to please leave comments and questions officers in Weathersfield, Hartford, Waterbury, hand in or virtual. So the day’s topic yesterday, topic is turning your Mate Out. You will be surprised how many couples are just going through the motions as a also sex counselor and all right. Cool. Good. Okay. As a, as a sex counselor, this is a constant issue because the man, especially, Oh, this is my printer’s wife and she has birth.
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My, my, my, my beautiful baby girl, my beautiful baby boy. And so I must keeper elevated. And you should, you should. However, the elevation works indirectly because it makes a man feel that I really cannot be totally sexual or central with my wife. You be surprised ladies and gentlemen, how this is a common issue. Yes. As I said, you should lift up your wife. You should lift up your husband or some. Oh, well, my hub is the head deacon.
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And because he, the head begun, lessen, head digging. I don’t get kicked off Facebook, but had it also the fellatio, you know what I’m saying? All right. I won’t use the other word, but I won’t keep kicked off of Facebook. So again, it’s really couples being honest, honest with each other. Okay. It’s couples really saying that this is my need. And I’m looking to you to meet the need. Now, when couples do that on a regular basis, there is no ambiguity. There is no fun. You know how many couples say, well, I’ll tell you with Ty.
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Can I tell somebody this right now? Do not assume Your Mate is tired for sex. No, I know. I will get older. You know, there is a battle between flat sex or sweet. Okay? Yeah. And usually as you get older, now, this is the fight. The sleep becomes more the champion versus sex. But I know coming after that, I’m getting you in shape. My friend, brother, let you know, in essence. No, it’s better that you go after the intimacy, you can slip out the woods. So how about let’s get a double, a double blessing here, right?
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A double blessing. Yeah. Mate time you get your sleep, but again, it’s turning your Mate Out now, isn’t it funny that before you got married, I mean, well, whore. I mean, you were out there and please I am not fighting. What do you use, dude? I am trying to say what you’re doing now. And all your wife is like, man, he will be when we were dating. Now I’m turning to a puppy and I’m telling you right now, that is something the wife does not want to hear.
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God do you know, women becoming more aggressive? I’d love a little Germany, but I’ll crash with their men, with their husbands. I mean, and the reason why I’m seeing this paradigm change, you know, when I first started doing counselings 20 years ago, it wasn’t a man that had need to take the, yeah. Grab my hair, sat, man. Do this, do that. Like you can. One-on-one how to abuse me. But again, your wife is saying to you, sir, Turn me.
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Out yeah. I mean, some of you married women who hadn’t had sex in 30 years. And so they’ve been waiting a long time. And now here you are. Now, now here you are in their life and you’re not Turn each other. Out yeah, I know you want to hear this because again, they’re not, not, not, not, not logically. Get my time as long as I’m here, but largely here, man. Why is it that intimacy starts here and as time goes on, as time goes on, you see one at a time goes on, it gets less. How many times have you heard your friends say, Oh man, students.
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When I first got with my wife, he was all in Papa and I couldn’t get them off. I couldn’t get her off me. And now that we’ve been married a couple of years or a couple of months, it’s zero. You know why they stopped? What got them there. Watch it. You were on your way to Turn your girl. Out. I mean, you will on your way and challenge your boy. Out right? All of a sudden we got sidetracked. <inaudible> do not get, do not get sidetracked and turn to each other. That why you go, if you don’t turn out your Mate, somebody else may not justifying.
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I am not condoning. I’m just saying you don’t want that happening to you. So Turn you may not know Dr be wanting to do it. How do I do it? So glad you asked. So glad you asked, you asked what are your imagination? What are your finishes? I said, I didn’t say fettuccine. I said, fantasies, you know, w w you know, what are your dreams? What turns you on what turns you on? Okay. And by doing that, you start to turn your Mate Out.
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I mean, there are plenty guys that has an imagined, Nate, ladies, you don’t bleed him having an imagination. I’m coming home. And the wife has nothing on, but a trench coat, that’s all what she got on. But you know what? You guys come home. She got rollers in her hands. She hit a bad shoes and she’s smoking a cigar. And the cigar is so long. You know, the Ash is still there. And she said, what’s up? That’s the opposite. That’s the <inaudible> type of what you do. The Turn out your Mate. Okay. So hopefully John be a little bit funny, but very serious.
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It happens a lot that couples are not turning each other out. And guess what? That’s, what you’re supposed to do. That was in the literature of the merit certificate that you are supposed to carry out any, even what I don’t like. I don’t want you to turn me out. I want you to turn me up because I waited so long to be deterred me Out and I did this last said know that Johnny Philly Nikisha OSHA. In other words, listen, Turn Out right? Because when you Turn each other out, you build a brigade, a greater bond between each other.
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Seriously. When you turn each other out, you make the connection stronger, not weaker than when you’re trying each other out. You’re saying in essence, that I’m here to fulfill your fantasy here. Mate God <inaudible> all right. Somebody is going to bring that dream into reality. No, because normally it comes every day. Then we’ll do the plumbing, the plumbing I’ll get down. You want to be you. Okay. Again, I, I really hope you understand what I’m saying.
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That the reason why couples decline in a relationship is, is very simple people. You start investing, you stop investing. And when you stop investing, then logically there is no return of investment. When you stop investing, when you stop putting into your Mate, why are you surprised that nothing comes out? I hope you got that. And don’t be that bless you in some small way. Out couple of more Podcast to get to. I’m going to suggest.
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Yes. I’m going to suggest to my book, dogs should not be full-time parents because as a therapist, that’s one of the biggest reasons why a lot of couples do not continue. Their connection is because, you know, they’re no longer doing what they used to do. So I’m going to suggest now should not be full-time parents. You can get that book at my website, WW Dr TC Brantley dot com Dr T see bernie.com danger of loving your kids more than each other. So very great book. Go to my website. Dr T Brantley dot com or amazon.com Barnes and nobles.com.
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It’s there. So again, people hope you enjoy enjoy. That will be back in about 10 minutes to do another one on a Sargent matter again, please leave your name and your comments, your questions. And once again, you can contact me at Dr T Israel at g-mail dot com. Dr. B is Real gmail.com or give me a call (203) 753-7377 (203) 753-7377. God bless you. And I will see you next time.
