Transcript of Positive and Negative of Cell Phones
Transcript of Positive and Negative of Cell Phones
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Welcome to Real. Raw With Dr B this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthened their relationship with God themselves and each other. With 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw With Dr B.
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Goodness,
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This is doctor B Real Raw With Dr. B where we’re talking about relationships, uh, between, uh, yourself God and Others, uh, I believe that, uh, you know, we’ve had a lot of preaching. We have had a lot of teaching. We need counseling. Uh, the Bible said that Jesus is a wonderful what counselor. So the day subject
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Is the phone
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Just simple. The foam. She didn’t know how many fights
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The phone causes
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And how many divorces The phone causes. I mean, between couples, why is a simple phone that is not worth your relationship causing so much disorder or I’ll tell you why? Because people don’t understand when you become, uh, an intimate or, uh, exclusive relationship. Uh, there are no secrets.
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Okay. Uh, I wrote a book called, uh, real men. Don’t have what closets see when you’re using the phone. If anything of the phone should be used to reinforce
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The love.
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Okay. The Phones should be used to reinforce the phone should be used to be more accountable. The phone should be used to, to show the connection without that connection, without that connection, without that connection, uh, then that’s when a couple stopped going. What downhill? So again, let’s use a phone to reinforce. Okay. Let’s use the phone to have good reminders. All right. So again, how can the phone help? It could be help with accountability.
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Okay. And again, I say it again to reinforce.
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Okay.
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Now, now accountability is very important to me. All right? Because when you are not accountable as a spouse, you’re opening the door for the enemy to come and step in. I say one more time. Every time you are not accountable with each other, you are allowing the enemy to come in and cause habit on your marriage. I will say that again. When you are not, when you don’t know where she’s at, she and she don’t know where you at that’s causing problems. People. Cause you’re not being accountable.
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And when you’re not accountable, then that’s where, uh, one of the persons, uh, either the huddle and the wife, uh, may start doing their imaginary friend. Boy, I’m having fun today. Alright. Uh, the imaginary friend starts to talk to your spouse. How come you didn’t call? Where’s he at? Oh, maybe you don’t love me. Maybe he talking to her.
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I know I didn’t like Suzy Q I know honey bun is probably given your imaginary friends off the top. And so that’s why the phone should be used to, uh, to encourage, to enhance, uh, the connection between husband and wife, between boyfriend and girlfriend. Why? Because I’m trying to be accountable to you and it goes both ways. Here I go again. Okay. Now, now, now EAP.
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Here I go. Why sir? Why ma’am are you sleeping with the phone? You hugged the phone money, hugged your wife at night. You know, you, you make sure you get a pajamas that has a pocket to it. Why are you doing that? Uh, you go to bed and the phone’s in your hand while your doing that, see that suspect.
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That means you’re hiding something or your wife, your husband should be, look at your phone. Anytime. Any place anywhere? Why are you hugging the phone? Oh, Oh my phone. Oh, you talking to the phone call you T. You’re making love to the foam or you make love to your wife will make love to your husband. Whoa. Y’all don’t like me now, ladies, I will come and get you right now. I’m a come and get y’all.
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Oh, Oh. You’re not going to talk about the man. And he will sleep with the phone. You don’t want to talk about the man sleeping the phone or you wrong because some of you ladies, you always on your phone doing what? Social media, Facebook, you watching your TV. You, you do your husband’s home.
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And you’re like, ah, the food’s in the kitchen. Uh, yeah. I love you. You’re wrong. Or do you want to be that curve? Do your lady, the other is that curve ball? There’s your girls. Yeah, I got ya. The phone with the subject matter is simply the phone. Yeah. You’d be surprised how people are using the phone to hurt versus using the phone to love.
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Okay. Men, how many of you on a daily basis send something nice to your wife via phone? Or do you know how many arguments about the phone? So let me ask you, what’s the ratio. What’s the ratio. Am I talking to somebody? What’s the ratio between the argument and love? What’s the ratio. What’s the ratio between you showing love, uh, and indicating love to your wife, to your husband versus your argument.
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What’s the ratio we can hear you. Yeah. And I’m telling you right now, if it’s one for one that’s worse. Well, sometime I’m fussing him out. Sometime I curse her out. And sometimes no, you do not use a phone to argue. That’s that’s something I teach my couples and marriage counseling. You do not use a phone
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To argue.
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You don’t do that. People you don’t use the phone to argue. You don’t use a phone to destroy. I mean, that is so, uh, uh, an uh, an affectionate. Okay? All your words are in caps And you’re arguing, you’re yelling, you’re screaming via the phone. That is not systemic to get relationship. Alright. Bebo will be back with round.
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The Bible says that any man that loves his wife loves himself. So it’s in that vein that Dr, B wrote the book, successful marriages for successful men, giving guys the tools on marriage that he was never taught. I tell you that my ignorance, uh, in my first marriage was definitely Sean and I learned the hard way. And that’s one of the reasons why I write so many books on relationships because no one taught me. And I learned the hard way. And it is my heart to help men, especially not learn the hard way purchases of this book and all of dr.
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B’s nationally published books can be made at the bookstore at Dr. T see brantley.com. They can also be bought on Amazon as well as Barnes and noble.com. Now here’s more of your virtual relationship counselor.
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This is more of Dr B we’re back. People were talking about the phone. Yeah, you got 18. T Verizon, uh, Metro. You got your phone, but your phone is causing
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Issues.
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Alright. Alright. Alright. We talked about you going to bed with your phone. Okay. We talked about how, uh, you on social media with your phone. Okay. These things are not the narrative of a happy couple. Okay. And then again, we talked about how your, your fighting over the phone. Okay. You can’t be fighting over someone, help me understand. Why does a married person have Snapchat?
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Why, why,
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You know, you know these different apps on the phone, or don’t let me today, these different apps on the phone that you use, you can talk to somebody else. Raw wrong. Again, these Phones should you,
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Uh,
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This Phones should be used to help. Uh, there’s a, uh, there’s an app, uh, that, uh, you can get as, as a sex toy, uh, for your wife. Now that’s a good app. That’s a good app. Okay. I don’t know how it works, but that’s a good app. Okay. But if you’re using the app to have an affair And you’re, you’re using the app to, to, to, to hide secrets, that’s not good.
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Okay. Your wife now, now, now your spouse, your significant other, all right. I’ll put it this way. Okay? Your significant other, you hear me loud and clear your significant other should always have the right. Alright. The right.
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Do you use that phone
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Now? I tell couples. You first what? Asked? Huh? You first ask. And the answer will always be what? Yes. The symbol. Well, I just don’t know. No, no, no. I don’t believe in snatching Phones Lord Jesus. Well that no, no, no, no, no. Don’t be sorry. I had a flashback of a couple that came in. No, you don’t snatch the phone from your husband. Don’t stay with them from when your wife, that’s not going to help anything.
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That’s not going to bring about a resolution of anything at all. It’s not going to help. It’s not going to bring a resolve. If anything is going to cause more pain in relationships, it’s going to cause more issues or relationship. So you always ask your spouse. Can I see your phone? Can look your phone, get on, use your phone. Okay. And then if you’re not doing anything wrong, then guess what? Yeah. If your doing something wrong, ah, now you got reservations.
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Well, your reservation must mean you’re doing something wrong. So let’s talk about the positive things you can do with your phone. Uh, again, I talked about sending Cyndi notes to your spouse, all your significant other, okay. Sending notes, Sending a note, you know, reminded them of how much you love them and how much you are dedicated and how much you affirmed them. Uh, the, the, those top of things, uh, can be done.
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Uh, some, you know, someone can use Phones okay. How do I go? How will be? If people have an affairs can send central pitches to one another. If people having affairs can use the phone to send central pictures and send central Texas to one another, how come marry couples gets you? The same thing. I wish somebody gave me an amen somewhere out there, praise God.
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<inaudible> listen. Used the phone to clarify used the phone to show your love, send the pictures, send the power for Texas. Send the accountability. That’s where you can use the phone to help. That’s where you can use the phone. Why? Because of the phone while you are away is an extension of your connection. Ooh, that’s good. The phone is an extension of your, what connection.
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It is a extension. It is an extension of what you are trying to continue to do with your spouse. It is an extension. I’m trying to tell you how much I love you. I’m trying to tell you how much I need you. A how you are special to me. You know, this is, this is a forgotten thing, but, uh, you know, back in the day, you know, men used to send their loved ones and the widest and loved ones poems.
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Right? Well, uh, I can’t do a poem. Google, Google, my brother, Google my sister. Well, I don’t know what to say. Google. There are so many, uh, romantic sites out there. Well, I’m not romantic. Google you Google. How to change your tires, digging you. Google will be more romantic, Google out. Use your candles. I mean, it’s surprising to me how many people will give excuses to not use the phone in a valuable way.
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Okay. That’s how you grow as a couple. That’s how you, you, you, you do special things with each other. You do that because you grow. Okay. And that’s why many couples don’t do well because they’re not growing. They’re not, they’re not prospering in their relationships. Why? Because their using the phone and then forgetting again, the phone again. Or I write a book using the phone is a what
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Extension
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It is an extension of your love is your extension of your faithfulness. Okay? It is an extension. That’s why With most couples. I tell them as much as possible, Uh, use FaceTime. That’s the Apple Or, or for the people that have Android, Marco polo, Marco polo, very powerful.
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Uh, my fiance, my fiance got me into this. Our Marco polo is where you can use. Uh, you can leave video chats to your spouse. Wow. See again, we have, uh, used the phone to hurt. We have used the phone to, uh, to bring down a spouse. No used the phone to solidify your love, used the phone to tell your spouse how much you love them, how much you need them.
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Used the phone for that. You know, don’t let ladies, Oh boy, don’t use the phone just for right. I need you to pick us up, pick up some nail and uh, uh, go by olive garden and pick the day he B. Don’t like put that one ladies. Can I help you out?
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No, I’m going
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Ladies used the phone to tell your husband. Now when you get home, no Lord have mercy. That brother go to break some records, Texas, baby. When you get home, I’m a have your favorite dinner and your favorite drink. And then when you get home, I’m going to have my favorite lingerie on for you. My goodness. That’s what I’m talking about. You’re using the phone for good.
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All right.
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Okay. You will get some water. I’ll be back Real Raw With Dr B is brought to you by the total relationship trainer, a ministry of restoration Springs into denominational church. Hosea four six says our people for a lack of knowledge to that end, dr. B has written 24 nationally published books on relationships, intimacy and theology. You can check out his library at Dr. T see brantley.com backslash bookstore.
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This is doctor B again. And when I give a shout out to my executive producer, uh, minister Henry, B the enemy. We think our farm, his lovely wife, executive producer, uh, executive secretary, Danny, ah, for the behind the scenes they do for my Podcast. God bless you. God bless you. God bless you all glory to God. And, uh, you know, this is just helping. This is my heart people. Uh, I did not know, uh, the right things to do with my first marriage made a lot of mistakes. And by the time I woke up, the damage was done.
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And so my thing is that, you know what? I tried to fix it couldn’t be fixed. So my job was not to be better, but to be better and not just being better for myself individually, but being better, uh, for people out there who will listen to him. So he talking about the phone now I’ve saved the best or the last, okay. Passwords. Yeah. Passwords a brother.
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Does your wife know your password? Her sister. Does your husband know your password? Boyfriend, girlfriend? Who was collusive? You don’t know each other? The password now here’s my logic is very simple logic. Uh, you know when couples are intimate, uh, there are no secrets. Hey, your clothes off. I don’t hear nobody. So if you are totally vulnerable and exposed, yeah, you are exposed then why are you not exposed?
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Oh, Oh, EAP. Oh, Oh, EAP. Okay. Some of y’all are so deep. Not only do you not have your passwords to each other EAP, they ain’t ready for this. Not only, not only do you are not showing each other’s password, you got duplicate Phones
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Yes.
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You got Phones and
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Your wife think you only got one. That’s the problem.
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So you got to Phones you to think. So when you got one, we got to Phones four, unless she knows you got to Phones. Well, you know that in the B I got this business. Well, you actually know that business and your, your husband should know that business. Oh, so you got to Phones the one, you keep it a cop. You see to deceit furnace with that. You see the guy with that. Well, because see, see your slip, your thinking your slip.
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Because for record the phone bill cup With the whole mill comes, he shows all the numbers. It shows all, and it shows every single number. You dial, you text shows every single one of them had your wife like what’s this. So, because you don’t want to be questioned. Let me get a separate phone that you don’t know about. C that causes a problem.
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So y’all they expect me to go there. Did y’all see this Phones thing called log problem. This Phones thing causes a lot of problems. Can I go deeper? I, well, The EPD ain’t ready for this EPD. Ain’t ready for this. Alright, so, and your phone, sir. How many pictures? Y’all y’all ain’t ready for this. I picked you up your wife and your family, the phone and the pictures.
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And you got more women that in their morning or your wife? I gotta follow the law. That yes I do. Yes. The wife, if you got both men and your phone and your husband is five foot, four, 200 pounds, uh, something wrong with that. Why? Because again, using the phone to destroy. When my fiance looks at my phone, they’re more pictures of her than anybody else have my kids in there.
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I have other photos in there, but there ain’t no strange women in my phone or I’m teaching somebody. They know strange, man. Come on guys. Why is it a strange woman in your phone? I’m teaching somebody, blah, blah, blah, wife. Was it a strange man in your phone? Well, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I don’t want to hear it. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I’m talking about how people have used the phone. You probably have never heard this Podcast before about how Dell your phone can be.
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And I, and again, I gave you the Positive and also the word, the negatives, right? Because again, you can use the phone to, okay, you can use a phone to destroy someone that really loves you. Okay. You can use the phone to tear down someone that says, you know what? I really love you. Do you know how, uh, mind boggling it is to be in love with your spouse, give all to your spouse, I’m talking to somebody and then you pick up the phone and you see something that just like an arrow to your heart, a text from another person.
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And it’s an inappropriate texts, very inappropriate texts in the text. Uh, you know, your spouse sees you saying things you ain’t never said to them. Wow. Do you know how gripping that is that you using and your texting, calling, uh, things? Well, you know, uh, my daughter, uh, angle be here at 5:00 PM, come over the 5:00 PM.
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You know how gripping it is for a wife to see that for a man that I thought loved me, or man, I thought that was in tuned with me. And now you’re doing this to me. You know how difficult that is? No. How horrible that is. I’m just trying to tell you people, that’s the issue. You cannot allow the phone to divide you. You must allow the phone to, uh, bring you closer together.
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Not separate. I don’t have with somebody right now. <inaudible> again, if you have made that phone so powerful that you can not love, you cannot hug. You cannot show affection. You’re doing something wrong in your relationship. You’re not growing your relationship. Okay? You’re not going to the next level and your relationship because you’re using the phone to destroy. That phone is not used for the destruction. That phone is used to recapitulate your love and your desire for your mate.
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For that person that you said, I want to be in love with Russia. My life. That’s what the phone is for. But so one more thing. Could you go y’all wouldn’t expect the NIS. You ever this one? No. How many Phones have died in an argument? No, the phone said the old Lord. I got the rap sheet from this person. This is the fifth.
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This is the fifth. This is the fifth phone. And in six months, that’s the person has called to purchase because the last four or five, they destroyed it. They have thrown the phone. Yeah. Throw the phone out the window, throwing the phone in the river. Uh, listen, people. I’m trying to make lot of this, but it’s true.
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I mean, you’ve gone through six Phones in two months. Something’s wrong. Something’s wrong. Or something’s terribly wrong. And really last point. I’m not, I’m not sure how much time I have EAP, but <inaudible>, I’m telling you, you know what? The phone is really a mirror of your emotions. Okay. I’ll go deeper. Your phone is your twin sister or your twin because of what you do on that phone, Real represents you.
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You, you, Bob never heard that before. Yeah. Your phone is your twin. Every one of us have a twin. If you have a phone, you have a twin. That phone represents who you are and what you are, what you do. So hopefully I helped you to think differently about your phone, okay. To think differently, how you should do things in your life. Okay? Because when you look at things differently, you see things what differently. Okay. But it’s really understanding that your phone is your twin and you are going off and you destroying people and destroying lives because things aren’t riding in your life.
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