Transcript on Trusting Relationships
Transcript on Trusting Relationships
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Welcome to real raw with dr. B this nationally published author and pastor has made it his life’s work to helping people strengthen their relationship with God themselves and each other with 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for real raw with dr. B.
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Oh my goodness. This is, this is
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Dr. B with real Robert, dr. B, where we help people become a better relationship with themselves. God and others. We are honored. We are honored to have the one and the only coach Portia. How you doing coach? Thank you. I’m doing great. Thank you so much for having me. You are glad to have you. Thank you. Alright, so today’s subject is going to be when couples don’t trust each other. Wow. Okay. So I’m talking about the guy that called you 5,000 times when you’re out with your friends.
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Now, now let’s try to find it out. Why are you calling me 5,000 times? Why do you think that happens in the first place with couples who do that? And would you be in a relationship like that yourself? I will not to be in a relationship like that. No, he wants to listen. You’re very beautiful. I understand them well that, well, that goes back to, that goes to that. That probably either insecurity. I mean, how many check-ins is too many check-ins okay.
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So as a woman, how many times is too much check in? So with my fiance, when I’m out with my people, because he knows me, well, he does, I let him know when I’ve arrived at a certain place. So you’re accountable before I am accountable before. And then usually when I’m getting ready to leave. Okay. And then when I’m back home, right. So how many times can he call you without it being aggravating? And it’s not an emergency. Yes. He usually doesn’t maybe he’ll check in and say, you know, maybe once, Hey, just checking in.
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Yeah, you got too much of your hours later, but then he knows me. So he knows that if I’m out with my family or my friends, he knows that could be like a 12 hour shifts right there. Two, 3:00 AM in the morning. Yes. Easy. So three in the morning. Yeah. Okay. So, so again, so is it, does it make you feel good that he’s not checking on you 5,000 times? Or do you think he, or some woman say, well, he checked on me, so maybe it goes to the, maybe it goes to the person as for me, I don’t need the calls and the checkups 24 hour, 20, every 15 minutes.
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Like I have been out with, with, with women or men, what happened and what it either. So for the women there, their guys are calling, especially if they have the kids, like, can she get, can she have one break to herself? That’s what can’t you figure it out for? Just set a couple of hours, go into the mouth, basically, you know, and more times than not a good mother has already bathed those kids. She’s fed them.
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She’s prepared dinner because she wants to go out and have a great time just with her girlfriends or, or, you know, just to have sister time for two to three hours in a day. How would you feel if you’re out with your boys or with, with watching football, right. If you’re watching football and you’re like, cool is like, yeah, I need this man time. And then your fiance’s calling you every 10 minutes. What do you guys do now? Who are you with? Who’s there any other women there with the million questions?
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Like it’s aggravating. I would not let it cause I couldn’t enjoy myself because every 10 minutes you’re looking at me, instead of me looking at the TV and the football, I’m looking at my phone and having palpitations because I know if I don’t pick up, she going to I’m sorry, flashback. So, so really, but some people do experience that, but what is that? I think it’s, I think it’s manipulation.
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I think so. So, so, so really emasculating that it’s not showing love, cannot know how showing, showing love is allowing that person to be free from you to be detached from you and have a great time. We’ll pay free for me. They may not miss me remembering, remembering, remembering that the person wasn’t individual before they got what the person is that true?
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Yes. So are you telling the audience that sometimes you need time without the person? Of course, just like, just like a woman. She needs time without her kids. Just like, just like a woman needs time with her girlfriends. So why is it that they need
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To redo it?
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Nate, herself to rejuvenate herself. She finds strength sometimes from her girlfriends and just to get out and have a great time. Even from like, for me, I have now my fiance has a lot to put out with me because I have all mostly male friends, my girlfriends aren’t calling me to hang out. It’s my male friends that say, Hey Porsches, come get a beer. Let’s go, Hey, come on to school, take two shots. Let’s go get some fiery chicken wings. It’s my male friends that are, what’s your fiance’s name again?
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Yes. He’s very trusting. And in fact he loves it when I go out. Alright. So, so we talk about why is it important to get away? You know, you need freedom. You now have to have freedom. And now, now what if the wife does her loving chores? Because she wants to goes into his pocket and fine in his pocket.
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Does that help him go out more or meet the woman a little more become expectable so, so you have some of these women and I hear the story. Hang on. Okay. Hang on. We’re going to take part to hold on to that point. You’re going to make me forget who we’re coming back with. Part two. We’re coming back with you. All right. We
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Do no,
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No. With a real role adopted B and a, we have the lovely coach Porsche. How are you doing, man? I am doing great. So this sort of scenario was, is that the person wants to go out, but the wife or the girlfriend looks into the pocket and find some phone numbers, finds the digits and a little note with the digit. Does that help the brother to keep going out by himself? Or are there going to be some questions up you do up so far?
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That hasn’t happened to me. So I don’t know what my answer would be, but for women they’re very smart. They take those digits. They will remember those digits and they will be going through your phone probably if you have that type of woman, but she might just call the number just to see, or she’ll have her girlfriend call the number like a week later. Y’all slip. Just to see how many girls, the girl won’t call she’ll call, have a girlfriend call. Oh yeah. Push, push. I found this number in my guys’ phone and my guy’s pocket.
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Could you, could you call it? I don’t want to call it from my phone or I can’t call it from my husband’s phone. Cause there’s people. Yeah. So we’ll find a number and I’m like, well, I don’t want to call it from my phone. Let’s get somebody else’s phone. So we find a phone. Y’all do that for each other. And then we will do that for each other. Well, let’s see what it says. Like what happens. I’ve done. I mean, I’ve done that in the past. Not like in this age, but like I’ve done that in the past and my thirties brothers get best. Be careful. Best be careful.
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All right. We had a question on Facebook. Eat. Give us the question again. Lou says she has friends like that to know exactly. Who’s you got a lot of people in Jesus’ name. Go ahead. What’s the question? Facebook was, how do you deal with a mate that does not allow you to have friends with the opposite sex? You want to tackle that first? Or want me to tackle it? Are we doing this from a coach prior? We’re just talking, just talking. See, I don’t know, because I couldn’t be in a relationship like that. I really couldn’t be in a relationship like that. So maybe, maybe, maybe that would be, has had a lot of experiences with that.
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I would, just to me, they would, just, to me, that would be very a bully. That, that wouldn’t be like a bully. Usually, usually there is a pain from a previous experience that they haven’t dealt with. And so, because their previous woman cheated on them or their previous woman had a friends and acquaintances that made the person feel uncomfortable. And so going forward, they didn’t want them to do that. Understood. There’s something called the respect relationship.
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You think a woman should know how far to go? How far to take it with her friends? Like they’re there. I mean, I can’t say that I, all of them, all of my male friends are married. Okay. Maybe except one, which is like my son. So I call him my son. So him and he’s so young. So it’s like most of my, all my male friends, I think they’re, they’re married. Okay. I’m just thinking back in the most of them are married now let’s take it maybe to, even to Facebook, you know, I don’t know like that it’s a touchy topic that would have to be spoken about before you even, I think get into any type of marriage.
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Like what is that boundary set for each person? Let’s go further. Let’s go, let’s go further. You know what, what if the guy or the girl is still talking to a person that ended up in the past? They smashed, well, you got, sorry. Smash mean you had sex with him. That’s what smash. So I’m going to say like my father said to me, when I was, when I was 28 years old, I’m going to open myself up to people when I was 28, 27, going through my first divorce with my son’s father.
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My father told me Porsche, you’re not gonna find this man who doesn’t. He said, everyone at this age has someone or something already. Maybe it’d be a baby’s mother or children other right. He has to give himself himself to other areas. So you’re not going to get this man that your grandmother selling you. You’re going to have this man all to yourself. You know, you’re you’re, you’re not going to experience that.
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So there has to be a part of a person that that should be a little open to sharing the person, either with the man’s mom sharing, like the word. Yeah. You got to share him with his mom. You have to share him with his kids. If there’s more prior to you, right. You have to share him with his friends. Right? You have to share him with his community. Like, as for me and my fiance, I have a man that is well known in his community. He, he sees a lot of couples. Do you know how many women, none of the men that I’ve met, but a lot of, some of his women clients, they come up to me and they say,
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Oh my God, your fiance is the best thing ever.
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Now, if I was this jealous hearted person, wouldn’t laugh. Right? Like I have to be open to a certain point. When it came out, I have to be open to a certain part. So I would say, no, my, my brother-in-law always says no thy person, okay. He has a phrase. And he always says, no, that person know who you’re getting in a relationship with. Sure. Know what your boundaries wouldn’t. So it wouldn’t need to be. So let me ask you, so with this don’t trust thing, should you always tell your prospective girlfriend or your wife who you smashed?
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They’re not going to know who I smashed. That’s correct. I mean, you know, there’s been that conversation. I mean like my fiance knows that I smashed her and my son’s father. Obviously I have a son, you smashed your son’s father, you smashed your side, smile back. What type of person are you tell, smash your son’s father, but let’s go deeper. There’s that conversation that comes up. How many, how many people, how many persons have you slept with, right? How many people have you been with? And let me say it from a counseling point of view, that is a bad question to ask.
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That is very better yet. Let’s go deeper for, for women. And this is probably going to get really touchy to some parts of me. How many miscarriages have you had? How many abortions have you had? How many, like I teach my son to, you need to ask these questions of women. And if those come out, you know, sometimes the women may feel a certain way about it, but it should be discussed. Again. Usually the non-trust is really coming from a past experience and, and you shouldn’t make the person feel that because you are feeling this type of way.
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Oh, you just immature too. That’s where manipulation comes to play that’s Oh, need more self confidence. No, the person who you love with has a right to ask, not a right to dog, not a right to beat you up. Because again, this is funny, the person that they smashed, you will know where in the area, you will know where in the zip code. So why are you going off of the person person’s past is what it is. You know, a person’s past is what it is.
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Right? However, you do have some connections where guys and our women, they do keep in contact with their old flings. But is that, is that a problem in a current relationship though, it could be a problem in the car. It could be a problem with the currently if the person says either me or them, is that being manipulative? Oh no, no. I don’t think it’s being manipulative. I think for, for the most part, I know for my friends, like I don’t have old flings that my fiance would know, but I do have male friends that my fiance does know.
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He’s never said them or me because when they are in my presence, what you have to be careful with this. When your man and your friends are in your presence, you always are. I’m always going to cater to my man. All of my, my male friends that I do hang out with, they know him, they know him. Well, they know him well. So they know him. Well, they do know him. Well, they do know him well and they know him well, because I’m probably not going to stop hanging with the friends that I love.
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That the friends that have been there long before him, and to me, that is a sign. That every time you come into this friend’s presence, you forget about your mate. You, you become more catering to your friend, into your mate that can and will become a problem. And that will be a long ride home. Very long ride home. Let’s get into the women enough about the, I love about a woman’s mouth friends, the males, male friends. They have no females.
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Normally the male is the one that he’s banging his friends. See a woman. Yes. He’s banging his Facebook. Yes. He’s banging. His friends were in a woman. She could have a fling have had a fling. Oh, you saying women don’t bang their friends. She’s put that fucking female. Don’t bang your friend when they are dedic. When a woman’s dedicated to one, I got it. That’s right. She is dedicated to one.
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And I’m saying that a man cannot, this is my February cannot double dip. You can’t be double dipping. You can’t be doing honey mustard and barbecue sauce. You can’t do honey mustard and to <inaudible> you gotta make it your mind. You can’t do. Whoa, could you double dip? And you’re going to get in trouble. You will have upset stomach and your woman going to come after you. My God. She made Baba jewelry in Jesus’ name. So you can’t be dumb. All right, I’ve got to go backwards.
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All right. We’ll be back with the B. We’re honored to have coach Porsche. How you doing? Thank you. I’m doing well. Thank you. You are enjoying yourself. I’m having lots of fun. Okay. So we’re talking about not trusting and the multiple phone calls. So how does someone handle, you know, the baby, the baby mama drama. Okay. How do you, how do you help someone? Let me tell you something. That is a very frustrating thing.
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If, if the two women cannot, or I would say if the woman is not a civil woman, civil, that is a defined thing. Like she knows that the man has moved on and knows that he’s going to bring her around the, you know, the children around other, the, the other woman. Is it a hard thing at first to accept? Yes. Because you don’t know people, number one, correct. You know, like my son was very small when I went through that. So he kind of grew up into his situation.
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Right. Was I still a little, eh, who is this person type of thing? Yeah. You feel some type of way. Right. But at some point you have to take your, I would say you have to put aside your prejudices and your, the material person. Huh? I had to put on my big girl panty and say, you know what? You know, I talked to, you know, in my, my case, I talked to the woman and I said, look, my son is going to be here 24 seven.
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Luckily she had a, she had a baby as well. Okay. So my son was the first and then her baby came. So, so she was busy with the two. So it was, it was, you know, it would have been like that. Now was there a threat, like, yes, my son didn’t ask to come into this situation. I was telling them to be better, treat him right, ladies. But we feel like this. Sure. And, and it’s the man’s responsibility to set that precedent on how that woman treats, treats your children.
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So the main is really has to be in charge of that precedence. Like, like don’t get it twisted guy. Okay. So, so really the husband has to say to the baby mama, you are not the queen bee. My wife is what, what are we talking about? We’re talking about the, you’re talking about in a marital. I’m just talking about general because well, for me, I was divorced. So, but, but, but, but, but even, alright, so, alright.
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So let’s take away the marriage. All right. So, so, so the person is dating right now. Doesn’t he has to tell the other baby mama, listen, I moved on, this is my priority. And I can’t make you equal to her that he’s now dating another woman. That’s correct. Yeah. I mean, you know, you have to set the point, we’re all mature. And sometimes, sometimes women and or men don’t want to let go. Sometimes women and our men don’t want to see their children with another person, especially so readily.
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If it’s like, like if it’s too many people that you’re putting the child around, I mean, come on, like, let’s all be responsive. Gotta be men. A lot of times. I see. They’re not that responsible. Yeah. You know, some men are not that responsible. They will quickly. Oh. And women too. I’m not even going to touch on that situation. How women, let men come in and out of their house. Yeah. That’s a whole nother <inaudible> I would say, be responsible when it comes to taking your children so readily around someone else.
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So, so, so, so really if someone, male or female is not ready for you to move on, from my perspective, that’s not the job of the new person to set them straight. That’s a job of no person better go sit down over somebody else’s child, because you might not even be there two or three weeks. Oh, crying. Notice that finger. Yeah. Like, no, it’s the, it’s the parents, it’s the parent’s responsibility to set that precedence on how things should go.
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So I like what you’re saying. Cause this whole nother matter is really that if you have a child, it’s understanding that I must be a parent. Yes, I, I can date, but I must be a parent and I can’t let people move in so quickly into my lap. Cause that will affect the child down the road. Of course, of course. Remember that. You’re not only doing things for the moment, right? You’re also doing things for general, your child’s generation to come. Right. So what you’re showing that child either, it’s going to regurgitate back in your own face or it’s going to regurgitate in your grandchildren or remember that, you know, these energies travel within the seed.
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They do travel. And that’s why, again, if, how about this and, and again, we’re still talking about trust, but really when, usually a sign of, you know, the multiple calls throughout the day or the, you can’t talk to someone opposite sex, it’s usually a sign. You haven’t moved on. Okay. You yourself, have you healed that? That’s something that I needed to do from my divorce. I needed to heal.
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So I could really enjoy the woman that I started dating, who would eventually become my fiance, who I eventually married August 29th. He said, I put that together. But I first had to, I first had to heal. I had to get past that because if I didn’t, but are you really past that? Like, like let’s just go talk about it. Sure. It’s it’s been, it’s been a while. It’s been a couple of years, three years now. So how long would you say it takes? I heard that if you’re with a person, it takes them half the time to get over it.
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I don’t know. I think for a woman, sometimes it can, especially if she has children, but for men, I think men checkout long before they get out of it. A lot of times exactly what is true. And in my perspective, you know what, there were problems before. I mean, way problem before that was trying to be fixed. And by the time I woke up trying to fix it, it was beyond fixing. So, so, so really the divorce happened, but the divorce happened already emotionally, already.
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It already separation already took place dash, correct? That’s correct. I hear that. My, my male friends always, you know, my or, or clients that I see, they, the men normally have checked out long before he would have ever exited the place. Yeah. And also again, is that if I’m consistently letting the person move me and take me somewhere else, even though I’m not with the person, that’s why, from my perspective, when I got my divorce, you know, it was now people may call this very mean, but you know what?
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I didn’t cut off my kids, but everyone else from that family, I don’t talk to. Oh yeah, yeah. I totally moved on. Now. Hear me loud and clear. I, I’m not sure how you’re going this way, but you can talk about it real quickly. Divorcing your kids and divorcing your wife or your friend or your spouse to me is wrong. You don’t divorce your kids, your kids are there for a lifetime. Well, sometimes, well, sometimes it’s because of the woman that can happen masculization down.
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And she uses those kids against the father and that’s pong because she wants to hurt him so bad, you know, give me the money, but you’re not seeing your kids have so much of that. It’s something they’re sickening. It’s so sickening. And these babies need their fathers. Like they need their fathers. I don’t, you know, situations or some situations. So what they are, right. Have it monitored if you don’t, you know, the children still need their parents. They need both parents. They need a male and they need a female.
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And hopefully they have enough love and compassion for the child or the kids. Exactly. For the child that they were rare, that child in a decent manner right now you were hitting on something else. And of course I got sidetracked. So keep going. You just gotta talk. Okay. But I like your point that women and men will use. I know what it was. I’m sorry. The checkout. Maybe we could talk to that. Talk about what does the checkout look like for a man? Because a lot of women don’t know, like some, some women can know that there, some woman could know that they’re doing.
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I will tell you. So, so, so, so when things happened in my first marriage, you know, even though I was living at the church, you know, there was a black shoe, by the way, Oh, you do what you gotta do. You do what you gotta do. So for maybe one to two months, you know, I was still trying to do the husband thing. I can remember. It was, it was one on snowy days and the driveway needed to be snowed up a plowed out.
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And so, because of that tie, that connection went out there midnight. And I plowed till 2:00 AM. Never forget it. My foot almost froze off of everything. But because of that tie, I felt obligated. I felt, he felt that was still your responsibility. Right? That means I haven’t, I hadn’t checked out after that. I checked out real quick because, so, so what about, so what about, so someone said, what is it?
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What is the topic? We are all over the place as usual, but what was the original topic? The topic was trust. You know, the person’s calling you multiple times while you’re out with your friends. Why with your family, why’s that not healthy. And, and that’s not healthy because again, there’s no trust that there was no connection that you really have because really if you fall away from me, you know, you know, you know, you’re not there and I’m still like going through withdrawals.
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That’s a bad sign. You were probably emasculated or that, you know, the person’s probably emasculated. So for a woman, checkout looks like this, shut down the sex. She’s murky making only her half of the bed. She’s only making enough for her to eat. She’s only taking care of the babies. She’s taking your money. And she’s like on with yourself. And at some point, probably when she strong enough, let me tell you something, a woman can undo her life with you. And less than 24 hours, the banking, the check, the checkbooks, the, this, the, the, you make them afraid right now.
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No I’m saying, but a woman, a woman can do that. A woman can undo her life with you and less than 24 hours. Why do you think they could do that better than men? Because they’ve, they’ve planned it out. Okay. They’ve planned it out. So just like you guys check out, she starts a woman, I think shows her checkout. Now for men, I’ve seen women cry and come to me.
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I had no clue. He’s told me he’s been seeing this other woman for a couple of months.
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Isn’t it? I’m like you had no clue. How, like what, what, when did whatever happened? Meaning they’ll say, well, a year ago, that’s when it started. And maybe they’re trying so hard to fix it, that they don’t recognize all my efforts. Sometimes women walk around blind sometime. They’re so like clueless. I think, you know, when a man is into a woman he’s into her, when a woman is into a man. Yes, she does it differently.
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So she could be just doing, doing, doing that’s why some, some ladies just, just sit back and pause for a minute. Like, don’t be so busy doing that. You don’t even see what he’s doing as, as far as his checkout. You know what I mean? Right. Like just pause and set back a little bit. Let him cater to you sometimes. Okay. Again, it’s it again, our initial subject was about dealing with trust, children and trust because again, it’s, and let’s go even, even more deeper.
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Can you trust each other too much to say, you know what?
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It’s over.
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Can I say to the person, you know what, you know what nice ride is not working. I’m not liking you. You not liking me. We’ll fighting all the time. Can I trust you to say that without going off the deep end, as well, mature people talk about it and they can do about it. Right. And there’s a certain part of respect for themselves that, you know, they’re like, I’m not putting myself through all of this anymore. Right. So, all right, go ahead, sir.
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We have a question,
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Several questions. <inaudible>
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Well, what if you have a feeling? What if a part is telling you that there might be cheating? All right.
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We deal with that part. Why does that part feel that that part is cheating because sometimes they are wrong and some, sometimes the other part isn’t present. So if the other part is not present, if the part is present, I throw, I throw all my couples that I have into something. I call the perspectives grid so that they can hear and see the other person’s perspective. And let me tell you something about the grid, there’s energy and all of that. Like, like they, they have one word that they’ll say, I think my spouse is cheating. They’ll go in the cheating grid, man. That weight could be so heavy on that.
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And the other person he’s in his own grid, he or she’s in his own grid. They could, they could understand this person’s perspective. Okay. So, so the point is, do they mold that, do they mull that over or do they talk to their spouse about, you know, we’re talking to each other while I’m coaching them into the conversation, but for those who haven’t made an appointment with you, does that deal all with me? If you feel it? I mean, so you told the women, I would, I mean, for me, I’m gutsy. I mean, I wouldn’t be like, Hey, listen, what’s going on?
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There’s you know, now that I do parts work, I would say, there’s a part of me that really feels like something’s wrong. Like something has shut down. What is it? And hopefully that person will, you know, sometime you don’t want to hear the truth, you know, the truth. You do want to hear the truth. If you really want to know, I would say, don’t go digging because a real man will say, well, yeah, you know, you know? Yeah. They just spit it out. And today, you know, time is too short time to be playing around, trying to hunt this one.
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Now one thing I’m not going to do as a girlfriend, as, as, as my girlfriends girlfriends, or as my guys’ girlfriends, as you know, as a friend is I ain’t going to be hunting your man down for you, tracking up riding, riding around, trying to find him. That’s something, that’s something I’m not going to do so tall. I, you know, communication at that point is everything connection. And sometimes, I mean, something like with my first, with my first person, my mother-in-law told me with my son’s father, that I was married to my mother-in-law.
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She wants to love, she told me kind of indirectly though, I loved you big time. But she told me indirectly, you know, and then it was like, Hm, for a mother to say it, you know? Yeah. And I’m sure she had talked to her son about it, but later as, as adults, right. And we were young, then we sat down over dinner and we talked about this thing. Okay. We talked about what this looked like. We talked about what happened, you know, and some things you don’t want to hear a good thing.
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Sometimes when the men get rolling, he started telling you too much. You’d be like, okay, that’s too much. This is the point. And we’re about to finish a segment and we’ll do one more episode and then we’ll be done. Cause I was hungry. Thank you for joining us. So did you finish that? So from my perspective on that, my respective is that, you know, you should definitely talk to your spouse, not accusing, okay. Don’t say it don’t come out with the finger. Like you saw with Porsche. Did you know that is not going to work because you could be very wrong.
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So, so really is that, you know what? You come out of it in the sense of a sweetheart, I feel something is happening. Let’s talk about it. What’s going on? You know what? That’ll probably be our next segment. We’re talking about, you know, what, there’s something going on between us that we need to talk about. And in not talking, we can also find a solution. All right. People a until next time. Thanks for joining us. COVID thank you so much. And until next time,
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