Transcript of Trauma Podcast Episode

Transcript of Trauma Podcast Episode:

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Welcome to Real. Raw with Dr B this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthen their relationship with God themselves and each other. With 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw With Dr B Oh my goodness.

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Dr. B where we’re keeping it real. And we keeping it Raw and telling you things that you may be going through and questions you may have happened, happened in your life. And you’re trying to figure them out. Uh, this is the Podcast you must listen to, um, I’m not coming as a preacher. I’m not coming as a teacher. I’m coming as a counselor. Uh, you know, the Bible says my people die for a lack of what knowledge and we want to make sure that after every Podcast, after every time you hear us, uh, you get a blessing.

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You see the, uh, light more clearer in your life. Cause understand that when you don’t see the light, you will most likely to bump into the dark. So, uh, today’s topic. We’re going to talk about our Trauma. Yeah. Uh, no, I’m, uh, I’m not the greatest speller, so this may be going out. I got basketball. And so just deal with it. Uh Trauma is something that, uh, we all deal with, uh, to some, uh, to some perspective, uh, some is small.

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Some is big, but, uh, it, it, it affects. Okay. And so Trauma affects us. Okay. Whether it was emotional trauma, whether it was sexual trauma, it affects us. And if we’re not careful, we’ll bring that effect into our relationships. Uh, so let’s go, uh <inaudible> um, uh, chapter 18 and verse 14 and 1814.

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Yes. Uh huh. It says low now low. If he been got a sun and all of these duties or gay, I’m sorry. Oh, you got a son that see all his father’s sins, which he has done and consider it and does not such like, so in other words, your father did some things, your mother did some things that you saw and you have to make a decision that the good and the bad, I got to make sure that the good does not stay. I mean, the bad does not stay. Why?

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Because the Trauma will induce drama. Okay. Do you see what I said? Okay. That if you have Trauma, you’re going to have drama and you’re going to affect the people around you. Now this is something that some church people don’t want to, you know, want to listen to. Oh, I’ve been, and I’ve been delivered and I’m all right. I just took it to the altar. You know what I believe in that. And I know that, but there was a work that there was a work that still must be done to get that Trauma out of you wives, because when you don’t get the trauma out of you, it continually, uh, it will continue to repeat.

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And when you repeat it, all right, when you repeat the Trauma okay. When you repeat that, Trauma what it does. It affects people around you. A lot of people don’t know that many people, God forbid who, who do child abuse. They will abuse themselves as a child. I will say that again, many people who, who are, who God forbid are pedophiles and who grew up and abused children, they were high likely abused themselves.

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Why? Because of Trauma you see the Trauma it induced drama. And so the drama is now being played out in your family is being played out and your marriage is being played out on a regular basis. So, so it’s going to play out. Okay. It’s going to play out. Okay. Not bad for talking and writing at the same time. All right. All right. It’s going to play out. Why? Because people around you who love you are attracted to you, but not are attracted to your drama. I will say that again, the people around you, they are attracted to you, but they hate your drama.

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So what you have to do, what I have to do on a regular basis, I got to go back to what was the Trauma? What was it that steered me in that bad direction? Uh, I tell, uh, uh, my counselees at times is that you gotta go back to the origin. What was the origin? What started this whole process? What was the Genesis or the origin? Okay. Okay. I gotta go back to the origin. Okay.

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I got to go back to where it happened. Praise God, where it happened now. Yes. The Bible says that when I was a child speaking as a child and when I became a man, I pulled with childish ways. Yes. Go. Totally understand that. That’s totally the word of God, but understand the enemy will come back on different seasons. Okay. This is very good. He’ll come back different seasons. Okay? Okay. He’ll come back on different seasons and bring back the Trauma you’re young.

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You will have you see somebody or have you, uh, you know, a TV show or a color and it will trigger you into the drama that was created by the drama. Oh, okay. The drama that created by the Trauma. Why? Because this thing just perpetuates and perpetuates. And then what a lot of people do wrongly. Okay. Are you guys hear me? Well, a lot of people do wrongly. They want to deny. All right. Okay.

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They want to deny it happened. They want to deny that it wasn’t there. I’m telling you it happened. It hurt. Okay. Listen. Okay. So some Christians or people don’t like being Real okay. If I take a knife and I won’t do it, but if I take a knife and plucked you with it, you’re going to say ouch. Okay. You you’re going to show some type of reaction to what I put into your life.

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Well, for the Trauma to be dealt with, I gotta be Real. I gotta come up to the point to say, you know what? This actually happened. Okay. Now, now I, at the same time though, we want, we do not wanna stay with the V word, a victim. We do not want to stay a victim. We don’t want to stay in that place. So this is why we’ve got to come to this point. We got to come to this point and say, you know what? I understand something occurred in my life.

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There was a transition. There was a change. There was a moving. There was listen. When you ever earthquake things are not the same. Oh, that’s that’s good teaching right there. When there is an emotional earthquake, when there is an emotional earthquake or great earthquake. Okay. When there’s an earthquake, there is a, what? Come on. There is a change. Okay. Okay. You know, when there is an earthquake, when there is a shift, there is a change, right?

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Yes. You are supposed to rebuild. Yes. That’s very important. But here’s the problem. A lot of people don’t even recognize there was an earthquake. So if you don’t recognize it as an earthquake, you’re not going to start what? Rebuilding? Sorry. This is good teaching today. All right. Okay. You’re not going to do the best I can. All right, Facebook. Okay. You’re not going to rebuild. Why? Cause you’re not recognizing there was an earthquake. There was a shift. Uh, you were adopted and you didn’t find out until you were 20.

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Uh, you were sexually abused, but this is the kit. You, until you, your thirties, I don’t hear nobody that does all these earth, emotional earthquakes. They shake you. And they will cause a change now. Yes, sir. The Bible says Romans eight, 28, all things work together for good. Is that true? That is absolutely true. All right. But again, the change, all things work together. That means the pain. That means the Trauma. That means the ups. That means the down, it works together.

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But here mean for us to recognize that it’s going to work together. I must first recognize the issue. All right. I must recognize. All right. I must recognize something happened. So as I recognize it, and then I give it to God, then God starts to put the pieces together. That’s how you heal from the Trauma. And again, you gotta heal from the Trauma cause the Trauma will produce drama.

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It will continue on that facet. It will continue that grace. And then you’ll find yourself in a very bad wet will come back. Uh, with segment number two,

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People were back in, With talking about the Trauma With talking about the pain that is there. We’re not talking about it so you can keep it there. But we talking about, because we’re trying to get us and get you to the point. They know what God, let me start dealing, start dealing with this. Trauma uh, one thing that causes trauma that people don’t understand scar rejection, uh, Genesis 18 and 11 talks about rejection.

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So now Abraham and Sarah were old and well stricken in age and it ceased to be with Sarah after the manner of women. So here we see that Sarah is feeling some type of way. Are they saying the world? Uh, because of, you know, she doesn’t have a child yet. You know that nothing’s happening. Now. Those are know the Bible stop, uh, the Bible, you know what happened that Sarah gave a handbag to Abraham and Abraham went under her nose.

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Abraham didn’t say no. Okay. That was a revelation right there. Okay. Say, no one says, Hey, you can have, uh, my handmade and I will see Abraham and say, Hey, you know what? Dang, dang. God’s will. He just said yes, dear. That’s funny to me. All right. So he went in, but she didn’t have what she wanted. There was a spirit of rejection. Okay. That spirit of rejection. Now I want to tell you that in all of this Trauma now hear me loud and clear when there is Trauma spirits can be assigned.

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Okay? Yeah. When you have that of a trauma in your life and I’m using the example of a rejection or a certain pain in your life, a spirit can be attached to you. Not pleasing me loud and clear. And when that spirit is attached to you, it don’t want to let you go. It wants you to stay in that place. It wants you to stay in that pain. Why? Because when you’re in that pain, it’ll keep you there. All right. All right.

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It will keep you in that bad place on a regular basis. And then you one of my, well, why can I get out of this? You know, what’s my problem. The problem is that that particular trauma that you went through, that demonic spirit. Okay. Are you hearing me, was attached to you and now is don’t want to let you go. Uh, Ephesians six, verse 12. It says for, we wrestle, not against flesh and blood and you’ll see this. All right, but against principalities, against powers against rulers of darkness of this world against spiritual, what?

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Wickedness. All right. So that spiritual wickedness, if you’re not careful can become an anchor. Okay. It would become an anchor to the pain, to the Trauma. That’s why, uh, uh, some of you have Jess and I, and I’m kidding. We’re spirit up here. Right? Some you have just attached yourself to the Trauma. You have made it your life. Okay. You have attached. Okay. You attached yourself. Okay. You attached yourself to it. You have majors of, alright, this is who I am.

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And then when your husband does something or your wife does something, you go off, you spew off and then you know what? You all come and everyone around you With, you know why? Because the Trauma had a spirit attached to it. Please hear me. I’m not talking about something. Got red. I’m talking about something in my own personal life. Okay. There, all of us are dealing with something that we’re not careful with. That spirit that came to us from the Trauma will rise up. That’s why you got to keep things in check.

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You have to understand that I cannot let this issue. This trauma in my life, overtake me to the point that now I’m having drama. People can’t talk to me. People don’t know how to relate to me because I’m in one of my days. No, you’re in your place of trauma. And that trauma is causing all of the fragments here. Me that’s real good day. All right. It’s calling all the fragment of that issue to affect Others all right.

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And so here you are okay with all these fragments. All right. So this is where God comes with it. This is where Christ comes to place. He takes those fragments. You give it to them. And now Romans eight, 28 works. Okay. Does that make sense to y’all all right. That makes sense to me one more time. B so here are all your fragments or here’s all the pain that you dealt with in your life and all these fragments, the divorce, uh, the abortion, uh, the rejection, you know, the, the incident and of that. Okay. Here’s all those things in your place, right?

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And so what God does, he brings those fragments together with his love, with his grace, with his long suffering, he puts those things together to help you become whole, you understand that’s how God works. He takes out issues. He takes out pain. He takes out this occur. I will discourage me. He takes a thing that we don’t like. He takes the fragments. All right. And he helps us. But understand that if I don’t give God the fragments of, I don’t give God the pain.

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Yup. Daddy go, the spirit will, those spirits will come against you. They will place you in that place. And they don’t want to move. People hear me loud and clear. They don’t want to move. That’s why, uh, uh, uh, I’m understanding that in these last days, the, you know, a lot of people are being influenced by demonic spirits. They being, are they being influenced and you not wash his hair. You cannot to the Trauma watch this. Now. Now Trauma is a door.

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Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Trauma is a door. Alright. So behind that door is your Trauma. Okay. Watch me. All right. So behind your door is a Trauma. So your job, my job is, is not to what? There you go. Oh, your or your good class today? Not to open that door. Okay. Not to open that door that the Trauma is at. Does that make sense to you? I hope I did. Your job is to all right. God I know there’s issues.

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I know there’s pain in my life. Okay. We got that. So your job is that I cannot open that door because I opened the door to the Trauma. When I opened the door to the Trauma watch this game. When I open the door to our Trauma, you will see what I’m trying to say. When you open the door to the Trauma, then that’s when all that baggage comes into your life. Does that make sense to somebody I will get, I’m trying to help you to, to, to, to understand there is a flow that there is a flow.

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Okay. There is a flow that goes with it. There is a flow that there is a mentality that goes with it and we all have it. All right. Uh, we get some bad news or we did this happen to happen. And so all of a sudden our brain goes to a flow automatically. Okay. Okay. See, that’s what I’m trying to help you guys in the counseling. Okay. Our brain. Okay. Okay. Our brain is nothing but really memories.

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All right. A lot of memories there. Right. And so when, so when you feel something or you experienced something, you automatically flow through that your, your body flow. That’s why somebody will say, well, I didn’t know. I did that. Yep. You did it. Why? Because you opened the door up to the Trauma and then your brain just went through the process. All right. Why your mother was a loud mouth. Your father, did I say that? Yeah, I did. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yep. Your mother was erratic. Your mother was bipolar.

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And so guess what? One thing happens and you open that door and you go right there. So how do you stop that? Understand the doors, understand the triggers. If you don’t understand the triggers, if you don’t understand the doors, you’re opening the door every single time. And by doing that, you’re going to affect people around your art. People will come back with part three

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Today. Uh, I know some of you are used to, uh, preaching some of you, your teaching I’m in counseling. Okay. Because again, uh, you know, I’m on people die for lack of what knowledge, right? And again, we’re talking about how the Trauma will induce drama. Okay? The, the, the, the, the, the, the things that you are In, if you’re not careful, uh, it’s kinda like a leash. I was probably spelling that wrong. Uh, Oh, okay.

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But a leash is as for a dollar. Okay. Why? Cause the dog can go out and do something stupid. Okay. The dark and gloomy bite somebody. Well, that’s a good teacher right there. Right? The dog would buy Doosan on somebody’s lawn. Can you know what I’m talking about? The dog Bay, you know, chase somebody or even worse. Right? The dog goals. Doesn’t stuff runs after car and gets hit. Okay. So there’s a reason. Oh, this is a good teacher here. That there’s a reason why you need a leash on that dog.

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Right. Because I need to keep that dog under what? What’s the C word control. Okay. I need to keep the dog under control. Well, guess what? Uh, Oh, y’all don’t like me now. Don’t let me not yet. We gotta keep the Trauma on the control. Why? Because God does not erase the memory per se. Okay. It’s always going to be there again. I’m talking from my own personal views.

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I write it. It’s going to be some semblance of some point of that Trauma in you. And your job is by God’s grace and God’s God’s power. And so good counseling. I gotta control this. Okay. I got to control the Trauma because of, I don’t control the drama or the Trauma guess what? The drama, the Trauma will control what will control me. And that’s what so many people right now, this, sometimes in the church world, they are so erratic that they did that.

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They did that here today. The lady, you know, ain’t no, man, I’m gonna say something. I’m gonna say something right now. I’m saying something right now. Okay. It doesn’t matter what you do in church and what you do behind closed doors. Okay. And especially what you do with people who around you. Okay? If every time you in church and when I know it’s COVID-19 now, but every time he in your car, whatever it may be, you know? And every time, uh, you know, they hear you testify and your kid’s hang your head down. Yeah. That tells me something.

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Yeah. In front of everybody. You’re the preacher. Yeah. Everybody, you know, you know, you all nice and kind, but behind closed doors, you are a tarantula. You are Raptors. Come on. Somebody. You, you, you destroy everybody. Why? Because you don’t have the Trauma under control. You don’t have it under control. I believe Paul prayed three times.

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Didn’t he? He said, Lord, take this issue away from me. God, take this program. And God said, my grace is what sufficient. So in other words, what God was trying to tell Paul, listen here, I know you got issues right now, but I’m, but I’m walking with you. Praise God. I am going to be your God. I’m going to be your direction. Right. But you cannot allow, you cannot allow the Trauma to walk. You. You cannot allow the Trauma. Are you hearing me? You cannot allow the Trauma to control you because it will control you and watch this.

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So the DNA of a Trauma is what? Pain, right? Rejection. All right. I mean, the list goes on hurt.

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Okay.

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Trauma does a lot of things. So I says, if I don’t put Trauma in, check my pain in check, then everyone I’m around. Guess what I’m gonna do to them? Yep. Pain rejection hurt. I’m gonna keep it going. Why? Because the Trauma is there. The Trauma is yes, it’s there, but I gotta keep that bad boy. And I gotta keep that bad girl in check because it will go. Now. Now I know this is very controversial.

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Why? I don’t believe that a Christian should take drugs for the emotions. Listen, listen, listen, listen to me loud and clear. Alright. If something is, if there’s a chemical imbalance in your head again, we talked about the earthquake earlier. There’s a chemical imbalance or there’s something going on that you need help. Okay. That doesn’t take away. That will take away from God. Alright. Those Alyssa, those. See me on YouTube right now or YouTube or Facebook? I have glasses. Okay.

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I’m 55 years old. I have glasses, right? Because my eyesight is not as great as it was when I was younger. Alright. This doesn’t take away my walk with God. Okay? Thank God. Well, your glasses knew about this. He glasses. You don’t want to be robbing when I’m driving. You don’t want to be a woman around me when I’m driving, because I need these glasses or I need my contacts. So I’m using, you know, the, the blessing that God has given man to help me live better. So if things are not working correctly and you find your listen,

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Listen, listen, listen, listen. Alright. Alright.

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How long you gonna keep hurting people that love you.

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Okay. I’m sorry. I hurt and love. Okay. Yep. The opposite people. Okay. Okay.

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Okay. I can’t say I love you and I hurt you, but it doesn’t work. I can’t say I love you and I hurt you. No, no. I gotta make up my mind. No, I’m not going to do that. I’m not going to put that in your life. Okay. So, so this Trauma is, watch this here. Okay. Trauma is so powerful. Okay. Trauma is so powerful and not only hurts you.

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It hurts what hurts Others

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I don’t see that. It, it, it doesn’t just affect you. It affects others. And those around you. So here you are going through life, like a, a bull in a China, uh, uh, uh, China place and, and destroying everything around you. Yes. You believe in God. Yes. You confession Christ. But you mean, did I say that? I was say again, and your main, your honoree honoring your, your, uh, your honor. You, you jacked up and then you, life is fine.

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No life is not going to be fine. If you don’t put that, Trauma in check. Cause you’re hurting people now. Here’s here’s my last point. This is my last point. All right. The Trauma not In check. You know what happens? You pass it

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To the kids. Ah Hmm.

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Yeah. You’re passing on your kid. Why? Because something happened with your parents that they pass that, that, that issue to you. So if you’re not putting in check, am I making sense? If you’re not putting it in the right place, now your children are going to continue. That will have their grandchildren. So it’s Meghan in your mind, listen, I have to stop this. Trauma I have to stop this pain in my life. Cause if I don’t, I’m going to continue to perpetuate what I’m dealing with and you know what, there’s something about saying, you know what I have to recognize.

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Okay. That’s the key thing to dealing with. Trauma okay. I got to recognize,

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Okay.

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I know I wrote the word again about, I write again. I have to recognize the issue. Okay. I have to recognize the problem. I have to recognize it. You know, you know, people are funny, you know, uh, they want to judge, but they don’t wanna do any self examination. Okay. The way life works is that you work on yourself first. All right. Let me find out what is causing me to be so irrational. Oh, y’all don’t like that word did y’all well, what’s causing me to not step up and do more.

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That God’s called me to do. Okay. I have to come to the point of this Trauma and yet some of the Trauma was done in the church. Okay. Some of your trauma was not done at home. I mean, your father, mother were the best parents, but they will fooled by the pastor. Will they will fool by the prophetess or they were fooled by the Bishop or they were fooled by a deacon. They were fooled by missionary and you were abused. And some of you are carrying this pain.

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You in your fifties, I’m talking to somebody right now. You’re in your fifties and you are still carrying the pain. It’s time to release that pain. It’s time to name that. Trauma okay. You have to name it. Okay. You got to call it out.

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Alright.

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If you remember, uh, with Jesus every time Jesus cast out the devil, he says, what’s your name? What is your name? Okay. In other words, what is your Trauma call it out. Or I’m going to talk to somebody right now. You got to call out what that person did to you. Call out what that preacher would that missionary call it out because by you calling it out, now you’re going to know the level. Okay. Now you’re going into another. Now you’re going to another level.

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Okay. Now, and you’re not going to stay in that bad place. Okay. You’re not going to stay at Y cause now you’re moving to a place where you’re not going to be there no more. Okay. Again, you’re moving from the Trauma. Okay. You’re moving from it. All right. Because again, the trauma is going to continue to recreate the, what, the drama and those around you are not going to be blessed at all. I hope you enjoy today’s broadcast. I Podcast. Uh With uh, Dr B uh, my website is www Dr T C brantley.com or a ww.raw.org.

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God has blessed me to write over 24 nationally published books. Uh, and my subject matter is on intimacy, um, relationships in theology and apparently, uh, um, to Raw for some people, but I’m not going to stop. Why? Because people need to hear this message. People need to hear, uh, how they can come out of their pain, uh, because ignoring the pain doesn’t mean the pain is going to stop. So until next time until the next Podcast God B

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